Will someone please talk me down from believing that I'm a hateable, unloveable person?

[Writer]

I know consciously that I'm not, but my feelings (paranoia) are telling me otherwise.

Geesh!

[lightningandsnow]

1. You are quite lovely.

:hug:

[Rising Phoenix]

2. love you

[greenbriar]

3. you are a great person

you know that

[Danger Mouse]

That's not even remotely close to being true.

You're awesome. :hug:

[Aristus]

4. You are a loveable, admirable person.

How can you be so stupid to not know that? :P

[petronius]

5. Talk you down? How'd you get up there in the first place?

:shrug:

(Seriously, you're an unhateable, loveable person...)

[Madrone]

6. Your inner demons are messing with your mind.

Your mind and your self-perception filter. You are a whole lotta awesome - in many ways. Don't believe your inner (negative) Nancy - she lies.

:hug:

You are intelligent and beautiful, kind and wise. You could be doing a lot worse.

[Writer]

7. Thanks, everyone. I really appreciate the good thoughts.

If you happen to be a Facebook friend of mine, I'll bet you can see - from time to time - why self-doubt appears periodically. I was relatively unlucky with who my relatives are, and that is something I work past day after day after day.

[Flaxbee]

8. don't go there. You seem to be an exceptionally smart person, but

you need a little discipline when it comes to negative thoughts, anxiety and paranoia.

There is no reason for you to think you're hateable and unloveable. None.

I just finished Elizabeth Gilbert's "Eat, Pray, Love" and I really hesitated to pick it up, because I'm snarky and cynical and don't like indulgent self help books.

But I found some really very helpful writing in there - of course she had a year and $$ to travel, but many of the lessons about letting go of negative feelings, working through a lot of emotional crap, ring true.

She also totally convinced me that I absolutely must learn to meditate. Not sure if you do, but you could think about it.

You're a good, loveable person. But you have to believe it. What we say can help, but you have to believe it, and feel it to be true, not just 'know' it to be true. Intellectual knowing is very different from emotional knowing.

[Capn Sunshine]

9. Shut Up

I don't know you at all, and I like you cause you walk the walk, baby.

[abq e streeter]

10. from what little I can tell about you from reading your posts

you're an extraordinarily intelligent, literate and aware person. And sensitive; obviously sometimes too much so for your own good ( I can relate to that much more than I wish I could). The world would be a far better place if there were more people with just the few traits I know about you. Don't let your mind fuck with you this way. You're OK. You're way the hell BETTER than OK actually. Don't be embarrassed to get whatever kind of help you need either. I've seen counselors off and on over the years and I'm not the least bit ashamed of that. Lots of us here have I'm sure. Some have received more help from that process than others, but the point is, don't let your pride stop you from asking for help ( just like you're doing right now). My opinion, from my limited information , is that you are exactly the OPPOSITE of an unlovable person.

[Skittles]

11. you're not on my IGNORE list

that proves it right there Writer

[fNord]

12. your just not the Ass-hole type....

And I know, because I live wit some real Ass-holes, and one Whole-Ass.
and even they are politically active.

you are a sweet person who just needs to relax.

Its ok.

Goddess is Great, Pot is good, And people are stupid, as the country song goes.....or something like that...any way

don't let other peoples shit get to you so much, and don't feel bad when you want to cut the up with a chainsaw and bury them in the cellar(sorry, just watched "Evil Dead 2" what a great fucking movie) or whatever. your only a "hateable, unloveable person" if you do these things, instead of talking out your problems, like your doing with us.


I have read many of your posts, and I don't think "hateful" is a word that your worst enemy could describe you with.

Remember..despite your best efforts, tomorrow the sun will rise......and it will be a new day.
think of that with Joy instead of fear, and your future will always be bright.

[Sky Masterson]

13. I know you to be a very sweet and lovable person.

And anyone who doesn't like you really doesn't know you so they don't matter :pals: :loveya:

[Writer]

14. Thanks, man.

You should take a look at my Facebook page...

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

15. Keep in mind the childhood rhyme some of us learned;

'Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me'
What is meant by this is names will never hurt me because I recognize them for what they are. My vision/opinion/thoughts about myself first start with me. As so it is with you my friend. What do YOU think about YOURSELF?
:)

[Tommy_Carcetti]

16. Here's some advice: Stay out of the GD.

You'll feel a lot better about yourself by doing so.

[BlueIris]

18. Good advice.

Real good.

[MissMillie]

17. You're not letting your sister get to you, are you?

oh hell....

you're terrific. And you can tell her I said so.