Can we discuss female creepiness ...

[UndertheOcean]

There is this young woman that works at this lunch place we go to once a week who keeps flirting with me every time .... I try to be polite , but I do show my distaste and interact minimally , it just does not get through.

It reached the point where even if she is not serving us , she still comes by and yaps about this and that for 5 minutes.

I guess being rude once will solve this problem.

[Boojatta]

1. Does she try to sell you insurance?

[Fire Walk With Me]

2. Good things like that just don't happen in real life.

[UndertheOcean]

12. If you are not interested , it is not a good thing.

[TK421]

17. Yep! I've had plenty of creepy females hit on me at bars and such

and when I'm not in the mood to socialize ( which I'm usually not, since I generally HATE people ) they don't seem to let up, so you're left with no choice but to be rude and tell them to fuck off...

I'm sure you haven't gotten to that point yet, but if the behavior continues you just might

[redqueen]

23. Isn't it nice that you can tell them to fuck off...

and not have to worry about the consequences of doing so?

[TK421]

24. Pretty sweet, actually....especially considering when their fucking BOYFRIEND is

sitting right next to them...waiting for the first sign of trouble :hi:

[redqueen]

25. You must hang out in some interesting bars.

:hi:

I gave a guy in a bar the finger one time. I learned my lesson well.

[TK421]

27. No, not really....it just depends on who is sitting in the bar

for the most part, I have no problems...but there are those people who get their beer muscles on and the wife-girlfriend-daughter just get mixed into it for reasons unknown....

I don't know!! I never look for trouble when I go to the bar...I just sit, drink and mind my own business!!!! But OH does trouble ever fucking find me!!!!

[Taverner]

3. Fart loudly and try and blame it on her

That usually works

[Bucky]

34. I know you meant this to be a joke, but of all the options, it seems the most humane.

It both empowers her to make the convenient decision for the OP, plus is allows the OP to exercise his much neglected fart muscles. A real win-win.

[Demoiselle]

37. Bravo! I am chortling uncontrollably.

Actually, chortling uncontrollably for no apparent reason might do the trick too.

[redqueen]

4. Yeah, I can see how that's totally the same...

considering how guys have to be on guard all the time, worrying if their dates will fucking rape them.

:puke:

[Inchworm]

5. Hello lounge!

:scared:

[Boojatta]

7. Maybe this thread was created in order to make the point that...

male creepiness to women isn't similar to female creepiness to men. Thus, the allegation that it is sexist to use the phrase "male creepiness" in a thread title would lose its bite.

[Lucian]

33. Yeah...

cuz every guy out there is a potential rapist.

:eyes:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

6. she is making you uncomfortable by just talking to you for 5 mins?

is she just making small talk or is she talking of bearing your children

[UndertheOcean]

8. Priyanka , I do know the difference between smalltalk and flirting

I am not THAT socially retarded

[Boojatta]

14. How do you know that the creepy female isn't suffering from

a kind of social retardation that allows for an attempt at smalltalk to take such a form that it strikes non-socially retarded people as definitely flirting?

[UndertheOcean]

16. oh, you just blew my mind....

[Orrex]

29. Maybe she's acutely aware of social conventions and simply enjoys making people uncomfortable

Honestly, that seems about as likely an explanation.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

28. i wasnt calling you retarded in any form however why is this flirting particularly creepy

i guess that was more my question

generally women tend to get creeped out not just from simple flirting but usually when they perceive something off or a threat

[mcctatas]

9. um gee...

small talk does not quite rise to stalking or even behavior that necessitates being a douche nozzle, as a matter of fact, maybe she is just being being nice because she is a nice person or, being that she is in the service industry, because it is her fucking JOB :wtf:

[UndertheOcean]

11. Then why does she only pick me to be nice to and ignores my colleagues ?

[Boojatta]

15. Maybe your colleagues smell bad and she doesn't want to get close to them.

[Inchworm]

19. I see your WTF.. and raise you

a :hug:

hehe, hi.

:*

[GCP]

10. Lighten up

She's just trying to be nice by the sound of it.

[latebloomer]

13. Maybe she likes unavailable men.

Your distaste only spurs her on.

[Boojatta]

18. Definitive Analysis of Your Situation

You wrote:

I do show my distaste and interact minimally

However, although you speak of showing your distaste, you are merely toying with the following idea:

I guess being rude once will solve this problem.

You haven't actually been rude to her, not even once.

I conclude that:
You're not the hurting kind.

Implicitly, by flirting with you, what is it that she says?

She says she loves you

And you know that can't be bad.

She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah
She loves you, yeah, yeah, yeah
And with a love like that
You know you should be glad.

[UndertheOcean]

20. Are you high or drunk ? or both ?

[Boojatta]

21. Neither. Am I creeping you out?

[seabeyond]

31. lol lol lol... this whole thread is making me laugh. joy. i love the clever people on du. nt

[Inchworm]

22. ...and you know you should be glad

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l2fDUb57_xk

:yoiks:

[EOTE]

26. I've had my share of female creepiness.

Most of them I met through online dating. I was 25 and was looking for a GF around my same age on Match.com. I found this girl who said she was 21 and was interested in a date. I thought that 4 years was an acceptable age difference, so I asked her out to get a bite, hang out at the mall a bit and see a movie. Well, first off, she looked nothing like she did in her profile, but I was willing to overlook that. Then at our dinner, I offer to get her an alcoholic beverage and she tells me she can't because she's 19. WTF? So now I feel like a bit of a perv even though she looked older. Then as soon as we leave dinner, she's hugging me every chance she gets and talking about what a catch I am. I didn't want to seem rude, so I was kind of hugging her back, but it should have been very apparent it was making me uncomfortable since I really only met her about an hour ago. Then at every store we checked out, she was picking up items and dropping clues about how much she wanted them, it was clear she wasn't going to relent until I bought her something. I ended up getting her a t-shirt at Spencer's that she was ogling. Then, we go the movie and as soon as we sit down, her head is on my chest and she starts making these weird chortling noises every few minutes. In spite of all these noises she was making, she shushed several people in the audience whom I barely noticed and were speaking at a whisper. Once the date came to an end, she honestly hugged me for more than 2 minutes, it was by far the most awkward and long hug I've ever had in my life. Then, while her arms were still around me, she starts talking about what a great time she had and how I NEED to call her tomorrow. She kept on saying "You're gonna call me tomorrow, right?". I was actually a little scared by this point, so I was like, "Uh huh, you bet." She kept at it and asked me a good half dozen times, then she stared me dead in the eyes and put her index finger on my lips and said something like "I know I've only known you a few hours, but I DON'T want you lying to me. You're gonna call me tomorrow, right?" This was all while her other hand was around my waist and she was pulling me up against her. After that ungodly awful 10 minute goodbye session, I bolted the hell out of there. I'm so incredibly glad she never got my cell # or any of my IM nicks. I had some other awkward dates, but that was probably the worst.

[seabeyond]

32. what a story. both genders.... true that

(i know we dont chat well but... oh my). i have empathy for those in this situation. been there myself with other gender.

[EndersDame]

30. As a waitress DO NOT BE RUDE otherwhise the staff will get you back

We all talk about regulars We give each other the heads up on who tips well who doesn't and who is a rude asshole and who to give minimal service too.We also communicate this info with the kitchen. Say so and so while the flirting is a little ego boosting I would appreciate it if you would stop I have a partner or what ever. Believe me we in the food industry are a family

[Bucky]

35. Oh I get it! This is an analogy: Dems are the girl begging for bipartisan action, GOPs are the dude.

Very clever, Underthe.

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

36. I know this started out as a copy cat thread

but it is too fucking funny not to put in a :rofl:

[Zavulon]

38. Know anyone who is good with makeup?

If you can fake a great big sore on your face, the flirtation will stop.