Did You Go to your 20th High School Reunion?

[Parche]

I didnt...who cares...and that was the week of .......anyway..
:hi:

[ShenandoahAspen]

1. mine won't be until 2019.

And I probably won't go. That's still ten years away, though, and a lot can change between now and then. I won't be going to my 10 year reunion in October though -- it would be too awkward. I'd prefer not to be around a bunch of people who didn't give me the time of day. I will probably spend the day having a blast with a good friend of mine who actually took the time to get to know me, and who made me a better, friendlier person because of it.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

2. Yes, and it was a hoot.

I hated high school. I was a shy, nerdy kid who didn't have a lot of friends, except for a few other nerds, and the day of my graduation was one of the happiest days of my life up to that time because I finally could get the hell out of there.

So 20 years later, when somehow the alumni people tracked me down with news of the upcoming reunion, my first thought was, "Fuck, no!" But then I changed my mind, mainly out of curiosity, and decided to go. By that time I was somewhat less nerdy, didn't wear glasses any more, and had a pretty respectable job, so I didn't figure on being too embarrassed.

And much to my delight, the other nerds were now former nerds; for the most part they were good-looking and successful. Better yet, the high school big shots -- the snooty jocks and cheerleaders who had teased and snubbed us nerds and generally made us feel like losers were now fat and/or balding, and it was pretty obvious that it had all been downhill for them after high school. The former hot chick all the guys wanted now looked like an old madam. The former teen beauty contest winner was chubby and dressed in an outfit that was intended to look sexy but just made her look fatter. It was definitely a Revenge of the Nerds experience.

I haven't been to any reunions since. That was enough. It was just good to know that youthful dorkiness doesn't have to be permanent.

[mnhtnbb]

3. I did and then didn't go to any others until this year I'm going to 40th!

Not only am I going to the 40th reunion of my graduating class, I'm also going to the 40th reunion
of the class I would have graduated with if we hadn't moved across the country when I was in high school!

I'm looking forward to having a great time at both. I've stayed in touch with a few high school
friends all these years. Several years ago a couple of my best friends from grammar/middle school
found me (through the internet) and we've had a blast being back in touch. We've even had
a couple of girls' weekends together!

[Mugu]

4. I've never been to a single one. n/t

[pink-o]

6. Me either...but my sis, who was picked on all thru school got some great revenge.

At her 10th, Sis was waylaid by a girl named Julie, who'd hounded and taunted her (with a group of other Mean Girls, of course--these chick always run in packs). So Julie comes up and hugs her, and is almost crying, telling my Sis how sorry she was for that behavior. Sis lets her go on for a minute, then pulls back, shakes her head in confusion and asks:

"I'm sorry: who are you?"

:rofl:

[grace0418]

23. Nice!

Excellent response. Not mean, just completely dismissive.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

5. I'll make that decision when 2018 comes around

Still almost a decade to think about it

[Capn Sunshine]

7. I didn't but I had planned to

however fate intervened, and I was required to stay in Texas by my company for that week. It would have been interesting, but I imagine the 50th will be a lot cooler. It will be like survivors of a giant train wreck that was the era we lived.

[Hangingon]

8. Headed to my 50th the end of October

[AwakeAtLast]

9. Yep, it was the weirdest one

I had more fun at the others. It was held in a different place than before and less people attended. The whole evening was strange.

I'll still go to my 25th - there are still people I like to see.

[Silver Swan]

10. No

I don't know if we had one--I never heard.

I went to my tenth, then I didn't hear again until our thirtieth. I went, and had a good time, and I have a picture to prove it.

I also went to my fortieth, but at that point, it seemed people were getting too old to remember me.

We are having an informal get together for our 45th, but I haven't decided whether I'll go. It means an overnight trip, and things have happened that make me not want to go back.

[LoveMyCali]

11. Nope and I'm not going to my 30th this year either

I didn't care about those people 30 years ago nor did they care about me and I have no desire to show them how different I am now because they don't hold enough importance in my life to try to impress them.

[rurallib]

40. I am with you.

I went to our 5th. Realized that I could care less about people I went to school with. Had I wanted to interact with them I could easily track them down.
I get emails from them now, no doubt thanks to some damned classmate search service. Mostly they go into the trash.

[Robeson]

12. My best friend from high school begged me to go. As a favor to him...

...I did. Wish I didn't. Won't do it again.

[ThatsMyBarack]

13. I'm going to mine this October!

:hi:

[NNadir]

14. I went to the 10th. We might as well have never left. Everyone was the same except...

for one guy who was considered a complete dork in high school.

He showed up with his gorgeous and gracious wife, who told us how proud she was to be married to such a fine and powerful (and high paid) corporate attorney. He was already making a few hundred thou a year, and without bragging too much, he let you know it.

Given the abuse that guy took in high school, it was perfect justice.

The guys who were all oogling his wife were the same guys who used to bully him, and most of them were now 5 or 10 years into their menial jobs in the service industry. They were already losing their teeth and their hair, and their beautiful high school girlfriends, who most of them married, were mostly overweight and wrinkling prematurely from so much smoking.

I tell my kids about that guy all time, making sure that they do not sacrifice anything to be cool.

[Dulcinea]

31. Same here.

It was like stepping into a time capsule.

I went to my 10th, and most of the people I went to high school with never left our hometown. Most of the girls who married young were divorced with a couple of kids. The Popular Girls were still in their little clique (none of them had done anything with their lives, either.) The jocks were the same jerks they were back then, except for being washed-up ex-jocks.

I had gone to college, gotten a degree, and was working in the video field. I was a high school geek, but one of the ones who had some success.

One reunion was enough. I keep in touch with my good friends, but don't care to see any of the rest of them again.

[Common Sense Party]

15. No. I had zero interest.

And all Facebook has done is remind me of how little I have in common with those folks. It's nice to exchange a few banal pleasantries with a few of them every couple months or so, but yegads, being in one room with them for an entire evening? No, thanks.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

16. I went to my twenty-fifth -

and it was a stunning experience. I hadn't seen those people with whom I'd grown up - we went from first grade through twelfth together in that small town - for all that time, and it was an incredible experience to meet them again.

It moved me so, I wrote a novel about it, and that turned out to be my first novel, my first novel's sale, my first published book.

So you never know what's going to happen.

Next time, you might consider going............................

[Tuesday Afternoon]

17. no.

:hi:

[LibDemAlways]

18. Yes, and it reinforced that I was a nobody in high school and

remain invisible within that group. I actually helped organize the thing, thinking that at long last I could make a contribution. Not being part of the popular crowd way back when, I was determined to finally make my mark. Anyhow, there happens to be one other classmate with my rather unusual first name, and everyone thought she was the one who had stepped forward to put the thing together. After about the 50th person thanked her for a job well done, she felt compelled to come over and apologize to me. All in all it was a valuable learning experience. The 40th is coming up next year, and I'm skipping it.

[clyrc]

19. No, but only because I was half a world away

and maybe more. I graduated in Hawaii, and I live near Dubai. I wanted to go, although I know that lots of people would be amused at how fat I got.

[Quantess]

20. I went to mine a few weeks ago!

They charged like $90 per person, and another $90 if you bring your spouse. My HS friend called me up and asked if I wanted to go, and I said "No, I don't have $90 to spend on a HS reunion". She said, "Neither do I. Let's crash it!" So we showed up a couple of hours late, and we just walked right in. We saved ourselves some money and we stayed just long enough to talk to the people we wanted to.

[Iggo]

21. Mine is or was sometime this year.

And, no, I never go to those things.

I don't give a fuck about those people, and the feeling is no doubt mutual.

[Auggie]

22. I did

It was a while back. Flew across country too. Would have been a huge waste of money had I not made an attempt to see family. I won't bother to go again.

[grace0418]

24. Mine was last year. Oops, guess I missed it. Through Facebook, I've gotten in

contact with the only two people I care to talk to from high school, so there's no need to see anyone else. A few other people have tried to friend me on Facebook. I look at their profiles and think "What the hell would we even have to talk about? We have nothing in common!"

[Rabrrrrrr]

25. No reunions at all. Always planned by the tasteless, artless fucks who were popular in HS

And they always have it at some of the idiotic "Oooooh, that's a reaaaaallllll nice fancy place!" places in town that are actually just better decorated shitholes filled with middle-management and blue-collar losers who wouldn't know actual class or finery if it came down and crushed their pathetic fucking legs.

Especially there ARE actual nice fancy places in town, that would probably be cheaper - or at least the same price - while providing actual service and tactful decor.

Plus, most of my class were douchebags, shitbrains, fuckstains, and loser fuckwits who never aspired to anything more than having a job serving vending machines or maybe some kind of asshole mid-level insurance salesman or "broker" so they could go home at night to some poorly decorated shithole cookie-cutter of a house, drink their beer or cheap liquor, talk about irrelevant things, pretend they love their kids and Jesus, and die in empty loneliness, never having accomplished anything of any real value.

[Iggo]

26. So you're not going, then?

B-)

[Rabrrrrrr]

38. More than likely not. Though I'd enjoy the chance to rub their shit in their faces.

The jocks who were worshiped like gods, two of whom got full ride sports scholarships, who failed out of college (one because of cocaine) - ha ha!!!! And now they have shitty little lives doing middle-management (at best) garbage jobs with fat wives who, I hope, hate them. They probably spend half their day wearing polo shirts, khakis, and handing out business cards at Kiwanis luncheons while they sip water-down cheap whisky and think they're living high on the hog.

The "cool" kids who are mostly doing shitty, non-professional (or slightly professional at best) jobs, in podunk shitwater towns, with their cheerleader wives who are 75 pounds overweight and buy timeshares and think they're "upper class" because of it and vote Republican because they're convinced that non-whites want to steal all their stuff, as though anyone with any respect would own any of the shit they own.

It really is Revenge of the Nerds. We're the only ones who have done anything of any value or importance with our lives. And as far as I could tell from the round of messages about this year's reunion, the jocks and the cool kids and the other losers are the only ones who were going.

The successful people have stayed the hell away from that class, and stayed the hell away from that city, as well.

The best vengeance I can have on those shitpots is not allowing them into my life.

[bikebloke]

27. I'm not even sure if they had a 20th.

I missed the 10th, during my commie years on a kibbutz. But I would have skipped it anyway.

The graduating year after me is holding their 35th, inviting other classes. It looks like about three whole people were going.

[av8rdave]

28. Went to two high schools....never saw the percentage in going to any of those reunions

College ones, however, I try never to miss.

[Javaman]

29. Yes, and my sister was right. here's what she said about 10th and 20 year reunions...

When you go to your 10th reunion, expect everyone to try to look like they are still 25, expect everyone to claim to be wildly successful and to maintain an air of superiority, expect the people who were "nerds" to still be quiet but to be the real successes, expect the valedictorian to be working an average job (nothing exciting), expect all the guys to be sucking in their guts.

She was right. lol

on the 20th year reunion she said, it's all about who, died, who's divorced and who got fat.

She was right again. :)

What I experienced at my 10 year reunions was all the things above plus it seemed that everyone was very serious and lost all their sense of humor.

At my 20 year reunion, all of the above again, but it appeared as if their humor returned. lol

Oddly, when I went to my 10 year reunion, I was working out in Los Angeles as a 2nd Camera Assistant.(believe me, it's nothing big) I was low key but it was interesting when I told people what I did, it was like I walked on water. So weird.

I hail from an angry small town on Long Island. :)

[seemunkee]

30. Nope and skipped my 30th too

Went to the 10th and had a good time, but after that if I wanted to stay in touch I would

[Deep13]

32. Yup, 2006. nt

[gizmonic]

33. No way. I hated every minute of my junior and high school experience

Graduated in 1986. Didn't attend my 10th or the 20th. And I have no plans to attend any future reunions.

I have no happy memories of that place or my classmates...why should I be miserable revisiting with people I can't abide. Life's too short for that crap.

[blueknight]

34. wow!

so many people had bad experiences in high school. i had a great time in high school,those were some of the best years of my life. it really saddens me to see so many people had such a hard time

[MrScorpio]

35. My 30th is this coming weekend

I'm not spending my weekend with a bunch of old farts

The 20th was painful enough

[Bombero1956]

36. I went, had a good time

I brought my English/Drama teacher as my guest because my wife was out of town. My teacher had retired from and didn't get out much so it was a good time for her as well.

[cherish44]

37. I've been to all of mine

No I wasn't popular in high school. I had some good times in high school. I had some bad times in high school. I guess since I'm getting middle-aged and stuff I find myself more nostalgic about those years than I used to be. I wish I had possessed the wisdom of my 42 year old self back then.... but the trial and tribulations of that time were what gave me my wisdom...

[nuxvomica]

39. Yes and I had a great time

You know how there's always someone in the class whose mere existance comforts the less popular people into knowing that at least they aren't that person? Well that was me in high school but I had a great time at the reunion because by the 20th those issues aren't very meaningful anymore. I was also in better shape and had more hair than the more popular people, a large number of which became either doctors or dentists.

[CreekDog]

41. Not yet

I think I will. :dilemma:

[Vidar]

42. No & I missed my 35th this year. I went to one odd one, 14th maybe.

[Taverner]

43. No - no I didn't!

It was last year, around June

I might go to the 25th - but Whothefuckknows?

The way I'm seeing things - whothefuckcares?

[mike_c]

44. nope-- nor the 30th, or the 35th....

Good gawd, now I feel really old.

[datasuspect]

45. i was a field commander for the multi-agency task force that served a no-knock search warrant at

mine.

[abq e streeter]

46. No--planned to , but didn't. my 35th was my 1st and only, but a surprisingly good time

Without going into detail, I was finally able to come to grips with some powerful negativity and resentments that had crippled me for decades. Had interesting, intelligent conversations and other interactions with other mature , intelligent adults who had not spoken two words to me in 4 years of school. Very glad I made the last minute decision to go . And maybe it took that long for everyone to "grow up" , myself included...Very possible I suppose that 20 years still wouldn't have been enough time. Guess I'll never know.