I will not attend my 20 year HS reunion in 2014 unless I am married or in a serious relationship

[bluestateguy]

It was fine at my 10 year (at 28), but I am concerned that at 38 being unmarried or without a significant other I might be viewed as "weird" or "awkward" by my classmates. It won't be worth it to travel 2000 miles to my reunion and feel like the odd man out while everybody else is sharing stories of married life and/or kids (I can actually do without kids; that's optional for me).

It's also a good motivation for me to either get into a serious relationship or get married by then.

[hippywife]

1. Might be good motivation

but doesn't work well as a good reason. Who knows, you might find someone there that you'd like to get to know better than you did.

Besides, trust me when I say there will be plenty of divorcees by that time, so you won't be the only one there single.

[Moondog]

2. + 1. Well stated.

[backwoodsbob]

3. why the fuck would you care?

Screw them.

Show up single and have fun.Quit worrying about what people think about you.

I learned long ago peoples opinions are worth about as much as the pile of shit my neighbors horse dumped.

Go and have fun and remember that only you can decide your life

[MajorChode]

4. HS reunions are the best places to find a future spouse

Unless you live in the deep south, then it would be family reunions.

[whistler162]

5. Here is a idea......

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x9009615

[EFerrari]

6. So, take a date or a friend -- it's cheaper! LOL. And while you're at it

make a list for *you* of your important relationships -- things you care about, you do, contribute to. Partnering up with another person is only *1* of those. :hi:

[ShenandoahAspen]

7. Hey, I don't blame you.

I graduated in 1999, and there's been talk of a reunion in October. I don't plan on going. My classmates always thought I was "weird" and "awkward" anyway; so screw 'em. I probably wouldn't have much fun, anyway. Especially since most of them are married and/or have kids, and I will feel left out.

[blogslut]

8. My criteria was different

I moved back home the year of my 10th so I figured that was reunion enough. As for my 20th, well, I wasn't a paid assassin so, fuck those people. The 30th was last year and I decided that since I still wasn't a professional killer, fuck those people.

[Lex]

9. Do like most and get trapped in a loveless marriage.

At least you'll look normal and not be "weird."

[bluestateguy]

10. No I won't do that either

I prefer singlehood and not going to my reunion, rather than a loveless marriage just for show.

But my first choice would be a happy marriage.

[Sultana]

11. Let things happen... Being single doesn't = weird

Good luck on finding love :)


I don't why but this thread made me feel old, lol. Even though I'm only 23. :rofl:

[Inspired]

12. Why? Many of your classmates will be secretly envious of you.

Kids weren't a big part of the conversation at my 20 year reunion. It isn't much fun dragging a spouse to a reunion anyway. Unless they went to the same school.

[DFW]

13. Reunions come and go

I didn't go to #10, #20, or #30, and probably won't make #40 either.

I was already with the woman who is now my wife by #10, but to run all the way over to America just
to hear how the privileged sons of Park Avenue, Westchester County (NY) and eastern Connecticut
inherited or made even more money than they had when I knew them? I'd rather have our neighbors
over for afternoon coffee. The high school I graduated from has had some cool people at times,
don't get me wrong. But very few from my class were very inspiring, and I note that none of those
few have done anything I know of that I find inspiring. I was only there for my senior year, and
did not exactly "fit in." The guys that tended to fit in were more like one guy that graduated
a few years before me. His name was George W. Bush. I don't tend to fit in with guys like that,
and both my classmates and the school let me know it in no uncertain terms.

Needless to say, I haven't felt any urge to go back.

*on edit--I don't think they missed me too much, either!!

Go find yourself a wonderful woman to be with. I did. But it didn't have shit to do with any
high school reunions of mine, and I recommend it have nothing to do with yours, either.

[bluestateguy]

14. You went to Phillips Andover?

Sometimes I wish I had gone to prep school, though my public high school was very good too.

[DFW]

20. Just for that one year (senior year)

I started out high school in Washington, DC. For 11th grade, I was in Spain, and was then offered
a chance to apply to Andover, as it was one of the sponsoring schools of the Spain program. I hated
my school in DC, as it was run by group of arch-conservative so-called "Quakers," who were about as
interested in the Quaker ideals of peace as a cheetah is in veganism. I have heard that the school
has since done a 180°, and has really become a progressive school, but in my day, it was one to
escape from. There weren't really any top public schools in the part of Virginia where I grew up,
so my parents forked out the money for this private school in DC. As my dad worked downtown*, I could
just take the bus to his office after school so no one had to drive all the way into Washington twice
in one day just for me and my siblings. But I was sick of the official school hypocrisy, and so thought
to myself in Spain, "how much worse could Andover be?" I found out. I am SOOO glad I was only there for
one year. I have heard that, like that school in DC (Obama sends his kids there, so I'm sure it's vastly
improved from what it was), Andover has improved a lot. But it was no picnic when I was there, and my only
memories of the place are the ones I took with me when I left. If you want alumni with fond memories later
on, don't terrorize the student you have now. In my day, Andover was more concerned with "what the alumni
would think" than what the students actually attending thought. The guy who interviewed me for Andover was,
in fact, Bush's father, so you can imagine "what the alumni thought."

*He was in the National Press Building at 14th and F, in case you know DC.

My home moved down to Texas in 1983, and my part of Dallas has a fabulous public school. It's so good, in
fact, that I hear that parents from nearby districts try to fake their addresses to get their kids into
this school. My elder daughter went there for a while (ironically, it was her junior year "abroad" since
I already had my overseas posting by then), but said that while the school itself was great, most of her
classmates were interested in fancy cars, drugs, alcohol, or all three. So much for the advantages of privilege.

[Spider Jerusalem]

15. That's pretty sucky as motivations go

a better reason would be because you've met someone you can actually see yourself having a long-term relationship with. You shouldn't give a fuck what other people think of your marital status; it's none of their business.

[JPZenger]

16. Most people don't bring their spouses

At the HS reunions I've attended, most people don't bring their spouses.

At a 10 year reunion, people are still trying to impress each other. At a 20 or 25 year reunion, most people have forgotten old cliques, have lightened up and just try to be friendly.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

17. You're joking, right?

You're not married, not seriously involved in a relationship, and you're letting people you haven't seen in years, people who have absolutely NO role in your life dictate to you what you're going to do?

Your line about "good motivation" is about the saddest and silliest thing I've ever read.

Do you always let others dictate what you do next?

Think for yourself, for heaven's sake, and remember that you can't please anyone unless you first know how to please yourself.

It's not tenth grade any more..................................

[Skittles]

18. you need your ass kicked

you are WAY too concerned about what other people "think" about you

[elocs]

19. Next year will be my 40th and I've never gone to any of them.

My high school class was very clique-ish and from what I understand the reunions have been about who is making the most money, who is married to whom, and how often they have been married. No thank you.

Besides, most of the kids I grew up with just happened to be in the class behind me. This is what caused me in the summer of my 10th reunion to organize a reunion of the kids I grew up with at our local park. We reserved the park shelter at the park where we all grew up around, hung out as teens, ice skated in the winters, played pick up football and softball and generally had fun being kids. That reunion had a great turnout with people coming back with their kids and spouses, some from very many hundreds of miles away. That meant more to me than any snooty high school reunion.