hug me. she is gone, her room is empty and My daughter has left home

[greenbriar]

I know she is growing up,

She is enrolled in college,

but she moved out


left



decided it was better to live with grandma 60 miles away in a little podunk town

than live with her parents



I am crying right now

[laylah]

1. oh greenbriar!

:hug: I am so sorry for your pain.

[Blue Diadem]

2. I'm sorry greenbriar.

It's hard when they leave the nest.

:hug:

[SeaLyons]

3. ...

:hug: :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

4. I'm sorry

:hug: it still bothers me to walk into my kids rooms

I hope this turns into a positive thing for all involved.....


lost

[Nicole Lambeth]

5. oh man...

I am so sorry. :cry: :hug:

I would like to say that my mother and I went through a lot of growing pains during my high school years. I got out of the house as soon as I could, too. We are so much alike that we locked horns constantly - I can only imagine how hard it was for my mom to live with the teenage version of herself. However, with distance and time, we were able to mend fences quite well. I had a lot of growing up to do, and she had allow me the space to do so. We are now incredibly close, but it took time for both of us.

I hope that your daughter will come to realize how hard it is to be a parent, and how difficult some of us can be with our loved ones. It took me a while to understand how good I had it at home. Reality kicks in soon enough. I hope that when it does for her, she will be able to come back and apologize and work on meeting you half way.

[cwydro]

6. She'll be back.

Meantime, hang in there.:hug:

[Inchworm]

7. It'll be ok

Even if she screws up at Granny's. It'll be hers to own.

Just keep in touch and give advice as it's asked for.

:hug:

[MissMillie]

8. wow.... I am at a loss of words for this one

especially feeling the way I do today.

My son pushes me away too, but he does so while living under my roof and taking advantage of me.

I'm crying right now too.

:hug:

[greenbriar]

9. I am sick, can't eat anything...I know it is nerves or an ulcer or something

I am really trying to be okay with this, but I am not

she is my baby

she should be living with me


I miss her already

[rocktivity]

10. She'll always be YOUR baby, but she's not A baby.

If she's old enough to go to college, she's old enough to start running her own life. It's perfectly natural that they push you away--it's called "maturing." Don't take it personally, and meanwhile, start thinking about what you want to do with the rest of your OWN life.

:hug:
rocktivity

[applegrove]

11. Hugs.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

12. My dear greenbriar...

Hugs to you, sweetie...

There's some very good advice here in your thread...

As soon as you can, start taking it.

She will be back; she loves you even if it doesn't look like it now.

She is growing up, and separating herself from you is her own birth.

And most importantly: Take care of yourself.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[greenbriar]

13. I know...what everyone says is true but I can't stop crying

I didn't want her to move out so soon


funny thing is, I was ready for her to go to college and it would be just another couple of months..

but this ...

feels like betrayal

[greenbriar]

14. its funny ... she thought dad would be the one with the hard time with this

but dad is saying

go...fly...

mom is the one heartbroke

[Dystopian]

15. I'm hurting too....

I'm so sorry...I'm feeling your pain right now for the very same reason.:hug:

I had to read this again...
I hope this gives you some peace of mind...
It's helped me through the years, yet it is never ending...

Khalil Gibran~On Children


And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."

And he said:

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.


peace~

[handmade34]

16. hug

sad for you. The ties are strong, though, even if it doesn't so now.

I have been away from my kids for 4 years and I miss them terribly everyday.

[tigereye]

17. aw, hugs for you, fellow mom.

:grouphug:


But it will turn out all right. It's hard, but they have to leave the nest. Hell, I miss my son at camp and he's only been out of school for about 2 weeks!

[crim son]

18. I'm so sorry.

I've been imagining the same situation for a while - my daughter will be moving out some time this summer to live with her father and commute to college from his house. On the one hand, she drives me nuts. On the other, she's an incredible human being and the house will seem empty without her. Hugs for you! It sounds meaningless, but you will become accustomed to her absence. :hug:

[greenbriar]

19. thank you

I have been cleaning her empty room...

dusting everything

washed the sheets and bedspread as she didn't take her waterbed


going to vacume and finish dusting


guess I will set up a table and do my scrapbooking in her room

[KamaAina]

20. (sniff)

:hug:

[greenbriar]

21. you would think she could call and let us know she is okay

and how her interview went

sheesh


hubby says don't call

[greenbriar]

22. so, how long should I wait to call her

?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

23. My dear greenbriar...

Your husband is right. Don't call. Just don't. You need to find another focus, now...

You might want to see a good therapist in a few days if this doesn't ease up...

You are entirely too preoccupied with her now. It's not good for you...

:hug:

[Tangerine LaBamba]

24. I keep seeing this .........

I swear, I'm starting to think that you're goofing on DU with this one.

It's the same, still the same, your daughter moved out, and you're having a hard time with it.

At least, this time round, you don't sound angry at her. That's an improvement.

Rule of life - kids grow up, and if you do the job properly, they leave home.

It's not about you.

It's about the kid.

Let it go.

Life. It happens................................