My fucking ex-girlfriend decided to show up and make me miserable.

[Danger Mouse]

Holy fucking shit.
It's like being with her all over again.
She was infamous for making me feel guilty for everything, blaming me for everything, and making me feel like shit.
So she's married now, and miserable. She's been having an affair. She contacts me to vent, and I listen, because I'm too stupid to stay away from her, and she decides to bring up stuff from when we were dating.
Oh, great.
She then starts to make shit up, and backpeddles when I call her on it.
THEN she tells me that I taught her an important lesson, that telling the truth is wrong. So she blames me for, in addition to everything else, the fact that she lies to everybody in her life.
:banghead: :banghead: :argh: :grr: :argh: :banghead: :banghead:
I thought she had stopped crap like this. Guess I was wrong. She still knows how to make me feel like shit. Next time she wants me to be there for her, she can find some other stupid fucker to treat like garbage. I may be a colossal asshole, but I deserve better than that. :(

[latebloomer]

1. Tell her to go away!

Yes, you do deserve better than that! Show her that you won't put up with her shit any more. Times have changed, and so have you.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

2. There's this thing -

it's so cool.

It's called "hanging up." Ask someone to show you how to do it.

Being anyone's doormat, and then whining about it, is just so uncool...............

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_244oMQiVPGc/Rv_DKo53cPI/AAAAAAAABHY/518G8WUfLd0/s1600/blogger+banner-1.jpg

[Danger Mouse]

8. Not whining. Venting.

You COULD attempt a reply without resorting to snark, hmm?

[Tangerine LaBamba]

15. It's a matter of perception...........

When you go into detail about what she does and "how she makes you feel," it's whining. No one can make you feel anything without your cooperation.

Why do you even take this woman's calls?

[Quantess]

29. Apparently he had forgotten what she was like until a few minutes into the phone call.

[flvegan]

3. That sucks.

You're better off with toxic folks like that out of your life, I agree.

[Moondog]

4. The only way you become a doormat

is to give permission to treat you like a doormat. Man up. Hang up.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

16. Amen ..........

When people cooperate, they lose their right to complain and identify themselves as co-conspirators.

Or enablers.................

[siligut]

5. Just say "Gotta go now" and hang up.

You don't have to confront her, just don't let her guilt you into talking to her. Some people really are energy thieves, they don't feel good unless they are getting something out of you. Don't meet her anywhere, she sounds real stupid and is ruining her life, but that isn't your doing.

[Xipe Totec]

6. You have other girlfriends for other purposes?

:shrug:

[jeff30997]

7. Uh-oh!

:yoiks:

[XemaSab]

9. Tell her to suck it

See what she says to that.

[EvolveOrConvolve]

17. Maybe if she did that

he could put up with her other shit. ;)

[Danger Mouse]

20. You're great.

:hug:
Thanks for that.

[jeff30997]

10. It reminds me of someone from my not so distant past.

She stalked me for years and was borderline psychotic toward the end.:scared:

[crim son]

11. Now you never have to wonder what if...

Sorry, dm.

[vard28]

12. You don't need that

People like that are miserable. Like the saying goes, misery loves company. Block her number, resist temptation. You'll be a lot better off.


:hug:

[underpants]

13. She wants to do you

trust me

Your decision but she wants to do you

[Deja Q]

24. Or do him in by driving him crazy

:(

[TK421]

14. Thanks for making me feel better about being single

I fucking HATE games...and this is one of them

Fuck that bullshit

[marzipanni]

27. I think you mean cowshit. n/t

[DarkTirade]

28. Either way you end up with stinky sneakers.

[Rising Phoenix]

18. First of all, you are the furthest thing from a colossal asshole! Series!!!!!

You deserve better, and it sounds like you know it too. Just walk away knowing you are kick ass, and she is just ass.

:loveya:

[Shell Beau]

19. Sounds like you need to cut her out of your life completely.

I know that is probably easier to say than do, but dude, you don't need this.

[Danger Mouse]

22. She just made it a heck of a lot easier.

:P

[Zomby Woof]

21. She can't make you miserable

without your permission.

[Deep13]

23. Don't let her in. nt

[Debi]

25. Let her know how sorry you feel for her husband

and how lucky you feel for not being him!! :7

Sorry this is happening to you :hug:

[MilesColtrane]

26. "I'm too stupid to stay away from her..."

Find out what it is you're getting out of staying in contact with her. (Because you ARE getting something you need by talking to her, or else you would have told her to sod off long ago.)

Once you know what that "thing" is, find it somewhere else, with somebody else.

[kwassa]

38. Good advice.

You are getting something out of this, and it is something that is important to you. This is the wrong place to get it, however. Figure out what "it" is.

[Whoa_Nelly]

30. Am just wondering...

why did you let her in the door?


I know it took me several times of allowing old boyfriends to use me again, and I finally got it.
If I don't open the door, then the bullshit stops. And, over time, the pain went away, and I grew stronger and more aware of what was really important to me in a relationship...and being manipulated, and emotionally and/or verbally abused is NOT part of the picture ever again.

'cause I don't want it, and neither should you.

Smiling, laughing, and being easy, honest, true and adult is a helluva lot more fun :hug:

[suninvited]

31. Next time she calls

tell her how happy you always are to hear from her, because it reminds you of the bullet you dodged! Then wish her well, tell her to call again some other time and hang up. Bet she wont ever call back.

[Iggo]

32. Oh, man. I hate that shit. I've got an Ex kinda like that.

I still love her, but if we'd stayed together, one of us wasn't gonna make it.

I hate when she wants to come around and relive the bad old days.

I feel for ya, DM.

[ThomCat]

33. Please leave her far behind.

You don't need toxic people in your life. :hug:

And if she's going to blame you for her own toxic choices then she doesn't even deserve the courtesy of you being nice about it. Please just hang up on her if she calls. Don't talk to her. :(

I hope you have a whole lot of good people in your life who are nothing at all like her. :hug:

[struggle4progress]

34. Joan Baez, Diamonds and Rust - Live, 1975

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGMHSbcd_qI

[Dogtown]

35. Vampires cannot enter

without permission.

[JVS]

36. Tell her to fuck off!

[NJmaverick]

37. Get away! Get as far away as you can as fast as you can

this woman is pure poison and nothing good can come from you interacting. You're right, you deserve much better.

[RadiationTherapy]

39. SHE decided to make YOU miserable? You must be so passive and powerless.

[Demoiselle]

40. Stay cool. Don't engage in any discussions, cut it off politely but firmly...

Don't argue with her. (I know how wrong she is, and so do you, but you're continuing this terrible game if you respond.) And it is a game. And she is getting something she wants/needs out of it. Maybe somehow you feel that if you can just have a rational discussion with her, she'll understand, you'll feel better about it..etc. etc. Well she'll never understand, part of the game is to continue to make you feel like shit, you'll never win the argument. Have you read Eric Berne's book "Games People Play."? It's a really good primer on how people get themselves tangled up in such painful situations.
Good luck. You DO deserve a whole lot better.

[QueenOfCalifornia]

41. One of the best pieces of advice

I ever got was this: Put up or shut up.

I had to think about it for a couple of minutes but I took that advice and decided to never complain about something I allowed to happen.

Just tell this ex to go fuck herself. It will make you feel better and she may learn to STFU.