My first post-separation reality check.

[BarenakedLady]

I lost my social networking in the separation evidentally. My ex and the kids had plans to go out to see Land of the Lost this afternoon. They've been going to see movies every weekend while I've been working. I had today off, so I assumed that I would go with them (we are all still living in the same house, fyi). Kids were excited about all of us going. Then I find out that they are going with another couple (who we used to hang out with) and their kids (as they have the previous weeks). It was made clear to me that I was persona nongrata (sure I fucked up the spelling, so what) in this situation. Ex offered to cancel the arrangements, but the kids wanted to go and I didn't want to mess it up for them. It's really not a surprise as they were his friends (through work) to begin with, but well...

I stayed home and did math homework. Then I went to BJs and bought myself new pots and pans and cutlery.

:(

Well at least they are taking me out to dinner now. Bye!

[NJmaverick]

1. It's always tough

:hug:

[AwakeAtLast]

2. If you lived near me, you could kick around at my place

Seriously.

This would be a great chance to find new and exciting friends who are not connected to your family - provided you have the time of course. Does that sound like a possibility?

Sorry you're hurting, I don't know what it is like, but I'm sure it is not easy!

:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

3. ...

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

4. it's not easy is it?

rhetorical question, I know.

:hug:

[Sky Masterson]

5. Aww.

Sorry BNL. :hug:

[jerryster]

6. Living in the same house has to be tough.

I just wanted to reply and say that I wish you the best. I read recently that a lot of couples are opting to live as you and your ex are. I hope it's as amicable as can be. And, hey, they remembered you for dinner out!

[BarenakedLady]

12. It's only temporary

I'm moving out at the end of the month. It's been 6 months since we decided to split though. We will still live close to each other for the kids.

[quakerboy]

7. Sorry. Thats odd.

I am a suspicious person. who and how were you let know that you were not welcome? Did the other couple not want you, or did they just not want both of you at once? Or is it just your Ex wants it for himself and told you you weren't welcome?


Anyhow it is, sorry. That bites.

[BarenakedLady]

13. Well

Not in so many words.

Ex said "Why don't you go shopping while we are at the movies?"

I said "Aren't I going with you guys?"

"We are going with the (family name)"

"Oh...I just assumed I'd go since I wasn't working this weekend."

"I can cancel."

"No, the kids are excited about going. I don't want to ruin it for them."

"Ok."

[quakerboy]

16. Hmm

I am suspicious. Then again, it is my nature to wonder why things are as they seem to be.

I guess I just wonder, since he gets to go every weekend, and you had this one weekend off, if someone was going to be ejected as a third wheel, shouldn't it be him?

[Bucky]

8. Dood, you got bushwacked.

That was totally a power play on the bum's part. What a shithead, holding your kids' evening at the movies hostage just to keep you from having a good time. I'm not saying separate evenings out with the kids having a good time isn't a good idea--if you're really gonna be separated, it's best to have a clean break. But, that said, he went out of his way to fuck up your fun. That's just shitty.

[applegrove]

9. You are putting the kids first and that is the most important thing.

[GreenPartyVoter]

10. *hugs* :^(

[lost-in-nj]

11. aww so sorry BNL

:hug:

the fucking zings come out of no where

:hug: :hug:

I had a few this week.......

I know what your feeling

believe me

I do


lost

[Inchworm]

14. Sowwy sweety

:hug:

[miss_american_pie]

15. Hey you

You call me or text me whenever. Unless I'm working, but ykwim.

(And that part gets better, really. You make your own network of friends. You make a family of your choosing.)

:hug: