Do you ever think you've been given more than you can handle?

[bicentennial_baby]

That's how I feel today. My Mom is dying, I have to withdraw from school to deal with everything, I'm exhausted, I have to spend today paying bills and doing paperwork. I just want to scream and throw things.

I just had to get that out.

/rant over

[Richardo]

1. .

:hug:

[Lyric]

2. I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

Part of me actually feels a little guilty that my Mom made it through (at least for now) and your Mom is still struggling. I think of you and her all the time. :hug:

As for your question--for me, it feels more like Fate has decided that my life will consist of nothing more than super-ultra-holy-shit Highs and tear-your-heart-out Lows. I'd just like to find some even space where I'm not dealing with intense tragedies and intense victories at the same time. I wish for "Boring" a lot these days.

:hug:

[Sky Masterson]

3. Yes.

I'm sorry.
Nothing said can make it or you truly feel any better.Time is the only real fix.
I will send good vibes to your Ma.
All you can do sometimes is just keep breathing and never give up.
I am sure that is what your mom would want you to do. :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. I'm so sorry, my dear bi_baby...

Scream and rant all you want...

:hug:

[no name no slogan]

5. I'm not terribly religious, but

over the past few years, I've come to believe that we are never given any more than we can handle. It may seem like too much, but somehow we have the strength in ourselves to get through.

You are amazingly resilient, and I know you'll get through this.

:hug: :loveya:


Oh, and here's a stupidly funny video I've been laughing at for the past couple months (link guaranteed 100% rickroll-free)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4kK6F7t-x6E

[Steven_S]

6. Frequently..

but then it passes - and then I just handle it. Don't know how but I do. :hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

7. Hi my friend

:loveya:

How are you today? :hug:

[bigwillq]

8. You can throw something at me!

:P ;) :)

Hang in there, babe. You are stronger than you think, and you will handle this situation just fine. It's not something you are ever prepared me, but you will get through, and Mom will be very grateful. Keeping everyone in my thoughts. :hug:

[Midlodemocrat]

9. Yup. But you'll get through it. We always do.

[belladonna]

10. Oh sweetie, this is the first I heard about your Mom

I am so damn sorry and my heart hurts for you for what I know you're going through right now. I went through this with my father years ago and I remember the feelings all too well. Just please try to take care of yourself, okay? I know it seems impossible to stop and rest right now, but you have to take care of yourself so that you can keep on being as strong as I know you are. If you need anything at all, do NOT hesitate to let me know, okay??
I'll be thinking of you constantly and sending as many good vibes as I can muster for you and your family :hug:

[bicentennial_baby]

11. Hi sweetie

Sigh. I'm just so tired.

:hug:

[belladonna]

15. I know, babe

Just please try to rest if you can... even if it's only a 30 minute power nap, take it. It's all so draining in so many ways and sometimes we don't realize just how run down we are until it's too late and we crash and burn. Just keep in mind that you can't take care of anyone or anything if you don't take care of yourself too, okay? Find time for that nap or even just some quiet time to regroup. :hug:

[Midlodemocrat]

13. YOU~~~~ How in Blazes are you my friend????

It's been ages!!!!

How's babydoll?

:hug:

:hug:

:loveya:

[belladonna]

17. Busy, so very busy

I keep thinking things will settle down and I'll have some time to DU but, alas, my life just seems to keep getting busier. As for babydoll, that's just what she is... the absolute light of my life right now. No matter how crappy my day is or how tired I get, I look at her and it's all okay again. Course, her father just started getting visitation and that sucks royal ass... his maturity level is only slightly higher than hers and he's making it a nightmare for both Maggie and I. Matter of fact, he's got her right now and I'm just sort of counting the minutes until 2:30 when I go get her.

Enough about me, how's everything up your way???

[Midlodemocrat]

18. Good. Good. Remember

BoyM is just itching to beat the shit out of someone when he was stopped from killing the boy who broke TM's heart. We could be there in oh, say about 2 1/2 hours????

[belladonna]

20. About 2 hours ago, I would have said come on down

Now that I've had some time to calm down, however... I guess not.

I've filed a show cause with the court since he's violated both the protective order and the visitation order and I'm waiting to hear back on whether they're going to move the court date up... hopefully I'll know something tomorrow morning. If that doesn't go so well, I might just have to reconsider your offer! Now, what's this about some guy breaking TM's heart.... do I need to make a trip myself???

[Gormy Cuss]

12. Ranting helps.

At least it helped me when I've had too much on my plate. :hug:

[Blue Diadem]

14. Yes, been there.

:hug:

Sometimes it can be overwhelming and I think that's totally normal. Good cries help. FWIW, I used to scream in my car, it was the only time I was alone back then and living in a rural area/small town, no one could see or hear me.

I'm not sure I would have made it through when my Mom was dying after losing my Dad and my sister. If it wasn't for my youngest son who was just 16 then, I think I would have lost it. I will be forever thankful for his support.

Take care sweety. It's hard but you'll make it. Prayers and hugs for you, your Mom and your family.

[moriah]

16. Always express your anger... *hugs*

... bottling it up is bad. If you ever need anybody to rant at, we're here.

And when all else fails.... Milk Chan and your other kitty can purr for you. Purring has been very important to me lately.... (just ended a five year relationship very suddenly, I'm so glad he didn't even suggest taking the cat, and he did say he would help with the vet bills we've had lately.)

[KitchenWitch]

19. Yes, I have felt like that. It is when I need to lean on my friends

You can lean on me.

:loveya:

:hug:

[applegrove]

21. Vibes.

[Arkansas Granny]

22. Yes, I have, and I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

I know it sounds trite, but as painful as it is, this will pass. Just hang in there and if it makes you feel any better to scream and throw things, go ahead and scream and throw things. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

23. Yes, and yet I've still survived

and you will too..

:hug: I'm very sorry about your mom and the situation you are in.

I dreamed I came to see you and Sniffa last night, just remembered I dreamed that.

Since I am planning to go to the northeast, Maine as a matter of fact, I've thought of getting a car in Boston and driving from there and see some of the country I wouldn't see from the air. :shrug: maybe that's how it came into my head. Vivid dream though.

Anyway, your situation will change, and life changes all the time and you will adapt to it. :hug: so hang in there friend!

[femmocrat]

24. So sorry you are going through such a difficult time.

:hug:

[Callalily]

25. Yes, you do have a lot on

our plate, and my heart goes out to you.

Sending you strength and support. :hug:

[latebloomer]

26. It's terrible, but you will get through

Cry, scream, talk to people, don't talk to people if you don't feel like it, take extra special care of yourself and allow others to do so too.

So sorry you are going through this. Life really sucks sometimes.

Light to you and your family.

:hug:

[Parche]

27. I feel your pain

its been almost a year for me.......July
:hi: :hug: :hug:

[flvegan]

28. Every single day, and it has been that way for as long as I can remember.

I'm sorry you're going through this, but you'll be just fine. My best wishes to your mom.

[texanwitch]

29. I am dealing with two parents, one is 84 the other 85.

Both are ill, one is in a nursing home.

The other one lives down the street.

Sometimes I want to run away but I can't.

You just have to find some inner peace to deal with you Mom.

This won't be easy.

I take pictures, and take long walks along the bayou with my dog.

I can then come back and deal with my problems.

Take a brief break, this is important.

I am so sorry about your Mom.

[dysfunctional press]

30. all the time.

when you wake up every day with chronic pain- it doesn't take much else to push you over the edge.

[bicentennial_baby]

31. That's one of my Mom's issues right now too

:hug: I'm so sorry.

[Dappleganger]

32. Yes, absolutely!

At times it has been and continues to be overwhelming.

Just remember that you can only do the best you can with what you have. Family comes first.

[Dystopian]

33. Please know I'm thinking of you....a lot.

There really are no words to express my empathy....I lived what you're going through...
Please do whatever it is that enables you able to cope....
I'm so very sorry....:hug:




peace~

[crim son]

34. Yes.

And sometimes it's true. Please remember to take care of yourself while you're taking care of everything else. :hug:

[Shell Beau]

35. I am so sorry.

I have felt like that before. Somehow we just pull through. :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

36. yes

every day I know it

but I get through

and hope for the best

but prepared for the worst

cliche??

maybe
but I believe some of us get more than we deserve.....
you and me included


:hug:


lost

[XemaSab]

37. My pastor said once that he thought the Lord DID sometimes give us more than we can bear

:cry:

[midnight armadillo]

38. yes. right now.

Working 2 jobs, getting in a bit of trouble at the main day job for low productivity (hey - juggling 4 projects at once is taxing, esp. on low sleep and utter burnout). Trying and utterly failing to buy a decent fucking house that is not within 50 yards of an 8 lane highway or in need of a bulldozer. A month of house hunting and my BP is reading 142/103 (yes, I know how NOT GOOD that is). The feelings of utter inadequacy and failure are intense and the stress leaves me up at night with my heart racing. Our two boys are going nuts since they know their parents are freaking out on a constant basis and are not around on weekends (house hunting, ya know). I'm up to midnight every night working the 2nd job. My car has been in the autobody shop for over a week since I got rear-ended at a stoplight a little while back. Finally, our landlord decided to ban children from playing on the lawn to protect their in-ground sprinkler system, which is too delicate for soccer balls and yet can somehow withstand riding mowers.

This is quite simply the longest run of sheer misery and stress I've endured since my father passed away from cancer when I was 16.

bicentennial_baby, I feel for you. Let's share a virtual brew. :beer:

[emilyg]

39. Yes.

[RiffRandell]

40. Yes.

I won't go into detail, but somehow, I handled it. I'm very sorry for what you're going through.

[Haole Girl]

41. Many times

You can do it... I know you can. :hug: