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For younger people who work in these places or anyone who is not very assertive, it can be difficult to challenge someone on their age. Some people never have a problem with it, but others are constantly playing this mental battle with themselves of "is s/he or isn't s/he?" and don't want to be wrong. It is easier, they feel, to be wrong by not issuing the challenge than to issue it and then have a potentially angry customer on their hands. It ends up as a Catch-22.
So, they develop strategies involving sizing people up. Some of them make no sense. I mean, what does a cop, never mind someone working with a cop to pursue a sting, really look like? Employees nonetheless get this notion that they think they know and act on it.
I started working with the public when I was 16, so by the time I was working in places that sold alcohol, I had few issues with it, and I had fewer as I went along. I developed the habit of asking for ID from everyone except the regulars that could never be mistaken for someone else. It actually helped things in many ways to ask for an ID from someone who was obviously a senior citizen. The 22-year-old in the store at the same time would see it and tend to have less of a chip on their should when it was their turn. At the same time, carding an 80 year old woman *every single time* she walked into the store made her all giddy. :) I had come to recognize her as a regular and stopped, but she called me on it, so I started doing it again. It was one of the reasons she came there.
And speaking of chips on shoulders, this is a double-edged sword as well. I'm not saying this about you, just offering a general observation. If you're of age and get hostile with an employee about carding you, all you're really doing is making it harder for that person to card the next person who might be underage and potentially adding to a series of learning experiences that will get that person in trouble. On the other hand, people who do get hostile are most likely *not* of age and become suspect, thus ensuring you get noticed and watched and carding every single time you go anywhere.
Just show the ID and move on. Hell, I *wish* people still asked for my ID.
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