ever get the feeling

[MissMillie]

that if you hadn't wasted so much of your time falling for the wrong people that you might have been available when the right one came along?

I'm guessing my right one wound up w/ someone else...

[NYC_SKP]

1. I dunno....I keep holding out.

And wondering if it'll never happen or if the one I'm with is destiny, right or wrong...

[TZ]

2. What if you meet the right one...

but at the wrong time? :shrug:
*sigh*

[MissMillie]

3. yeah, that's the question!

like, I was so absorbed w/ the wrong one that when the right one came, I didn't even may him any mind.

Now, he's w/ someone else.

[unpossibles]

4. well, I don't believe necessarily in a right "one" but I know what you mean

The problem is settling for someone who you really know is not right, perhaps?

I do it too though. I'm kinda crushing on someone right now, actually, but since we work together, and I do not like to make people feel awkward, I doubt it will ever be spoken between us, much less anything else.

[MissMillie]

12. I haven't settled... I'm still alone

and the available pool is shrinking, and my standards are getting tougher.

[unpossibles]

13. hm. Have you considered ways to meet more people so the pool doesn't shrink?

such as a class/hobby or some other way to meet people in a fun environment?

I know that it's difficult to meet people, but I think a class is a good way to do so, as well as to improve yourself other ways.

[MissMillie]

14. what I mean by a shrinking pool is

people my age are already married or in relationships. Divorced men have taken the "never again attitude".

As you grow older the number of available men shrinks. It's not that I don't know them. It's that they're not out there.

[unpossibles]

15. gotcha

And I understand. Plus, not only are fewer available, but also fewer with similar/overlapping interests. One thing though: I won't ask your age, but don't immediately discount someone who is not your age because sometimes that can work, depending on the people. But if it helps, I know what you mean.

[MissMillie]

16. I discount younger guys because most of them want kids

and I'm done having kids.

I'm not averse to older men, but there is a limited number of them as well.

[mcctatas]

5. I used too...

and then the right one came along while I am in the process of becoming available. Granted the timing sucks and it won't be easy but I wouldn't give up hope that the right one is still out there for you :)

[Haole Girl]

6. Aww, MissMillie

When I was looking for a song to describe my life, for liberaltrucker's thread, I thought about posting this song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EPlRcoYj32c

:hug:

[raccoon]

7. No, but I used to think maybe my right one got killed in Nam. Maybe yours did too.

Seriously, :hug:

[Raven]

8. Nope. I've decided that I have no good judgment when it comes to men.

None at all. I will fall for the rat and while I'm falling, I'll know I'm falling for the rat. Nothing to be done about it. It is just the way I'm wired.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

9. My dear Raven...

You did luck out with your son, you know...

Maybe two wrongs did make a right...

:hug:

[MissMillie]

11. that's pretty much where I am too

I've come to the conclusion that if I have any interest at all, there has to be something seriously wrong w/ him.

[Arkansas Granny]

10. I used to wonder about that, but then I adopted Flo's attitude from

Alice. She once said (and I'm paraphrasing) "I've waited all my life for the right man, but I've had a good time with some of the wrong ones.".

[BarenakedLady]

17. Hmmmm

Bad timing is my problem.