I tripped on a carpet in a shopping centre. I couldn't regain my balance. I fell flat on my face.

[applegrove]

Nobody helped me up. Please tell me that is weird. Normally lots of people would sympathize and lend a hand.

[PeaceNikki]

1. Awww... are you ok??!!?

That's awful! I think that's weird and awful that nobody did, but I woulda helped you! :hug:

[applegrove]

2. Thanks. I now feel like I have been helped. I guess nobody was that close to me when I feel. I was

just left with a kinda empty feeling cause I would have been right there to help up any lady or gent who falls.

[KitchenWitch]

3. I would have helped you up.

:hug:

[applegrove]

8. I know you would have. Thanks

[skooooo]

4. Maybe they could tell...

..you weren't hurt? :shrug:

[applegrove]

10. I was very sore for about 20 seconds. I stayed on the floor till I felt okay.

Perhaps nobody saw me.

[skooooo]

15. I'm sorry..

Someone should have helped you.

Are you a really young person in their 20s? If so, that might make people think you couldn't have been hurt... But there's really no excuse. Just saying.

[applegrove]

17. I'm 43. I think most people didn't see me fall because I was behind plants. But there

were 5 people there who should have seen. Anyhoo .... I just thought it was weird. I thought it was funny at first. Then I said to myself "that's just not right". A homeless guy fell right in front of me the other day. I reached out to catch him automatically. Helping others should be an automatic responce. Or maybe I'm projecting what I would have done as a witness to someone falling.

[Zavulon]

5. Deplorable, but not weird.

I slipped on ice in a parking lot last year in front of about eight people and none of them helped me up or even asked if I was okay. Can't say I was surprised, either.

[applegrove]

11. I was surprised. I guess I'm not that old (43) and I look young so nobody thought I was

very hurt.

[Zavulon]

14. I'm 45 myself, and

I wasn't surprised. Apparently you need a head full of gray hair to get common courtesy when you fall.

[hedgehog]

6. Unfortunately, when a lot of people are around, each one feels less

responsible. If one or two people had seen you, they would have helped. If one person had stepped forward, dozens would have stopped.

Knowing this makes me aware of the need to help other people. After years of herding my own children around, I am tuned to keeping an eye out for kids. I make it a point to notice if I see a young kid with no adult in sight and have connected a lost child to security personnel more than once.

[applegrove]

7. Good for you for using your childwatching powers as a force of good in the world.

I saw a kid crying a few weeks ago and assumed he was just fussing. Then somebody else asked why he was crying and it seems he had lost his mother in the store. I felt like a heel for not picking up on that and not asking.

[flvegan]

9. Most car accident witnesses refuse to stop as well. My theory?

Far too many people suck.

Hope you're okay. I'd have stopped to help you out, if that helps at all.

[applegrove]

13. It does help. I'm not hurt. Just my feelings are hurt. Responding to my post

helps a great deal. Why I posted I knew I could get some sympathy on DU. At the time I thought it was funny nobody helped. Then I got home and I thought nobody even asked if I was okay. Seriously...maybe nobody saw...I was behind some plants. But I swear I could see at least 5 people on my side of the plants.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

12. I'm so sorry Applegrove

I hope you are OK:hug: I definitely would have helped you had I been there. I think it's a sad that no-one came to lend a hand and, despite what people say about modern society, I think it is somewhat unusual. Most times I have seen people lend a hand when someone has fallen over or is hurt or in pain

:hug:

[applegrove]

18. I agree it is a little odd. I'm not hurt at all. Just bewildered at todays youth.

[oregonjen]

16. A friend of mine tripped and fell while she was walking with her toddler

and her baby in a stroller. Not one person stopped to help her up. She was stunned and saddened.

[applegrove]

19. That is really sad. Babies and old people need to be helped whenever something goes a little wrong.

[Dystopian]

20. Ouch...so sorry.

:hug:

I'm glad you're okay, and I understand why your feelings are hurt.
Falling down in public is really embarrassing, maybe someone didn't want to embarrass you even more by calling attention to you if you seemed okay? If only one person was there...nearby, perhaps you would have been asked.
People are strange....
I'm sorry that a 'random acts of kindness' person wasn't there for you...:hug:

peace~

[applegrove]

23. Thanks.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

21. My dear applegrove...

I am so sorry to hear this...

Now I'm wondering...when I fell in NYC, when I was visiting there last summer, one young man got down with me and asked me if I was OK, which I was. And he helped me get up.

Maybe it's because I have silver hair? I am a lot older than you, but except for my hair, I don't really look it...

I would have helped you, sweetie...

I'm glad you're OK, and that you're feeling a little less traumatized by the whole thing too... :hug:

[applegrove]

22. Thanks peggy. You are always so gratious and so full of good sense.

[LisaM]

24. I fell in the street a few weeks ago and lots of people tried to help

I think it was an aberration. Hope you're okay.

[applegrove]

28. Yes. I was just on the other side of a set of door and behind a plant. The people around were not

looking as I fell. I'm sure it is an aberation. My dad fell a few weeks ago and lots of people were right there to help him including he said some old ladies who weren't any steadier on their feet than he was.

[NJmaverick]

25. What part of the Country do you live in?

In some parts, this would be considered normal.

[applegrove]

29. I live in Ontario. It is definitely not normal unless nobody saw me fall which is perhaps the case.

[NJmaverick]

31. That's quite possible, although it's still odd to see someone on the ground

here in North New Jersey, you are lucky if you are not stepped on or run over with a shopping cart.

[applegrove]

33. I was near the exit. Up a few set of stairs.

[Shell Beau]

26. That is weird. I would have at least asked if you were okay.

Jeez!

Hope you are all right!

[applegrove]

30. Oh I'm absolutely fine. Thanks.

[texanwitch]

27. What goes around, comes around.

People whow refuse to help will need help someday.

I wish I could have been there to help you.

I was at a grocery store the other day and helped a couple who looked to be in their 80's.

They had a big 50 lb. sack of dog food, a couple of young guys just walked passed them and didn't help.

The bag of dog food was just to much for them to handle

I hope you are OK.

[applegrove]

32. You did good. I know. Some people are just so thoughtless and I know I can

be..sometimes my head is in the clouds. But I would definitely ask someone who fell if they were okay. I just did last week.

[texanwitch]

34. I can't understand walking passed someone who needs help.

I guess it was growing up on the farm, we all helped each other.

It like saying please and thank you, I do it without thinking.

[tigereye]

42. it's that simple lack of compassion and concern for others that really bothers

me. :(


People who don't open doors for others, don't help older folks, don't give up their seats on buses. It just ain't right. I have tried to raise my son to show compassion for others, since that, ultimately, is what makes us human, I think.

[texanwitch]

44. The two young guys saw the couple trying to deal with the dog food and just walked by.

It wouldn't have taken a minute to stop and put the bag in the back of the truck.

After I helped the couple I went to talk with the boys and said that could have been your Grandparents.

I also told them you will be old one day.

Like I said what goes around, comes around.

[applegrove]

47. Good for you. I am usually too shy to say anything to anyone. Even if I am disgusted like

by a 3 year old with a tatoo on his wrist. That is child abuse. I said nothing. I talked myself into "maybe it is just a temporary tatoo".

[applegrove]

46. Absolutely. Empathy is the only way to fly through life. It is so rewarding to give.

[pitohui]

35. wow, i hope you are ok, i don't think that is weird tho

i don't normally try to help someone up unless it's clear they need help (a child on crutches, a much older woman) because when i fall like that it's my wish to pretend that no one noticed

maybe you looked hale and hearty enough that no one wanted to embarrass you

i trip a LOT because i'm just a klutz like that and i'm always grateful when no one makes a fuss because usually there is one person who does make a big fuss and it's just awkward

be glad you look young and strong, would be my takeaway

[applegrove]

37. Good advice. I will take it.

[Drunken Irishman]

36. I would have laughed and then helped you up.

:D

At least if I knew you were ok.

Maybe help you up and then laugh?

But I would never let someone just lay there.

[applegrove]

38. I was embarrassed. Then I got up and thought it was funny that nobody helped. Now I think it was

just a situation that nobody actually saw me fall who was nearby.

[Drunken Irishman]

45. It's possible...also possible is that people were embarrassed for you.

Maybe they saw that you were ok and didn't want to embarrass you anymore by making it an issue?

I know when I fall, I pray no one saw me because of the embarrassment. So I just sit there, get up and look like nothing happened. If someone comes up to me and asks if I'm ok or offers to help me, I look mortified.

[Jamastiene]

39. In this hateful, cruel world? No, it's not weird.

It's a damn shame and wrong as hell, but not weird in this hateful, cruel world.

[applegrove]

48. I think the political culture brought ot us by neocons has been to create a lack of empathy

in people. That is the social engineering they like.

[tigereye]

40. I would have and people usually do

it's pretty uncool when they don't, though. :hug:

[applegrove]

50. Thanks.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

41. I wish I had been there...

I'd have been happy to help you up and make sure you were ok. :hug:

[applegrove]

49. Thanks. I feel "lifted up" by this series of posts.

[I Have A Dream]

43. I'm so sorry that happened.

:(

:hug:

[applegrove]

51. Thanks.