I committed a massive "guy-code" violation.

[HEyHEY]

I got a facebook message from this great woman my buddy used to use for sex (No point tap-dancing.) She was such a sweet girl and I always told him he was being a fucking idiot. So, I got a message from her today asking a question about something related to my field and she asked if I remembered her.

I wrote, "Of course I remember you. You're that charming, cute, well mannered girl Josh used to go around with. I always told him he was an idiot for not treating you more seriously. How've you been?"

She's with some other dude now and doesn't speak to him. I remember when he told me, he actually had the gall to look for sympathy from me. Pretty sad, really.

I don't feel bad, I've seen him pull stupid crap I stopped doing when I was 18.

[malta blue]

1. fb causes all sorts of violations....

A friend of Little MB's dad (we have been divorced for 7 years and I have been remarried and again separated since then) chats with me.

[GOPisEvil]

2. He violated the rules first.

Therefore, he does not get the protection of the guy code.

[arcadian]

3. Did you block a cock?

Technically speaking.

[HEyHEY]

4. nope!

Just let a nice young woman know SHE wasn't the problem.

[He loved Big Brother]

17. That was nice of you!

Now if only that kind of thing were the typical "guy-code". Maybe it is, actually. My ex's friends still tell me he messed up a good thing. I know it already, bit it's nice to hear from his friends. Especially when I know they aren't saying it to get in my pants. They all live 2000+ miles away, so I am assuming it's not to get in my pants at any rate. Who knows with guys.

[Redstone]

5. RUN, do NOT walk away from that one. It's off the scale on the toxicity meter.

Redstone

[petronius]

6. I'm not really seeing the violation here. You didn't prevent another guy from

getting laid, or get someone in trouble with his partner/family, or cause problems with his job. Outside of those situations, I believe that calling a douchebag a douchebag is permitted under the code...

:shrug:

[Dr. Strange]

9. My testosterone concurs.

No code violation.

[Shell Beau]

7. Well, I may have approached it differently but I am a gal.

I think you could've said all that minus the not treating her seriously part. But I also wouldn't consider it a big deal either.

[Schema Thing]

8. fuck "guy-code"

Real men don't need a team, ie: guys vs gals. There can't be a "code" if you treat women as equals instead of others.

[redqueen]

15. That is so nice to read.

:)

[Schema Thing]

16. well then...

Fuck "guy-code". Real men don't need a team, ie: guys vs gals. There can't be a "code" if you treat women as equals instead of others.



;)

[PittPoliSci]

32. well, by your standard then...

guys should be free to sleep with their buddies girlfriends without fear of any sort of reprisal.

"what? there's no code sayin' i couldn't fuck samantha. what're you so mad for? it isn't like you two are married."

[Orrex]

10. Tell me more about this 'point tap-dancing'

And why did your pal have none of it?

[peace frog]

11. Aw, never mind the "guy-code" nonsense

You responded very nicely to a young lady who you acknowledge was rather callously used by a friend. Good for her that she's moved on and here's wishing her well in her new relationship. I'm of the female persuasion and I say "no biggie, dude".

[ghostsofgiants]

12. I used to tell my former roommate's now-ex that hhe was a dick all the time.

Fuck the "guy code" if you can't rag on a dude who's being a dick to a victim of his dickish ways.

[Swede]

13. You don't have to turn your dude card in.

Yet.

[DarkTirade]

14. I see nothing wrong with honesty.

:shrug:

[JVS]

18. You're just trying to score points with women in the forum by depicting yourself as some kind of...

maverick who actually has feelings and doesn't obey the code.

[HEyHEY]

23. Dude.. SHHHH

Guy-code, guy-code!

[JVS]

24. Ooops. Did I say that? What I meant to say was that you're one of the good ones HEyHEY and any...

woman would be lucky to have you




























you owe me. :-)

[billyskank]

19. The "guy code" exists to protect douchebags.

Not worth keeping, IMO.

[redqueen]

30. It sure backs up my reason for staying the hell away from men, though.

:hi:

[MilesColtrane]

20. If you wrote this with the intent of getting into her pants it's not a violation.

Harsh...but I didn't write the rules.

[JVS]

21. AMEN!

[flvegan]

22. Good set-up to hit it.

:thumbsup:










:hide:

[Zavulon]

25. This is "massive?"

To me, your biggest mistake was signing up for Facebook.

[NoPasaran]

26. Is this the first time "guy-code" and "tap-dancing" have appeared in the same post?

Someone call the Commissioner! History has been made here!

[begin_within]

27. I don't see what you did wrong.

I think what you wrote her was great.

[Brooklyns_Finest]

28. Yeah

I hope you are just setting things up to sex her in the future. If not, why bother making nice nice with your boys ex-girl? If your boy was "using"(as if she wasn't doing the same thing to him?) her for sex, then she is probably being used by the next guy. Some guys need to get off this 1950's mentality of the virtious woman and the evil man when it comes to sexual relationships. She probably thought your words were cute, but you might have put yourself in the "friends zone" which means it will be a hurdle to try and sex her. Good luck with that!

[HEyHEY]

29. considering she has a BF, I don't care

I can get laid easily enough without having to take advantage of my friend's ex-non-girlfriend. She was a sweet girl who deserved better. She was a 25-year-old virgin til him, then he just treated her like shit. The reason she likely remained celebit was hearing stories about guys like him.

[PittPoliSci]

31. no clear violaiton

you're allowed to call your friends to task for acting like jerks. just don't belittle them for the point of getting yourself ahead with a person. no violation :thumbsup:

[quakerboy]

33. Theres a code now?

Damn. I get left out of everything.