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This was my response to Thom's whine thread. However, because some of you adore my misfortune, and I could use input, I'll post it by itself. I spent a year or so here with little to no whining, and after taking a month or so of your time, I hope to stop soon to go back to being my old, normal, smart-ass self:
It's been driving me crazy all day. In the way that I couldn't think straight and felt all fucked up inside. Now I'm drinking, so it's mellowed a bit.
Back story (because you really care ): Sunday night, there is a sort of wrap-up party for this festival at a bar, where, after the crowd had largely dwindled, I sat and talked to this girl, Liz, for hours. It was the nicest time that I've had in months, since I've been dumped and felt very alone and insanely sad. She was sweet and we just talked about things... not about how our lives are horrible. On the way to this bar, she mentioned that there was a party that night, but we agreed that we don't like parties and would rather hang out at the bar. When we were there, I knew that something was up, because she was getting calls and texts and avoiding them, some, I'm sure, from her boyfriend. Her boyfriend who has cheated on her, but she took back, but I don't think is very happy with. The way she looked at me and touched me made me feel a way that I haven't felt in years...
When it was time to go, I told her that I would walk her home, because she lives right down the street from me. Then, she said, "you know I live with my boyfriend, right?", and I said, "I know that all too well, dear." Anyway, I walked her most of the way home, but after we'd passed my house, she told me that I shouldn't walk all the way with her, even though it was only one block or so more. Then she tried to shake my hand, which I would have none of, told her as much, and then we had a nice hug.
The next day, I felt a mix of incredibly sick and hung over, but also great, because I didn't wake up thinking of my ex and crying. I thought of what a nice night I'd had.
So, later that day, I run into her and two of our friends on the street, and we all talk a bit. She says something like, "I felt really horrible this morning", at which point I asked if she'd been hung over, and then it was clear that that's not how she meant that she felt horrible. WHAT THE FUCK DID SHE MEAN?! Did she feel horrible like, "I'm felt horrible for possibly leading you on", or did it mean, "I felt horrible for not going home with you or at least giving you a kiss", did it mean, "I felt horrible for skipping the party and not telling my boyfriend where I was", or did it mean, "I felt horrible about my life, because you're a sweetheart, and I think my life could be better without this cheating douchebag." What the hell did she mean?
And what the hell did she mean the other night when she felt she had to remind me that she lived with her boyfriend? Did she think I was trying to pick her up, and wanted to make it clear that that wouldn't happen? Did she realize that I don't care, and that I just wanted to walk her home to spend more time with her and make sure that she got home safely?
There was no chance to talk about any of this on the street, because I was all sick and hung over, and because it all seems rather private. However, a friend of ours then did thank me for walking her home, and said that a lot of people had been worried about her when she didn't show up at that party. However, she didn't say it in a mean or concerned way. It all seemed rather nice. Then I went home and drank, as I do, so I didn't worry too much about it until today.
Today it's been driving me fucking crazy. I feel so completely fucked up. I'm still 100% heart broken about X, but I also really adore Liz, but don't know what the hell she wants. I don't even know what I want, though I do know that spending that time with her made me feel better than I have in a very long time.
Ok, that's my whinging for today.
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