Yikes!! Just got a facebook invite from the guy who was my one true love

[Critters2]

in college! He's some big PhD expert on Southeast Asia now. Living in Thailand. We ended not on good terms, when he wrote me from his Peace Corps place to tell me he'd fallen in love with one of his 12 yo English students. This was 25 years ago, so I suppose I should be over it. But I'm not.

How should I respond to him?

[KitchenWitch]

1. Yikes...

I am not sure how I would respond to that.

:hug:

[Critters2]

4. My inner 20 year old is feeling all weak-kneed. I'm gonna slap her. nt

[KitchenWitch]

7. Wish I had good advice here.

[DarkTirade]

2. Yikes. How old was he at the time?

[Critters2]

3. 22, maybe 23. nt

[DarkTirade]

5. ... and to think I felt a little weird for flirting with a 19 year old...

[Critters2]

6. Yep. It struck me as creepy at the time. He waited til she was of age,

brought her to the states, married her, and then they settled into a college town while he did his PhD and she her undergrad. Then she got involved with a professor and left him and moved to Canada. The he started calling me again. But not for long.

[DarkTirade]

13. Yeeeeah. I think I'd give him a fairly wide berth.

[JVS]

8. Don't approve too soon. He'll think you're easy!

[Parche]

9. Thailand

did she Bangkok?

:shrug: :hi: :hug:

[Critters2]

10. Here's the wierd thing: I was involved with two different guys

who went off to Thailand, and married Thai women. I'm the best damn thing to ever happen to single Thai women.

[Parche]

11. so after a while you just said.....Phuket?

:rofl: :hi: :hug:

[Critters2]

16. I lay down an ultimatum. Either we Bangkok

or Phuket. :hi:

[KitchenWitch]

12. ...

:hug:

And I am married to a half Thai man! :D

[RagAss]

14. ...and I once wore a tie !

[Critters2]

17. It's like a theme Lounge! nt

[Fire Walk With Me]

15. "How should I respond to him?"

Hello! Goodbye!

[redqueen]

18. 12? That's fucking sick.

Just keep reminding yourself what a sick motherfucker he is.

I wouldn't respond to that kind of person at all.

[Critters2]

20. All his male friends, including clergy, couldn't see why I found it sick.

They just kept telling me I was having trouble dealing with the fact that he was interested in someone else. I went through a "Geez! All men are sick!" period because of this.

[redqueen]

22. Clergy? Holy crap.

I can see how that would start an "All men are sick!" Phase.

Thank God that's not true. Geez is right.

The nerve of him to contact you after all this time, after something like that. Argh... it's pissing me off and I'm not even involved. :P

[Critters2]

24. Yeah. I should have Skittles kick his ass. nt

[huskerlaw]

19. I got a facebook invite from one of my HS boyfriends...

he's a Log Cabin Republican. :rofl:

The first part I'm more than cool with, but a REPUBLICAN?! :puke:

[Critters2]

21. Ooh, Cognitive dissonance! nt

[huskerlaw]

23. I know, right?

One does wonder how that happens...

[Blue_In_AK]

25. Carefully.

Are either/both of you married? I reunited with my high school sweetheart after 37 years and now two divorces later, we're together. These relationships can be very, very powerful, so I advise caution unless you're both free to let whatever happens happen.

ed. The 12-year-old thing is kinda weird. That might give me second thoughts.