stepping in other people's shit. seriously, i need advice.

[mopinko]

ok, i had this thread the other day, about a member of my artist co-op.
i tried to talk to her again the next day, thinking she might have thought her words over, but i got the same kinda crazy, quiet but ranting reaction. "you are one of those people. everything is fine, but you keep saving up things to be mad about. you are one of those people that yells, that raises their voice. you are trying to corner me, and manipulate me, and get me to do things. i have had 2 relationships in my adult life that were manipulative, and dominating and abusive. i don't need any more. i walked away. i am just not going to go there. you are one of those people. i am just not going to be told what to do." and on and on, in that way that people have when you hit a nerve.
so, i can see that i am tripping on some trauma triggers here. bit i have never yelled at this woman. or anything of the sort, although i did have a big beef with a couple of members. long story, but over. and overtly made up and all. she has absolutely no reason to think anything of this stuff about me.
and honestly, i had no idea that she didn't like me. you would never know.
i can pretty easily back off a great deal, now that i know. and she certainly seems willing to just paste her happy face back on and pretend everything is fine.
but there are only 10 of us. this kind of animosity just can't stay hidden. and i am the pres, and i like being the pres, and want to keep the job. and honestly, if i loose it over this, i will have to lay it out there. i hate like hell to be going around asking other members if she is talking about me, etc. but i do feel like this might be bubbling around. and i want to know how bad it is.
our sale is in 3 weeks. after that there is not a lot of argue about. but it is a long 3 weeks.

so, any advice?

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

1. shoot her twice in the forehead

and move to Argentina?

too extreme, I am guessing

dear mods... that is a joke

[mopinko]

2. i am a nut magnet.

seems like every member we have had that was off emotionally fixated on me. leadership is it's own reward, i guess.

and your plan sounds interesting, but argentina? can i go to ireland instead?

[WannaJumpMyScooter]

3. Northern? or Republic of?

I think they might hunt you down there.

[mopinko]

4. republic of

you could be right. i am one of them, tho. if i practiced hard on my accent, i think i could blend in. i would have to change my hair cut. right now i have a buzz with a fringe of dreadlocks at the back. prolly need to loose that.

edited to say that i can drink, also.