What does it mean when you ask out a girl...

[Lucian]

and you say "so you want to go out sometime" and she says "to do what?" and you say "to go on a date" and she says "yeah, I'd like to. what do you want to do?" and you say "I don't know. Dinner and a movie?" and she says "let's go bowling" and you say "okay. what's your number? I'll call you sometime" and she says "ask me at work" and you say "when's the next time you work" and she says "talk to me on monday". I'm confused with the last phrase, and yes, I've been drinking tonight. What does she mean "talk to me on Monday"? Is she interested or no? I'm racking my brain with that one right now...

[LeftyFingerPop]

1. It means you should start separating your sentences with paragraphs.

[Lucian]

2. Yeah, I know that...

hence "Yes, I've been drinking tonight".

[LeftyFingerPop]

5. I've been drinking too...and I can't read without paragraphs.

[Lucian]

8. I don't blame you.

I can't usually read without paragraphs either. But I needed to get all that off my mind before I forgot about it in my drunken stupor...

[mcctatas]

3. wait...

what?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. Seems to me that your drinking is interfering with your thinking.

She says talk to me Monday, then talk to her Monday!

I'd say she's interested...

In the future, I'd be a bit more specific about what you'd like to do...

:shrug:

Your uncertainty may be putting her off...

Good luck!

:hi:

[Lucian]

6. Usually I thought when you say...

"to go out" meant to "go on a date". :shrug:

I'm glad to know that she may be interested, though. :)

Check your PM. :hi:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

12. Got it, and back atcha!

[billyoc]

7. Hang on,

[Lucian]

9. Too much Guinness.

:hi:

[LeftyFingerPop]

10. Women love it when you call them "girls"....

Seriously, they fucking dig that.

[Lucian]

11. I get it.

I'm kinda drunk right now, okay? :hi: I'll probably regret this post tomorrow.

[LeftyFingerPop]

13. Never regret.

:hi:

[Lucian]

14. I have too many regrets.

[LeftyFingerPop]

15. It will be alright. n/t

[Lucian]

16. So what do you think of the OP...

if you can decipher it. :shrug:

I apologize in advance for the run-on sentence.

[LeftyFingerPop]

17. One sec...let me read it. n/t

[LeftyFingerPop]

18. Well....I am a 50 year old man...

This "ask me at work" stuff...I don't understand. May I ask your age please? That may help me answer your OP.

[Lucian]

19. 26.

She's 25.

[LeftyFingerPop]

20. OK....

My opinion...

And you will learn this...

Ask her at work as she asked. But if that goes haywire, then forget it.

As we age, we learn...ask for exactly what you want. If you get vague answers, smile and move on.

Good luck.

[Lucian]

21. Thank you.

:)

[HEyHEY]

24. Really? I hold them to that shit

The best part is holding them to it KNOWING they're not into it... that way they'll think twice before pulling that ambigous shit again.

[Frank Cannon]

33. Maybe she has nosy roommates...

or an answering machine that doesn't work very well. Maybe her phone got disconnected. Maybe she still lives with her parents and they're always in her hair. Maybe she's afraid that he's a Ted Bundy type and would just as soon not give out her private number this early in the game. (That might also be why she suggests the bowling date.)

There are a lot of reasons why she might suggest calling her at work. But we can at least assume she is interested or she could have chosen one of a million ways to dismiss him entirely.

[Iggo]

22. It means talk to her Monday.

C'mon, man. Is she worth following simple directions for? Well, then...?

[HEyHEY]

23. It means you were hammered and she knew it - and your drunk ass was irritating

All in all, if she's willing to sit through your drunken attempt to ask her out, she must dig you at least a little bit, SWEET!

And yes, I am serious. You're good, don't worry.

[Orrex]

25. It means that you were passed out in a public bathroom

And you were putting the moves on the toilet paper dispenser.

[MullenBank]

26. Goodbye, Mr. Bond

Try one more time. Have a plan-- let's go do X. If she doesn't counter with Y or say yes then she's blowing you off. Cowboy up, smile and bid her a nice day. Plenty of fish in the sea blah blah blah. Sniff.

[MilesColtrane]

27. She's interested enough...

...but, she's unsure as of yet whether or not you are a crazed stalker/cannibal. Hence the request for contact at her workplace.

I assume that she works in a place that has some form of security that could be called in the event that you begin gibbering, crying, or removing your clothing.

[HEyHEY]

30. Chicks just don't like romance

[PVnRT]

28. It means

she wants to strip naked with you, cover each others' bodies with apple butter, and worship Pan in the forest. No sex.

[petronius]

29. It means: a) she is receptive to the idea of going on a date with you,

b) she would prefer that you have some kind of clear plan before asking her out, c) your first date shoud be bowling, but you should also bring some of your own ideas to the table, d) you should discuss this with her further on Monday, and e) that discussion should occur at her place of work.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

31. When you ask her out, have a specific idea, even if it's just "coffee"

"So do you want to go out some time?" is not an invitation; it's a question.

"Do you want to go out for a drink after work on Monday?" is a specific invitation, but a non-threatening one. If you find that the chemistry isn't there, you can both just go home, no hard feelings. If things are going well, you can suggest dinner as an add-on, and other add-ons as well, if mutually agreeable.

[astral]

34. Yeah, that was it

I had a fella ask me for a hike once. I didn't know him from Adam, and he gave me his number on a scrap of paper and told me to call him when I wanted to go for a hike. We'd had like, one three minute conversation at the office or something, and he was a maintenance guy or something.

And I thought, hey, getting to know him better wasn't such an awful thought, but whole hike, like, before going out for coffee or anything? I was just not comfortable with it. He goofed, he should have asked for coffee or dinner or a movie or something, and then if we seemed to click, a hike next would be great.

Or, maybe he just wanted a hiking buddy and I missed the clue . . .

[Frank Cannon]

32. Here's how the conversation should have gone...

"Hey, I've got two tickets to see a movie next Saturday. Would you like to go?"
"Um, yeah, sure."
"Maybe we can have dinner beforehand. Do you like Italian? I know a great place by the movie theater."
"Yeah, that sounds good."
"I'll give you a call and you can let me know what time would be good to pick you up."
"It's actually best to call me at work. I'll be there on Monday. Here's the number..."

Women like guys who have it all figured out. So at least pretend to have your shit together before you ask them on a date. You will find it works much better and easier.

I can forgive you this time, because you were wasted.