I've debated about posting this, but I really need the support

[lizziegrace]

I moved up to Milwaukee and accepted a job with a CPA firm. Not my first choice, but a good opportunity. Since I was hired, I've done nothing but bookkeeping work. I'm not a fast bookkeeper. I was hired to analyze statements and deal with the clients. I was let go on Monday morning at 9:30 because I wasn't a "good fit". I never got a chance to deal with clients or do any of the tasks I was hired to do. I was also their new training guinea pig. Their training has been less than adequate in the past and I was the one who read all the manuals they were developing and critiqued them.

So, I'm 450 miles away from the only home I knew for 14 years, I'm locked into a 1 year lease, Lelapin leaves for college in 5 weeks and I'm unemployed. Again.

I'm humiliated, embarassed and unbelievably depressed. I wish the sun wouldn't come up in the morning. If it wasn't for Lelapin, I don't know where I'd be...

Thanks for letting me vent. I'm not made for this world. I'm too nice. I'm too old and too tired.

[Midlodemocrat]

1. Oh, sweetie. I'm so very, very sorry.

Their loss. :hug:

[Rambis]

2. Sorry for the troubles

:hug:

[TZ]

3. I'm so sorry.

I went through a run of luck like that the last two years. I'm sure you will find a new job soon..If I recall you had several offers..which leads me to believe your skills make you marketable...
:hug:

[lizziegrace]

6. I did have several offers

I made the wrong decision for the right reasons.

I don't know how many more times I can start over again. I'm so far beyond tired I can't even find words for it...

[Oeditpus Rex]

4. Damn, girl

I swear you have the worst luck of anyone I've ever known. :(



:hug: :loveya: :hug:

[lizziegrace]

11. Wish I could be known for anything else..

:hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

5. You have friends here.

Take heart, we're going to help you through this.

:hug:

[lizziegrace]

9. I don't know what I'd do without

you and your wonderful guy.

:hug:

I'm so scared right now.

[Dangerously Amused]

15. You know where we'll be tonight if you need a safe place to hang.

Or we can meet you wherever afterward if you don't feel up to the drive.

:hug:

[Pierre.Suave]

7. Oh man...

:hug:s for you and Lelapin...

[mnhtnbb]

8. Oh, lizziegrace. I'm so sorry. Call the legal aid and see if they

can do something for you to get you out of your lease. Sometimes there are clauses that allow
an 'escape' in case of job loss.

My son was laid off twice in three years and then quit another job (he was going to get fired).
He's had four jobs in four years, but always managed to find another one within 6-8 weeks.

Holding good thoughts for you. But first try to get some help to get out of your lease so you'd be free
to leave Milwaukee.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

10. My dear lizziegrace...

Oh, that sucks.

How dare they do this to you?

Wish I could help somehow...

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

12. Jesus, Millie, I don't know what to say.

:hug: :loveya:

[Fran Kubelik]

13. Aw shit

You were made for this world. This world needs more nice people like you.

I am so sorry you're in the position you're in. I know you will make it through. :hug: You're one of the good ones.

[malta blue]

14. aw honey...

:hug::hug:

I'm sorry the job did not work out.

Please don't give up. We are all behind you to support you :pals:

[ScreamingMeemie]

16. I think that way most days too...but have to tell myself (almost constantly)

that other people think differently of me. MrG thought that way too, and now hundreds are still saddened. Hey, I have an idea...move to Texas with me. :hug:

[PeaceNikki]

17. Check your PM

[lizziegrace]

19. Got it...

thank you. :hug:

[kay1864]

18. My dad lives near Milwaukee and is a retired CPA

He might know someone who's hiring. PM me please.

[SallyMander]

20. Biggest of hugs for you LG

Maybe you can get back with one of the other companies that made you an offer? I know you must feel so down right now, but maybe this is a blessing in disguise. This company sounds unfriendly and unreasonable, and you probably wouldn't have been happy there for long! Maybe this will let you find someplace that lets you do what you want to do, and that appreciates and supports their good employees!

I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I sure wish you were still in Cbus because i'd rush you straight off for some Surly Girl therapy. ;)

:hug: :loveya: :hug:


(You have my number if there's anything i can do for you from here!!!)

[lizziegrace]

21. Never been to Surly Girl

Lelapin loved it. ;)

:hug:

Thank you sweetie...

[SallyMander]

23. It's a date, next time you're in town

:hug:

And another one for lelapin :hug:

[InternalDialogue]

22. Oh, lizziegrace, I'm so sorry to hear about it.

Like you said, you made the wrong choice for the right reasons. You deserve to feel cheated and sad about it.

But you also had those offers, so there is a place for you, whether it's in Milwaukee or back in Ohio or ???

Take care of the things you need to take care of now, and get your head somewhere you can relax and think. You can pull yourself back into the game. I wish you didn't run into so many problems one after another -- that's completely unfair to you, but you're capable and worthy of giving yourself every opportunity to improve things. Ignore the humiliation and embarrassment -- that's not your burden to bear. You acted and behaved exactly the way you should have.

I'm sorry your tired, and I'm sorry you're running into bad times. But that's what friends are for, to vent to, lean on, cry with.... You can take care of it, I know you can.

[av8rdave]

24. So sorry to hear

It doesn't seem fair to get that treatment when you staked a cross country move on the deal. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you will wind up with something great there and be happy you made the move anyway!

[RainDog]

25. hugs to you

I know exactly how you feel and where you're coming from. honestly, some days the only reason I haven't checked out of this world is because I thought I would mess up my kids more than if I didn't. Some days I think... I've "fulfilled" my selfish gene purpose and I have no value to this world.. at least that's what circumstances seem to say too often.

The thing I know to tell you is that tomorrow can be something different. Things can change. One small thing can change this or any unfair and hurtful situation.

Do not do something in a moment of frustration because that moment will pass and you will have other opportunities. The old thing about what doesn't kill us makes us stronger is truer than true - not in a "bootstrap" sense but in a survivor sense.

You have many people, as is obvious here, who love you and who want to do what they can to help you get work and life going in the direction you want. And of course, you have a wonderful daughter who loves you with all her heart, which is also obvious.

Let her see you overcome this moment. You can and will do so.

(I'm writing these things to you b/c they're things I say to myself, except for the part about many people here who love... but life is unfair. We all should know that bad things happen to good people and there is no sense to it beyond the sense we make of it.)

[lizziegrace]

30. ...

:hug:

:hug:



:hug:

[SammyWinstonJack]

45. !

:thumbsup: :hug:

[Dr. Strange]

57. The tender ninja knows whereof she speaks.

:hi: :loveya:

[Serial Mom]

26. I am sorry to hear this...

those of us in area will help you in ANY WAY we can, just PM us.

I will check to see if I know of something that may be a fit for you!

Stay strong and look for the sun in the morning!!

[Guava Jelly]

27. I'm sorry lizziegrace

I truly hope things work out for you.Just try to remember.
This is only a moment in time. Moments change,things improve.
And they will. :hug:
I wish you the best :hug:

[Cabcere]

28. Oh, lizziegrace, I am so sorry to hear that.

:hug: You deserve so much better, sweetie, and I'm sending thoughts/prayers/good vibes your way. :pals: Big hugs to you and Lelapin - you are both wonderful people, and I hope things get better for you soon. :grouphug: Peace.

[1gobluedem]

29. Oh no!

That is so horribly, horribly unfair. I hate that all of this has been happening to you; sometimes it all happens at once.

Anything I can say has been said a hundred times before or is a horrible cliche so just....:hug:

[Bullwinkle925]

31. First of all . . .

DON'T BE EMBARASSED! Look at it as a *blessing in disguise*. Perhaps now you'll be able to find a job that is rewarding in a lot of different ways.

Secondly . . .

YOU'RE NOT TOO OLD!! Let's not even *go there*. (as I'm, ahem, way older than you are.)

Thirdly . . .

Just know that there are tonnes of people here who love and care about you.
Vent any damn time you want!!!!!


Big Hugs . . .
BW925

[lizziegrace]

33. ...

:hug:


I *feel* very old and tired...

[PeaceNikki]

34. Oooh, and now the Chief said:

"We will make sure we include her in our recruitment process"

I just know they'll be impressed. Especially when they meet you.

:)

[lizziegrace]

38. wow...

:)

[Bullwinkle925]

49. oh sweetie . . .

sounds more like depression to me.
definitely hang in there - things always take a turn-around - even if it doesn't seem like it!! just ask me.

you take care of yourself. PM me anytime you wish.


BIGGER HUGS . . .
BW925

[huskerlaw]

32. Awww, lizzie...

I wish I could reach out and give you a hug...a real one.

You are one of the sweetest people I know, and I simply don't understand why the universe sees fit to screw you over at every turn. I know life's not fair, but damn girl, this is just getting ridiculous, isn't it?

You know what you have to do though, you've been doing it for a long time now...keep fighting. Chin up, lizziegrace. There's a lot of people who support you, lean on us. Let us help you, any way that we can...and don't be afraid to ask us.

:hug:

[femmocrat]

35. Oh geez, that is a shame....

I remember how excited you were about moving. I can't believe they treated you so shabbily. So sorry, lizzie.....

Sending you good vibes and a big :hug:

[GOPisEvil]

36. Call those other places and see if they still have openings!

You never get what you want if you don't ask.

Best wishes, I know you'll come through this ok. :hug:

[RetroLounge]

37. Well, that just sucks...

So sorry to hear...

:hug:

But it ain't your fault. It's their loss.

RL

[lizziegrace]

39. Thanks...

but they don't have rent due...

[RetroLounge]

40. No Severence?

Unemployment?

RL

[lizziegrace]

42. severance is my 2 weeks vacation

that's taken to pay the advance they gave me to help pay for my move. So effectively, no.

No word on unemployment. I've applied but it has to go through Ohio since I've not lived here 2 years.

[I Have A Dream]

41. Some employers are just so heartless.

I don't understand how they can expect brand-new employees to be able to perform as they would when they're fully trained. x(

I'm so sorry that this happened. I will definitely be sending good vibes your way. :hug:

(On edit: I think that it's really important to say that there's no reason for you to feel embarrassed; you're the victim here because they had very unreasonable expectations of a brand-new employee. They're at fault -- not you. :()

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

43. Well, that sucks out loud!

It's especially sucktastic that your employer obviously didn't give you much of a chance to learn the job. At my work they hired this kid several months ago who's so far pretty much of a clueless tool, but everybody's bending over backwards and taking all kinds of extra time to help him learn the job, since nobody wants him to fail. And so maybe he'll eventually figure out the job in spite of himself. That's the way it should be. He's being given a fair chance.

And yet there you are, willing to move to a new city, apparently doing your damnedest to learn your new job and these asshats didn't give you a fair chance. That really stinks. But I'm sure you'll find a job you like, where they treat you fairly. Hang in there.

Come to think of it, we shoulda hired you in the first place.

[ismnotwasm]

44. That is awful

I'm glad you have a little light in your life right now. I have no wisdom, just a hug--And a few choice and well modulated curse words and phrases for that CPA firm:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

46. aww lizzie

and lelapin


:hug:




pm me your number if you want to talk......



lost

[MissMillie]

47. I'm so sorry that the job didn't work out

I know there will be one that will, and you'll love it.

:hug:

I wish I knew how to say something that would make you feel better. I really do feel very badly that things are not going your way right now.

I promise, the pendulum always sways back the other way.

:hug:

Feel free to call me if you need a shoulder. If you don't still have my number, PM me if you'd like it.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

48. Employers can really be bastards sometimes

:hug:

They set goals you've never been told about and then fire you for not meeting them.

[SPKrazy]

50. Lizzie, you are very nice

you aren't too old, you may be tired

I believe that it sounds like it was a bad fit for them, maybe for you too, but they wanted something that you weren't. You are skilled in ways that they weren't looking for.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It totally sucks. I also believe that you are in fact a bright, and successful person in your career. You are experiencing the problems that what I call over corporatism creates. It is I think a by product of bushenomics, and frankly the attitude that corporate entities have had for a couple of decades. They want to have cheap labor, and they want it to be more than what they want. It doesn't sound like you had a fair chance to prove yourself.

You have value, you are a good mother, a kind person, a friend, you are caring and smart. Now, as far as being too nice? I can't answer that. If you mean that you let people take advantage of you, then I believe you can change that. Being nice is not a crime, and it is not wrong. The world tries to change us Lizzie, but hang on to your persona. Hang on to you. Trust in God, a higher power, the universe, or whatever, things will straighten themselves out.

You've always been very kind to me and you've made me feel good because of it. I wish I could be as kind as you are. I envy those who have met you. I always think highly of your posting. I wish you well, and I am sure that many more than Lelapin appreciate you and love and care about you.

If you think that you are depressed beyond the situational aspects of it, or it drags on, then see someone.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

:loveya:

[VenusRising]

51. Check your PMs.

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

52. Am with you in spirit, lizziegrace

Here for you! :hug: :grouphug: :hug:


Check your PMs

:hi: :hug: :loveya:

[Callalily]

53. Damn, damn, damn, damn, damn.

You're still going to stay in Milwaukee aren't you? It sounds like you've got some good leads. That's good.

Please don't beat yourself up over your decision. You're a good person. You're a talented person.

If you need a break, head up north by me. You know where I live. I'd be more than happy to do some "smothering mothering."

Just checked my work web-site, and there's nothing that's in your field, but, but, but . . . we're not limited to hiring good people who may want to just change their direction in life. Oh hell, for the fun of it, check it out! :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

54. Okay, I'm Hoping That Retro's Bookstore Takes Off Great Guns

and you become his accountant! Then that opens doors so that you are consulting for different used bookstores all over Milwaukee and areas north and south and great things happen for you.

I believe you can "magnetize" that to happen because you are persistent and bright, and opportunities will present themselves.

Call me freakin' psychic :D


(or a fortune cookie)

[lizziegrace]

55. hehe...

:hug:

[Sanity Claws]

56. Oh, I'm so sorry.

I just don't know what else to say.

[lizziegrace]

59. I should have moved to NYC

when Thom needed a roommate. ;)

:hug:

[Inchworm]

58. Lizzy

I love you.

I hope a break comes soon that makes the sunrises mo' better.

Sowwy.

:hug::loveya::hug:

[Ptah]

60. I wish I could treat you to a picnic.

[undeterred]

61. I'm so sorry.

I can relate. :hug:
I have had jobs not work out when I felt I was never given a fair shake too. And as we get older, the managers get younger. Right now I have someone less than half my age "supervising" me. She's mature for her age, but she has absolutely NO IDEA what I need to do my job.

You're in Milwaukee, and there are jobs. As the song says, "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again"...

PICK YOURSELF UP
From the Film: Swing Time 1936
(Lyrics by: Dorothy Fields / Music by: Jerome Kern)
Fred Astaire & Ginger Rogers


(He)
Please teacher, teach me something,
Nice teacher, teach me something.
I'm as awkward as a camel, that's not the worst,
My two feet haven't met yet,
But I'll be teacher's pet yet,
'Cause I'm gonna learn to dance or burst.

(She)
Nothing's impossible I have found,
For when my chin is on the ground,
I pick myself up,
Dust myself off,
Start All over again.

Don't lose your confidence if you slip,
Be grateful for a pleasant trip,
And pick yourself up,
Dust yourself off,
Start all over again.

Work like a soul inspired,
Till the battle of the day is won.
You may be sick and tired,
But you'll be a man, my son!

Will you remember the famous men,
Who had to fall to rise again?
So take a deep breath,
Pick yourself up,
Dust yourself off,
Start all over again.

(He)
I'll get some self assurance
If your endurance is great.
I'll learn by easy stages
If you're courageous and wait.

To feel the strength I want to,
I must hang on to your hand,
Maybe by the time I'm fifty
I'll get up and do a nifty.

(Both)
Nothing's impossible I have found,
For when my chin is on the ground,
I pick myself up,
Dust myself off,
Start all over again.

Don't lose your confidence if you slip,
Be grateful for a pleasant trip,
And pick yourself up,
Dust yourself off,
Start all over again.

Work like a soul inspired,
Till the battle of the day is won.
You may be sick and tired,
But you'll be a man, my son!

Will you remember the famous men,
Who had to fall to rise again?
So take a deep breath,
Pick yourself up,
Dust yourself off,
Start all over again.

[lizziegrace]

62. Thanks to everyone who replied and PMd me

I have an interview tomorrow at 9:30 downtown and another very promising lead.

I'm hoping that this will be the last stop in my employment odyssey for a while. I really like Milwaukee and don't want to leave. And with a 1 year lease, I really can't leave.

:hug: to you all. Don't know where I'd be without this group of amazing people.

[SeattleGirl]

63. lizzie!

I can't believe I missed this thread!

Sounds like things are looking up a bit for you now, but I'll still add my vibes! :hug:

[Connonym]

64. Omg! I'm so terribly sorry LizzieGrace

This is awful. :hug: x a million. Call me if you need a friend to talk to. I wish there was something more I could do to help.

[applegrove]

65. You'll find something. Sounds like they didn't know what they were

doing when they hired you. Thank gosh you wont have the stress of doing something you hate for the rest of your working life. Onward and upwards! You can do it.

[raccoon]

66. Will they release you from your lease? Don't laugh. I had a friend

who this happened to. He talked to the landlady and she released him from the lease.

It's worth a try....

Sorry this happened to you. This sort of thing is one reason why I think moving a long distance for a job isn't a good thing. And yes, I know sometimes people are desperate for a job and have to take whatever, wherever it is offered.

On edit: as some others have mentioned, hopefully you can find another job within the area.

:hug:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

67. hugs and kisses

:hug: