Potty training help...Please!!!!

[DontBlameMe]

My son, 3 years old, simply refuses to learn. He pee's fine, for the most part, but will absolutely NOT poop!

Any and all advice needed.

[DS1]

1. He doesn't poop with you

[DontBlameMe]

2. He doesn't poop with me, my wife, my 5 year old, etc.

But he poops like a mofo with his diaper!

That's the problem!

[RadiationTherapy]

3. No more diapers. He needs to feel the discomfort of going in his pants.

Load up on cheap undies or get some cloth diapers.

I would also be careful to not accidentally pressure or embarrass him. I firmly believe how we are potty trained has a lasting impact.

Excuse me. I need to go grab my pink Mr. Duckie and call my mom so I can poop. Bye.

[DontBlameMe]

9. We've done undies for the last 4 or 5 days.

But he still won't poop in his potty. We have a trainer potty to make it easier. He pees, he just won't poop.

And other than saying, "Oh, why did you poop in your pants", we don't scold him. Trying to keep it positive.

On edit: Oh yeah, how's Mr.Duckie?

[hedgehog]

4. Is he subject to bribery? It took a promise of Legos for one of mine! nt

[JVS]

5. Have you tried yelling and threatening?

[DontBlameMe]

10. Well, shit, I tried!

But even the dogs don't respond to that (other than to piss on the floor).

Thanks for playing!! :evilgrin:

[Rabrrrrrr]

17. Yelling at and threatening a 3-year old? Are you an asshole? Shame and humiliation are to be used.

Yelling and threatening doesn't work until they're older.

Shame and humiliation does wonders, and they're gifts that last a lifetime.

:P

[ceile]

6. Treats?

My nephew gets 2 of whatever he wants (M&Ms, mints, jelly fruit, etc) when he poops in the potty.

[redqueen]

7. I used star stickers...

and lots of praise.

[DontBlameMe]

13. We did that with my other son.

Now I have stickers that won't come off or peel the paint off when I do.

[Angleae]

23. It worked for me

a jelly bean for each time (so I'm told). However, on an odd note, to this day I can't stand jelly beans.

[Arkansas Granny]

8. I always put mine in real "big kid" underwear and made a point of how nice

they felt when they were clean and dry. I would also sit in the bathroom and read to them while they were on the potty to encourage them to sit there quietly for long enough to accomplish their goal.

I can't say that it's a sure-fire method, but it worked for me.

[Whoa_Nelly]

11. Here are some sites with great tips--Good Luck!

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/potty-training/CC00060

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/children/parents/toilet/179.html

http://www.pottytrainingtips.com/

Tips on helping the child that won't go:
http://www.pottytrainingtips.com/helping-tips.htm

[BrklynLiberal]

12. Take the pressure off him, and yourself. Leave him in diapers until HE wants to use the

toilet. I can guarantee that he will not walk down the aisle in diapers.

Forcing the issue can only do more harm than good.

[DontBlameMe]

14. Thing is, he wants to wear "big boy underwear"

My 5 year old is going into kindergarten next month. The little one REALLY wants to do pre-school.

He's definitely ready. He just has this hang up about "poop".

[BrklynLiberal]

19. Can you explain to him that he simply cannot wear big-boy pants

until he uses the toilet for both pee-pee and poop?
When he can understand that, he will be ready.

I think he wants to emulate his big brother, but simply does not understand all that it entails.

Boys are notoriously later than girls in learning the potty-thing. 4 years old is not highly unusual.
My son was fully 3 1/2 when he got out of diapers.

[coffeenap]

25. Has he visited the preschool? If he goes there and really wants to be

part of it, he will be self-motivated because he knows he can only go there if he can use a toilet. Good luck!

[NewJeffCT]

15. get cloth underwear for him, if you don't have it already

Our daughter knew how to use the potty at 18-20 months or so, but stubbornly refused to do it consistently for another year... we had regular diapers, plus pull-ups and training pants.

However, within a week to 10 days of buying those cloth panties for her, she was all set and hasn't been a problem since.

[SeaLyons]

16. I went through the same thing with my son....

it's no big deal. He definitely will poop in the pot (eventually). My son is 42 now - how I would love to go back in time and visit the days of wondering when that sweet wonderful kid would finally poop in the pot.

Oh, and that sweet wonderful kid grew up to be a sweet wonderful man.

Don't worry about it.

[Rabrrrrrr]

18. This is precisely what tasers were invented for.

If God didn't want us to use them, he wouldn't have given them to us.

[BrklynLiberal]

20. Have you considered writing a book on child raising??

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[Rabrrrrrr]

27. Sun Tzu already wrote the perfect one, so there's no need to do so.

:P

[BrklynLiberal]

28. Ah yes, I had overlooked that one....

The consummate leader cultivates the moral law,
and strictly adheres to method and discipline; thus it is
in his power to control success.

[Midlodemocrat]

21. He's not ready. Put him back in diapers until he

expresses a desire to use the potty all the time.

Forcing him to learn is a no no.

[davsand]

22. Material Girl got a "present" if she used the potty.

You might gather from her nickname that my kid is into "stuff." Knowing this about my kid at an early age, I bought a bunch of cheap gift bags at the dollar store along with some cheap toys. I put a toy in each bag, lined them up on top of the piano and every time she used the potty she got a present that SHE chose from the supply.

Tell your kid he gets a gift EVERY time he poops in the potty. It won't take long to get results if he's as mercenary as my daughter.


:evilgrin:


Laura

[GCP]

24. I had the same problem with my younger son

It became a control thing, he'd hold it in for a week sometimes, rather than poo in the potty. I even 'demonstrated' going to the bathroom to him, he looked in the toilet bowl with very disinterested expression, as if to say, OK, what's that got to do with me? And carried on holding it in.
Give your son lots of fluids and fiber, and just don't pressure him, he'll be ready when he's ready. I can't remember how we got over it, but we did. :shrug:

[skooooo]

30. I think Colbert would suggest....

....humiliation and embarrassment as a remedy for this problem!

[FloridaJudy]

26. Superman Underpants!

Or Wal-E or Batman or whatever is really desirable in the pre-school set. Let him pick them out, and then don't let him wear them until he's managed to keep his ratty old undies clean for a few days.

Worked like a charm on my kid, but then he was ready. I also wonder if maybe there's something about the toilet itself that's scary. Some kids are terrified of falling off or in - not a problem for boys who only need to pee - and can be freaked out by the flushing.

[Rhythm]

29. With us, it was a combination of getting him the Spiderman unders that he wanted and

rewarding him with treats when he kept them clean.

We also made sure to escort him to the potty not long after meals (most likely time for poop), and putting forth lots of praise when he did so.

Didn't take him long to get it all figured out.

[kath]

31. I posted this on a previous thread -- IMHO Dr. Barton Schmitt really knows his shit. He is

a giant among pediatricians!

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=7831452#7831738 (post #23, in case the link doesn't go right to it)


Some earlier pontificating :-) by me on t. training, Dr. Schmitt, and other child-rearing issues:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=105&topic_id=6789855#6793453 post #19

[harmonicon]

32. I bet he does poop

probably just not in the toilet. Have you tried looking somewhere else for it? It will have a distinct smell to help you locate it.