Anyone want to hear how my meeting with the ex went?

[LostInAnomie]

Today, I met up with my ex-GF for the first time in 9 months. She is thinking about moving back to the area from South Carolina and is staying with her parents for a couple weeks while she looks for work. Anyway... we met up today so that I could give her back her stuff that she left at my place (and put feelers out to see if she would be open to getting back together). We were supposed to meet for lunch at 1 pm and then exchange stuff. Well, her mother (who never liked me and knew we were meeting) decides to start calling her incessantly starting at 1:15. Over the two hour lunch, her mother called about 5 times and sent my ex about 10 text messages. It was fucking annoying. As soon as I could tell I was making progress, the phone would ring, and she would lose her train of thought.

Other than that, it was a good lunch. We talked for the whole time with no dead spots in the conversation. Everything we talked about was good, with no animosity, or hard feelings. I don't know if she is interested in getting back together, but she said she would be up for hanging out a few times while she still in town.

Any questions?

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear LostInAnomie...

I'd proceed cautiously...

Mostly because of her mom...

Anyone who dislikes you that much...well...

Otherwise, go for it!

:hug:

[LostInAnomie]

2. I'm only thinking about getting back with her because you are still married!

If you'd only get that divorce that I've been pushing you to get, we could be together.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. Aw, sweetie...

I'm really a bitch!

Plus, I've lost weight, and you know what that means! :P

[LostInAnomie]

7. I refuse to believe the first part.

And, I don't want to believe the second.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

8. The first part was a lie...

The second part was, alas, true ...

But you know, it's not how big...

But how I carry myself, that matters...

[1Hippiechick]

4. SO you would both be in proximity to her mom, as in the same town? OUCH!

[JVS]

5. Wouldn't it be easier to find a GF without a mother that seems to thwart your plans?

[LostInAnomie]

6. Everyone has their drawbacks.

I dated this one for 5 years, so I pretty much know what hers are.

[HamstersFromHell]

9. Never underestimate the power...

or the hold someone's mother can have on them. My ex-mom-in-law totally wrecked a good 7 year marriage by playing head games with her own daughter, because I refused to kiss mom's ass. :(

[LostInAnomie]

10. She's got a weird relationship with her mother.

They like each other for about a week, and then things go south. Her mom is pretty damn controlling and manipulative though. She never liked me because I think she knew I saw through all her bullshit.

[HamstersFromHell]

11. BINGO!! We have a winnah!

Exactly how mine went. Once I figured her out and called her on her bullshit, that was the beginning of the end. Unfortunately, her daughter (now my ex) never saw through it.

I once told my ex in-law to her face she was Commander Queeg, as everything bad in her life was always someone else's fault. I asked her when we were going to have to search her home for missing strawberries.

She'd alternately use high praise and guilt trips on her daughter, and she just couldn't see through them. "But, she's my mom!" was her favorite excuse.