Kid's leaving today....

[1awake]

The day has come. It is the day my kids leave and go several hundred miles away and spend the better part of the summer with their mother. I dread this day even though I know it is a good thing for them to spend time with her. So.. I'll smile and be encouraging, and deep down I'll be as sad as humanly possible. I've had my three kids since the divorce.. before the youngest could walk. I suppose I'm selfish in reference to them but they are my world.

Just had to vent alittle.


~1awake

[demmiblue]

1. It is not selfish...

it is being an involved and loving parent.

Take care of yourself!

:hug:

[grannylib]

2. It's not selfish. I feel the same way when my grandchildren go home

to their daddy after we've had them for the weekend, sometimes longer in the summer...our daughter died ten years ago, when they were just babies, and they've spent every other weekend with us since then, up until about a year ago. As they get older and more involved in extracurricular stuff, it's harder to see them on a regular schedule, but I feel more like Mom than Grandma and it just tears me up when they leave. I love them so much, and the house is so damn empty when they're not here. Our youngest transferred to a college out of town (only about an hour and a half away, thank goodness!) and that made it tough too.
I understand how you feel, and it's not selfish at all - just honest! As long as your love and longing for them doesn't negatively impact their relationship with others they love, it's cool. My grandkids know we'd LOVE to have them with us all the time, but we also love and support their Dad and want them to be a loving, happy family, the three of them.

:hug: I hope they have a great time, and that the summer will fly by, and that you'll find ways to be happy even in their absence, and that they'll return to you safe and sound and happy to be home :-)

[1awake]

3. Thanks Demmiblue and Grannylib,

I just got back from meeting their mother half way for the "exchange". I get to see them next weekend for father's day so thats always a good thing. I'll try to keep busy over the next several weeks because I agree.. a house can feel very empty when children aren't around. It's strange sometimes looking back. I remember before being married, before the kids thinking how happy I was at the time.. complete. After having kids, I can't imagine life without them.

Thanks again for the thoughts.


~1awake