Another night without sleep.

[alarimer]

I've discovered I can't share a bed with someone. I NEVER get any sleep. This can't be good for a new relationship. I never want him to stay over or to stay over at his place because of it. I am so tired right now but I have to go to work.

[Breeze54]

1. Maybe it's just to early in the relationship for

you to feel comfortable with him. :shrug: I had a hard time sleeping with my ex
because he snored wicked loud! I was always dog tired in the morning from waking
up throughout the night, smacking him to knock it off! Does he snore?

[alarimer]

2. No snoring.

I can't figure it out but I have always had trouble sleeping when another person is in the room. Like when I had to share a hotel room with my sister. I didn't sleep at all that week.

[Sanity Claws]

3. How old are you?

I hope this isn't considered rude. I'm just thinking if you're young, lets say under 30, you will probably adjust. If you're more than 45, I have my doubts about your ability to adjust.
If you're in between, I don't know.
Can you give it a week of sleeping together constantly? I imagine you're more likely to adjust if you try consecutive nights instead of a night once a week or so.
Of course, I wish you and your man the best of luck.

[alarimer]

4. 39. I have had insomnia on and off forever.

So it isn't necessarily related to not being used to having someone there but each time we have spent the night I have not slept well at all. Probably a couple of hours last night at best. It's complicated by the fact that Sunday nights are always bad nights for me sleep-wise. I never sleep well on Sundays.

I am thinking of asking my doctor for Ambien or something like that because I have tried every over the counter thing and it doesn't always work. Even Benadryl didn't help last night.

[Sanity Claws]

5. What have you tried for your insomnia?

There are some non-drug remedies for insomnia. For example, avoiding all caffeine, exercising in the evening (but not right before bed), drinking camomille tea.
Also, some insomnia may be related to your menstrual cycle. It is not unusual for women to have interrupted sleep as part of PMS.

[alarimer]

7. not much

I don't drink much caffeine and work out after work (5-6 pm). Other than that I rely heavily on Tylenol PM, which works most of the time.

But Sundays seem to be especially bad because it means I have to go to work the next day. I don't really like my job most of the time, so it is kind of a source of anxiety.

[MonkeyFunk]

6. It takes some getting used to

I used to think the same way. Now it's hard to sleep WITHOUT someone there. Except for daytime naps - I like those alone.

[alarimer]

8. I realize that is probably true.

I have almost always slept alone. I never lived with anyone and this has me worried that I might not be able to, ever. But it's a vicious circle: the more I worry about not sleeping, the more likely I am to have trouble sleeping.

[alarimer]

9. Now I can't sleep and he's not here.

I haven't heard from him either which is worrisome because we usually chat on the phone at least.

AND I have to get up at 5. So no sleep happening tonight either.

[harmonicon]

10. man, that sucks

Maybe you just need to sleep in separate beds, or even separate rooms. I have relatives who do that. Their relationship is fine, but the whole time they've been married, they've had separate bedrooms. It's just what works for them. I'm a little bit like that too. Sometimes when I'm staying with my girlfriend, I'll sleep on the couch, and she'll think it's because I'm upset, but really it's just that I'll sleep better alone if she (and the dog who sleeps on the bed) have gone to bed before I'm ready to.

[Lil Missy]

11. I used to be that way too. When I fist met my ex, ....

I couldn't stand being touched or skin against me at night. It made me sweat and kept me awake.

Before long, I got used to it, and we ended up flopped all over each other and always snuggling before morning. Since we broke up, I have to hold on to pillows or I can't sleep.

[Breeze54]

12. I found the one word for you to solve your dilemma ...

MASSAGE....

You do him... he does you.

No sexuality involved... just oils and touching in safe places.

You need to learn to relax and you should tell him about your problem.

LET HIM HELP YOU! :hug: