DU heart giving is just another lame popularity contest to make some of us feel like losers.

[Danger Mouse]

:banghead:
Or at least, to remind us of why we felt like losers in the first place. :P

[fizzgig]

1. i thought mine would be worth a dozen from other people

:cry:

:P

[Danger Mouse]

19. maybe if you had sent me a dozen

:P
you know yours mean more than anyone's, but who are you to talk, lil miss has 9 hearts?? :P

[asdjrocky]

2. You have 4 hearts-

Seriously, you go out for a night of fun, and you come home with 4 phone numbers, that my friend, is what's called a good night.

Don't be the PG-13 guy, be the R rated guy.

[RetroLounge]

3. Lucky you didn't give a DU dinner party...

:sarcasm:

RL

[SallyMander]

5. ...

:spray:

[Danger Mouse]

11. ..

:cry:

[cbayer]

4. You can give all of your to yourself if you want.

[Tyler Durden]

6. Hey, this place loves you 4 times as much as it does me.

Suck it up.

[cbayer]

7. I'll give you one because I just love the poll on your post.

[Tyler Durden]

8. How do you donate more than 5 and dole out stars to different people?

I have a list (which you just made) that I'd like to do, but it seems to only take one per transaction, and it adds a buck for each transaction.

[cbayer]

15. You donate. You get 5 for each $5, doubled if you donate $50 or more.

It's a silly game, but it sure has lightened things up in here a bit.

[Tyler Durden]

21. I got that, but it doesn't seem to let you choose more than one recipient.

'scool. I'll try tomorrow. Passing out from fasting/low blood sugar ('scope in the morning. routine)

[cbayer]

31. Hope it's an upper and not a lower! Good luck and good night.

[I Have A Dream]

63. You don't designate the recipient at the time that you donate.

You donate in your own name, and then, as long as you still have hearts left to give, you see instructions in the bottom of each post where hearts currently show. If you want to donate to that particular person, you click on that link. This area also tells you how many hearts you have remaining.

[I Have A Dream]

67. Self-delete. (Duplicate post) nt

[I Have A Dream]

75. Correction: You get *1* for each $5, doubled if you donate $50 or more. nt

[Danger Mouse]

9. i want to whine about it some more though

:cry:

[leeroysphitz]

10. No. It's a fundraising technique. n/t

[Guava Jelly]

12. only 4 people luv me

:cry:
I suck

[Danger Mouse]

13. i suck just as much.

:cry:
we both suck.
:cry:

[ghostsofgiants]

23. I suck twice as much as you. I win.

Oh, wait a second...

x(

[PVnRT]

47. What? You're my hetero man-crush!

Go Cardinals

[Lorien]

61. I feel LUCKY that four people gave me hearts!

I'm pretty invisible on this board, so having four "secret admirers" was a very pleasant surprise for me.

I wish that I could donate and give some out myself, but I've been unemployed for a month. :-(

[RevolutionaryActs]

14. HAHAHAHA! People love me more than you!

Ahhhaahaahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[Danger Mouse]

16. ...

:cry:

[RevolutionaryActs]

24. You know what's funny?

If I look at this post in "My DU" I can only see Sara's reply to me. :o

[Guava Jelly]

17. LIl Miss legs

:mad:

[RevolutionaryActs]

25. Nanny, nanny boo, boo!

:P

[fizzgig]

18. oh yeah?

people love me even more :P


ot...i saw this today and thought of you

poor little prozacimon :cry:

[RevolutionaryActs]

20. NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!

:cry:

[MonkeyFunk]

22. Seriously

I'm not all that comfortable with it. I've been very surprised and very gratified to have received mine, but I see people who are much nicer than me, or who could use a real pick-me-up more than I could, who don't get the attention.

So while I'm personally very pleased with it at the moment, I think it's sorta icky.

[cbayer]

34. Maybe we should find a way to give away the ones that have been given to us.

Anyway, I've like you since I first became aware of you. You are fair and kind.

[MonkeyFunk]

36. I agree

I started a thread saying just that, but nobody responded.

I would LOVE to be able to forward my hearts.

[cbayer]

38. Yep, I sink like a stone, myself. Apparently I'm not in the family. Pay it forward!

[RainDog]

41. exactly

this does make some people feel left out... as silly as that may seem.

sometimes it's hard to see things from others' pov. Some people get wrapped up in validating themselves, not others, and don't admit that these things make them feel better so surely it would benefit someone else. Inclusiveness matters to me because, when I was younger, I was in the jock/cheerleader, etc. clique and found that they were so nasty toward others that I didn't want to hang around with them... so I didn't. Not only were they mean to others, they were also not as interesting. Snubbing others was more important than making others feel better. So I'm sensitive to that experience for others.

This is why I started the "who wants a heart" thread and Corp and LynnSin told people to give others hearts. For those who dismiss this, try to think about being here, being rather quiet, having more than 1000 posts, or having 300 and then you get ignored. Come on, admit it. It would make you feel sad to go through a fundraiser like this if you didn't receive a heart.

to me, something like this only works if people give to those they don't know, too, if someone doesn't have a heart icon, who can't help but feel good giving one? Yeah, people can give hearts to themselves, but a lot of people don't want to do that.

on that heart thread, a man had recently lost his wife. He said he could use a little love. People gave him hearts, a star, and he was lifted up. People who say it's trivial to them, etc. get some anonymous heart and feel good.

I wish I were independently wealthy so I could be a secret santa every day. I also wish I could know who's been donating hearts because I'd love to give them tongue kisses that are sooo hot they fall on their knees. :rofl:

[bullwinkle428]

52. Yeah, there's a definite "Grade School on Valentine's Day, and

I'm not one of the popular kids so it's time lower my expectations yet again" vibe to it...

Conversely, can we also describe it as a "@!#&-measuring contest" (in a completely non-gender specific way, of course) of sorts? :evilgrin:

On the other, I see a few posters (specifically those spending most if not all of their time in GDP) that I could only describe as colossal jackholes, that have several hearts...I suddenly don't feel so bad about my relative lack of hearts anymore!!

[Neoma]

26. Popularity sucks anyways.

[DarkTirade]

27. All I'm hearing is 'Damn it, my girlfriend's getting more hearts than I am!'

:P

[Danger Mouse]

29. what would make you think such a silly thing?

*scratches down note...must kill DarkTirade...knows too much...*

[DarkTirade]

30. ... you'd think my apparent psychic ability woulda warned me about that...

:P

[DarkTirade]

77. Mwahahaha... you should have destroyed me when you had the chance.

Now I've become even more powerful!

And by that, I mean I've caught up to your number of hearts. :P

[Dervill Crow]

28. Yep. I was feeling pretty good about life this morning.

I graduated from high school 35 years ago and usually feel pretty damn good about myself, but this DU valentine heart thing brings back all my insecurity that resurfaces every once in a while.

It's just a fundraiser and it really shouldn't matter, but it does.

[cbayer]

35. You know what they say. Big heart, little weiner. Know what i am saying? nt.

[Dervill Crow]

59. Not really, but I'll take it under advisement!

:rofl:

[Mojambo]

32. I don't need no "heart giving popularity contest" to tell me I'm a loser. n/t

[graywarrior]

33. You're worth more than hearts, EH

You're the heart and soul!

[flvegan]

37. Says the guy with 4 hearts...

Jesus, why can't folks just enjoy the fund drive?

[cbayer]

39. You are NOT taking this seriously~ Just enjoy. nt

[BuelahWitch]

40. Frankly I was surprised and happy to get one!

[TZ]

42. looks like I'm the top dog in this group!

WOOF!!!
:hide: :rofl:
On edit: I did NOT expect to get all these hearts, though. Thanks to whomever did it!

[crim son]

43. Yabbut, it gives those who love you a

chance to show it. :loveya:

[Danger Mouse]

70. ...

:hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

44. I absolutely feel the same way.

It sucks. It looks like everyone gets at least one this year, though.
Duckie

[I Have A Dream]

69. No, everyone doesn't automatically get one.

The hearts that you got are from people who wanted to show that they value you.

I don't like this either. :(

[raccoon]

45. I don't care for it. It reminds me of high school. The popular kids, and the nobodies. nt

[Serial Mom]

46. It's about the HOTTIES and the NOTTIES

as Paris Hilton described her new movie!!!


:rofl:

[zanne]

48. I don't like the Hillary/Obama "arms" for the donation drive.

I think it just contributes to our divisiveness. I don't mind the hearts, though. I think it's kinda cute.

[Phentex]

49. I gave five to unsuspecting folks...

They'll never know they were from me. They were not out of pity 'cause I really do like them! :)

I see it as a random act of kindness.

[MrCoffee]

50. Some of us ARE losers

[Phillycat]

53. You notice all the coolest people have fewer hearts.

I wear my lack of hearts like a badge of honor.

[stuntcat]

55. that explains it

I gave out my hearts right away but now I wish I could have given one or two to myself lol

Screw it, I'm proud of my one heart!

[TZ]

81. If I had any hearts left...

I would give you one. Kitty people rock!!:)

[stuntcat]

84. I'll consider one mine anyway

I totally see an extra one down there :loveya:

[suninvited]

51. I have given mine almost all out

mostly to people whose posts make me laugh. There are some really funny people on here !

I love to laugh, but for some reason I am not funny myself. I wish I were.

I did give myself one of my hearts, just because I didnt want to appear heartless.

[LynneSin]

54. I agree

Unfortunately I have some house bills so I can't really donate anything this time around, but if I did - my hearts would go to people who have none.

[Steerpike]

56. I have lots of heart.

I just don't have a whole bunch of little bitty hearts!:hi:

[La Lioness Priyanka]

57. i disagree.

i think people get hearts because they have somehow touched the hearts of others.

the ones i gave hearts to didnt have any or very many but have touched my life positively.

you can view it as a popularity contest or a way a du'er shows appreciation for another.


not to mention you can always buy your self a heart :P

[GirlinContempt]

60. Yay

:)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

62. yay you too

:loveya: i wish i had a lot more money to buy a lot more hearts :loveya:

[GirlinContempt]

68. Yay

:)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

58. .

[Quantess]

64. I am surprised I got hearts.

I was prepared to not get any.

Someone actually bought me a donor star yesterday!!! I am so happy. That was really nice. I'm currently unemployed and I'm healing from a broken arm, so yeah, they picked a good person to give a star to. When I get money I'm going to buy a donor star for someone needy, and return the favor.

[redqueen]

65. Yeeeaaaaahh... not so much.

[Quantess]

66. I am surprised I got hearts.

I was prepared to not get any.

Someone actually bought me a donor star yesterday!!! I am so happy. That was really nice. I'm currently unemployed and I'm healing from a broken arm, so yeah, they picked a good person to give a star to. When I get money I'm going to buy a donor star for someone needy, and return the favor.

[Kajsa]

71. I know what you're saying, Elrond.

As much as I like giving and getting hearts

THANK YOU TO ALL WHO GAVE ME ONE!
:loveya:

it reminds me way too much of the high school
popularity contests.

It's weird- some really nice,cool people have very few/none.


I just wish I could afford to give a heart to everyone who doesn't have one.

:(

[RainDog]

72. you've got it backwards

he was making fun of people who made some comment about the "high school" aspects. those are crocodile tears.

The thread title is in reference to an earlier thread in which Retro made up foursomes for dinner (which he also references here.) He doesn't realize, maybe because he is so extroverted, that some people are shy, but if others reached out to them, they would respond. Others, on another thread, noted this sort of thing made them uncomfortable.

So Elrond is making fun of those people.

or maybe I have it all backwards.

[Kajsa]

78. Nope, Elrond isn't making fun of those

who commented on the HS aspect of this.

He started the LoungeLosers club a little over a
year ago.
We haven't had a thread lately,but it's for all the people
who felt left out and alone.

A lot of people signed in, even some who weren't feeling
left out.

[RainDog]

80. pardon and thank you for explaining

I guess I was feeling a little sensitive about the other issue and conflated the two. apologies to him and to everyone else. Obviously I am having a hard time playing in groups at this moment, so I'm taking a break.

[Kajsa]

88. No problem.

This place can be very confusing at times!


;-) :hi:

[Madrone]

89. You're not alone.

I see it the same way you did. Making fun, FTW. :shrug:

[triguy46]

73. Is this just to show off that you have 4?

[Doc_Technical]

74. Only losers don't have any hearts!

n/t

[x-g.o.p.er]

76. I'm taking my one heart...

and going home.

[Steerpike]

79. Most people don't understand me anyway.

The lack of little hearts is feedback. It lets you know that taking your investment of time and effort on this board is not to be taken seriously in lieu of an actual life. :spank:

[Catbird]

82. Heart strategy

If I find a thoughtful or amusing post from someone who does not already have a heart, I give them one of my hearts. It's a way of saying thank you for participation on DU. Unfortunately there are a lot more such posts than I have hearts.

[Javaman]

83. All I got was a rock. :( nt

[quip]

85. If it means that much to somebody, let them give hearts to themselves!

Nobody is the wiser. It's all just $$$ for DU anyway, for pity's sake. :crazy:

[BarenakedLady]

86. Hey I am looser.

:evilgrin:

oh...you said LOSER...

:P

[Iris]

87. omg - is this one of those liberals and feelings things?

[GenDem]

90. I haven't been hanging out here much

I donated and have a few hearts to give out -- so I'm proudly giving one of my hearts to you, Elrond. For all that you've done to elevate loserdom.

Haven't been posting much, so don't even expect anyone to remember me. I'm kind of anonymous, but I do love this community and always know that I can come here for a good laugh

[Maraya1969]

91. I gave mine to people who had zero. If I had more I'd do the same