My husband says we may lose the house.

[crim son]

I'm beside myself. Never in my life have I believed that my world could so completely collapse, and I can do nothing but stand by and watch it. He shouted at me, you must be sleeping with the windows open. But we aren't: we're bundled up and sleeping in unheated bedrooms.

I need a job so I can afford to rent an apartment... Fucking counseling is out. You know what's laughable? He makes a decent wage for the area, but we can't sustain ourselves.

Fuck! And yet I swear just to move out and move on would be a relief, if it didn't mean he would take the children, and that's what it means. Need a drink, baby! And will pour myself one.

On edit: I meant to say, Please send good vibes! That's the whole point of this whining post.

[Pale Blue Dot]

1. My wife's ex just lost his.

It's getting really, really bad out there, and this country is just beginning to wake up to how bad it's going to be.

Good luck crim son. Hang in there. :hug:

[crim son]

7. I guess I have no choice!

Thanks, Finnfan. :hug:

[NightWatcher]

2. do you need some help? PM me if I can do anything

[redwitch]

3. How awful, I am so sorry!

Good vibes, prayers coming your way! :hug:

[crim son]

18. I appreciate it redwitch.

I hope they work.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

4. Do you qualify for heating assistance?

You shouldn't be living in an unheated house... :hug:

Sending my best vibes...warm ones! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~>

[crim son]

19. We surely do not.

We are in this position because of a bunch of unforseen turns of bad luck. It would be funny if it weren't ending up to have such dire consequences.

[SPKrazy]

5. it's not whiny really

shit crimmie

just shit

:hug: :hug: :hug:

hope he's wrong

if i can help in some way, let me know.

[crim son]

21. Thanks.

The kids and I are agreed that we will do what we can to save money, even if it means we all sleep in the living room. It wouldn't be the first time!

[SPKrazy]

23. let me know if there is anything i can do

okay

:hug:

fuck this sucks!

[crim son]

26. You are doing something.

You're talking to me. It always means more than anything, having people to talk to about the shit that's goin' down. Sigh.

[SPKrazy]

29. Well it doesn't seem like much

and I feel powerless

but I'm glad it helps somehow crimmie

I guess it always helps me too to talk...

[crim son]

39. It helps me so much, which is why I'm always

making my situation known. When I have to keep it all to myself I go crazy.

[Maine-ah]

6. holy crap, crim!

I'm sorry to hear it has gotten this bad. :hug:

[crim son]

24. Me too!

I don't see why Stephen King doesn't sweep in and save my ass, do you? :P It's a ridiculous situation, really.

[Robeson]

8. Good vibes to you crim son....

...I'm sorry. But economist are still debating as to whether or not we are really in a recession. :eyes:

Hell, we've been in one since President Coup d'e-tat seized the throne.

[crim son]

27. President Coup d'Etat!

That's great! But you're wrong... we would be in a recession but fortunately most people are able to find almost full-time work in the fast food industry, thus keeping the unemployment level relatively low. :eyes:

[Callalily]

9. Sending hugs

and positive vibes along with a big dose of strength!
:hug:

[crim son]

28. Thanks, Simply Fugue.

I can always use all three! :pals:

[SallyMander]

10. Wish i could do something

but i am sending warm thoughts and many :hug: :hug: :hug:

[crim son]

30. You have done something

and I do appreciate it. :hi:

[flvegan]

11. Aw damn, crim son.

I'm sorry. If there's anything I could do...

Vibes coming your way.

[crim son]

31. The vibes are very helpful.

I swear I couldn't care less about the house - it's the sense of isolation and loserhood that gets to me, and DUers are a tremendous help there. :hug: Well, not so much with the loserhood. :P

[1gobluedem]

12. Oh, I'm so sorry

That sounds horrible. Big vibes en route to you....:hug:

[crim son]

32. Thank you 1gobluedem.

:hug: :hug:

[Ptah]

13. You are in my vibe-thoughts.

[crim son]

33. Lovely picture, Ptah.

The furred buds... they're as charming as kittens. Thank you!

[Ptah]

38. I'm glad you picked out the new growth.

:hi:

[lost-in-nj]

14. crim son

sweety

om me if there is ANYTHING I can do....


I mean anything......

sending good thoughts.....
and PK



lost

[crim son]

35. PK?

Hmmmm. lost, as long as you can tolerate me logging on here and occasionally begging for support, then I am grateful. It's exactly what I need.

[mainegreen]

15. That's terrible.

:(

I hope this all shakes out well for you in the end, and you end up finding a more suitable place for you and get to keep your kids with you.

But I would swap that drink for a damned strong cup of coffee.


No chance you can rent the house, and move out somewhere smaller is there?

[crim son]

36. Until now we haven't seriously considered renting it out.

I believe the time has come to consider it again. I could find an apartment in town that would cost about the same as it costs to heat this place, it's true. That's an idea and I'll bring it up with the STBE. Thank you, mainegreen. And, I had coffee-bean icecream instead of the booze! :pals:

[Xipe Totec]

16. This is so sad

I truly feel like Cassandra.

I hope you manage to hang on somehow.

I truly believe this year will be the bottom of the economic down-stroke.

If we can hang on for one more year, we will see much better days.

[crim son]

37. Cassandra, as in crazy; or Cassandra as in

despised prophet? Me too, though for all my talk I didn't see this happening to me, not over a matter of finances! I'm going to try to hang on. I have some ideas. Hi, Xipe Totec. :hi:

[Xipe Totec]

66. The latter

I remember discussing the snowballing effect of a housing market slump on unemployment, and the effect of a rise in unemployment on the housing market. Each feeding on the other.

This was a year and a half ago, as the housing market was cresting.

Wishing you better times ahead :hi:

[lizziegrace]

17. I'm so sorry

I don't know what to say.

:hug:


:(

[crim son]

40. Luckily, there really isn't much to say!

I'm glad you're out there though, lizziegrace. :pals:

[MrScorpio]

20. I know your pain

:hug:

[crim son]

41. I'm very sorry if you do.

And I send you a hug as well :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Wapsie B]

22. Good vibes coming your way.

:hug:

[crim son]

42. Thank you very much, bushwentawol.

Every bit helps!

[Danger Mouse]

25. I hope you get things figured out.

You have my support. Unconditional. Anytime.
:hug:

[crim son]

43. ...

:hug: :loveya: :hug: Thank you.

[Danger Mouse]

55. If we lived close by...

i would open my home to you, anytime.
I look out for people I love. :hug:

[crim son]

58. Awww, dear man.

I hope some day to be in a position to at least visit! :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

62. that would make me very happy =)

[Wcross]

34. You are both under tremendous stress right now.

He is probably just as worried & upset as you are. Vibes sent to both of you.

[crim son]

45. You're right; he is, and when I responded badly I had to explain

to him that I wasn't feeling attacked by him personally. We are both helpless, and one thing I'll say for the STBE, he's a very resourceful man. This is harder for him than it is for me. Thank you for the vibes, Wcross.

[Bennyboy]

44. WOW, just WOW>>>>>

Sorry for you. you have seemed so strong in your posts till today. Keep it going, things tend to work themselves out...with time. Good (((((((Vibes))))) to you, and I will be thinking of you.

[crim son]

46. For all my moaning, I've a tough hide.

Right now it's absorbing your good vibes & I thank you.

[Connonym]

47. incoming good vibes

The housing market is so awful right now. I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. Wishing you lots of positive vibes and warm thoughts. :hug:

[crim son]

50. I know you understand.

Thank you! :hug: It's such a weird situation.

[momophile]

48. sorry to hear this, crim son

I'm sending lots of good vibes your way!
:hug:

[crim son]

51. And I am catching every one, with gratitude.

Thank you momophile. :hug:

[DarkTirade]

49. I just have one thing to say to that...

:hug:

[crim son]

52. And to you, my friend.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

53. My dear crim son...

Good vibes en route to you, sweetie...

Good god!

It has to get better!

Wish I could do something more than type my frustration and love out to you...

:loveya:

:hug:

[crim son]

54. You've done a lot for me all along, Peg.

:hug: I think I'll go to sleep now, perchance to dream... about Val Kilmer and a sweet little house with a vegetable garden. :loveya: :hug: :pals: Thank you Peggy!

[BreweryYardRat]

56. Well, that's not good.

Here, have some good vibes. :hug:

I'm afraid I don't recall...are you splitting up because he's a huge asshole? (You don't have to reply if it would bring up bad memories.)

[crim son]

59. He has had anger management problems in the past.

He's been in counseling for two years but the romantic love is long dead, as is the respect I once had for him. And maybe, he for me. However I love him like a brother, now that he can't torment me except with this sort of news.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

57. I'm sorry.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[crim son]

60. So am I.

More than that, I'm really, really tired of it all. :hug: :hug: :pals:

I keep trying to sleep. I can't!

[madrchsod]

63. you ain`t alone! if it was`t for our daughter helping out

we`d be out . we had to make two house payments so they would`t foreclose..i can`t find nothing in the town i live in and don`t have a car to travel. it sucks when i realize at 61 i`m never going to get a job that pays...hang in there keep thinking it can only get better..

my wife and i have had many sleepless nights so you are not the only one in this country we used to call america.

[riderinthestorm]

61. That sucks!!!

You probably need more than good vibes! You need a plan to rent that house asap and get out from underneath the payments for the moment, or something better like a buyer!! So I'm sending out magic-raybeams-of-inspiration-and-damn-good-luck on finding a solution.

:hug: to keep you warm tonight in your unheated bedroom (gaaah! That just sounds brutal!)

[hisownpetard]

64. I'm so sorry to hear about all you're going through.

It sucks to be in that position.
Wish there were some way to help...

:pals:

[ThomCat]

65. I hope you find a buyer!

:hug:

I'm sending all my good vibes your way. You need good things to happen! You need good things to happen! You need good things to happen!