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Lady Freedom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 04:41 AM
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Have ever been so mad that you threw things at a person?
Edited on Mon Dec-31-07 04:48 AM by Lady Freedom
:yoiks: :blush:
Yes I did it. I am sorry. I never lost my temper like that since I was 5.
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chknltl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 05:14 AM
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1. At first I thought you must be my ex!
But you added the words "I am sorry" therefore I knew you couldn't be her. I have never thrown anything (that wasn't supposed to be caught), at anyone in anger. Perhaps a few spitwads when I was in high school but that was a long time ago. My ex, now she was one to throw stuff. I learned to duck! One time ducking was at the expense of a living-room window and ya' know what? I got blamed for that! We were both cigarette smokers so ashtrays were a a common projectile in our home. I rapidly learned to replace those dangerous big glass jobs with the smaller tin ones. (much safer for me). She even tossed a casserole pot at me once, yep, casserole and all! I am sure, if she yet lives that she is still throwing stuff at folks in anger.

In all truthfulness, it is sad that we get angry. I feel it is a good thing to be embarrassed by ones actions performed due to that anger. I feel it is an even bigger thing to learn from all this: the lesson of not repeating those anger motivated actions. It sounds to me like you are keen on that lesson. Many folks never learn that lesson.
:hug:
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Lady Freedom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 05:56 AM
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3. I threw a bunch of empty beer cans he had piled up in the floor.
Not proud, just got feed up with being put down and seeing beer cans all over.
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chknltl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 07:05 AM
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6. I am sorry for you Lady Freedom
It is my hopes that this "throwing stuff in anger" never becomes a habit for you.

Sounds to me like this slob has more problems than littering though.

If he is unwilling or unable to cease with the "putting you down" then I hope you can consider reducing your time around this person...if you get my meaning. Abusive relationships are nasty business, NOBODY deserves to be abused. Let me say that again: NOBODY DESERVES TO BE ABUSED! I was abused by my ex. I confess that I am a slob, I confess I was a financially irresponsible young adult as well back then. We COULD have worked through this but we could not work through her serious anger control problems. She quite literally nearly killed me in a fit of anger at least once! She was well known by all of our friends as having a serious anger problem. I needed to have gotten away from her FAR earlier than I did.

Fortunately neither of us had issues with alcohol, a substance which can complicate matters, especially in an abusive relationship. I hope that is not one of the problems between you and and the beer-can litterer.

I am by far inept at aiding you with any helpful advice Lady Freedom, I can only go by my own notions of right and wrong. I am serious when I say that I hope this throwing of stuff at anyone in anger is a habit you never develop. His "putting you down" is equally wrong and I hope this does not become habitual either. Sounds to me like you won't stand for it very long anyway. That's a good sign, you absolutely should not stand for it.

One thing I have noticed about the DU, folks here tend to look out for each other. There are a lot of good folks here with damned good advice, advice far better than any I have to offer. If this problem you are going through does not remedy itself, or (shudder), gets worse, you let us know ok? It is late and I am about to sign off for the night, good luck to you and yours Freedom Lady.
You are among many friends here.
:grouphug:

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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 05:17 AM
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2. My ex-husband threw a Coors tallboy at me and missed my head
by about half an inch. That pretty much sealed the deal for me. :scared:

I can't say I've ever been that angry at anyone. :shrug:
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av8rdave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:38 AM
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14. Same thing happened to me
A glass beer bottle (full) that just grazed the back of my head.

Funn stuff.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:58 AM
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17. Besides the divorce that it sealed, that beer-throwing incident had another good result.
Instead of hitting me in the head, the beer destroyed the butt-ugly bachelor Corvette clock (much like the one pictured below) that was hanging on the wall next to my head. :7

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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:01 AM
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19. That is fugly as sh*t, excuse my censored language
I don't think I could convict you of throwing that thing on account of it being a cause of insanity.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:08 AM
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20. I didn't throw anything.
My ex-husband fast-balled a Coors tallboy at my head as I was leaving the room. He missed and destroyed the hideous Corvette clock that he brought into the marrage. Karmic justice, annit? :7
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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:34 AM
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25. It sure is
A favor to good taste.
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MrSlayer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 06:13 AM
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4. In bar fights.
I've been known to fling a mug or two into the chaos.
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GCP Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 06:56 AM
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5. A dirty wet dish-rag at my husband
And I missed!
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Guava Jelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 07:35 AM
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7. If i get that angry I just leave the area where the asshole who pissed me off
is at.
I had an ink pin launched at my face one time by a girlfriend.
I stood there as blood ran down my cheek for a few minutes until I walked into the bathroom to clean myself up.
I am not big on violence specially when it involves a woman..
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Perry Logan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 07:36 AM
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8. I have been mad enough to destroy the world on many occasions. Fortunately, I was too mad to do it.
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Eurobabe Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 08:00 AM
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9. Yes, I threw a lamp at someone
it felt great. :rofl:
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gbate Donating Member (900 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:23 AM
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10. Well not actually at a person, but I did throw my cellphone at the wall recently.
It survived but the wall didn't.
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Highway61 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:32 AM
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11. Yep....
I dated an ass munch years back. We were shoveling the driveway after a MAJOR snow strom. He kept telling me (after each scoop) how I was shoveling "wrong". (Yes...he was a control freak) After about the Fourth comment, I took the snow shovel and threw it over the snow bank and told him where to shove it. I wasn't able to retrieve that shovel until spring. He was long gone by then.

There are better days ahead Lady Freedom. Trust me, you sound like a sweetheart and deserve only the best.
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av8rdave Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:37 AM
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12. No, but my ex sure did!
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THUNDER HANDS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:37 AM
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13. i don't get mad
i just...don't.

I mean, maybe once a year I get miffed. But that's about it.

I'm like a sedated person.
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NashVegas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:47 AM
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15. Many, Many Times
I used to work with someone who had a knack for working my shorter, shallower fuse. You know, not *really* angry and upset, just momentarily pissed off that doesn't really deserve any heavy verbal articulation.

I would reach for a whiteboard eraser and toss it at him. Not hard.

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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:50 AM
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16. When I was a teen I threw a tennis ball at someone's stomach
after a running start and made him cry for about 15 minutes.
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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:59 AM
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18. i got mad at my cat and threw socks at him
well, one at a time. i got his attention and he looked concerned.

:mad:
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:14 AM
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23. I'll bet he's concerned. Concerned with
plotting your death. :rofl: :spray:
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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:36 AM
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26. He's not that smart
He tries to scare his toys by hissing at them. He's sweet as hell though.

:eyes:
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:39 AM
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28. Don't let his kitty-sweet exterior fool you.
He's got those toys _right_ where he wants 'em. :rofl: :spray:
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CreekDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:45 AM
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29. ha!
when he gets mad at me, he clenches his jaw which makes his face look funny.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:10 AM
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21. Yes... but not recently.
I have to work on anger management.
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:14 AM
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22. Yes. I once threw a box of Betty Crocker brownie mix at a boyfriend.
Under the circumstances at the time, I believe I was entirely justified.
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Burma Jones Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:18 AM
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24. Yes
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:37 AM
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27. Yes. I am not proud.
But it felt damn good at the time. I threw a shitload of books (sorry books) at an ex in college when I kicked him out of the apartment.
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chknltl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:54 PM
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31. Vickie??? Is that You?
Among other thrown things, "Vickie", (thrower of glass ashtreys and other deadly I.F.O.s, see above), threw books at me AND kicked me out of our apartment but if memory serves that was a couple of years after college. I survived AND prospered, neener neener!
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:54 AM
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30. What you did is domestic violence in many states.
Edited on Mon Dec-31-07 10:57 AM by JVS
Shame on you. You should leave this situation.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:58 PM
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32. not since I was in my early 20's. And then I didn't throw them at
the person just threw things around.

The solution. Break off the insane relationship that drove me to that.

Being involved with a narcissistic personality like that will lead me to go over the edge I guess. I also hope I'm more mature than I was then.

More insight into my inner workings.

But never say never I guess.

You're human. If it is out of control for you get help.

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Breeze54 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 09:59 PM
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33. I threw a glass full of water at my ex
Edited on Mon Dec-31-07 10:01 PM by Breeze54
and it hit the wall instead. Drat! :P

I had just had a baby and he and my sister were berating me for
NOT wanting to go to Sunday dinner at his parents house and I lost it...

They can both pound sand!! :grr:

Yeah, it still pisses me off when I think about it.

My sister sided with my ex, of course she didn't have any kids at the time. :eyes:

And I don't think understood how I was feeling.

Ya think? :P

Edited for that fucking typo!! I can't seem to hit the 'i' key hard enough!! argh!
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derby378 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:06 PM
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34. I'll admit that I've sometimes pissed off ginbarn...
...but she's never thrown anything at me in anger, nor have I at her. We work out our differences like a civilized husband and wife are supposed to do.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:11 PM
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35. does food count?
then, yes :D
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:14 PM
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36. Yep. I once got so angry at my (now) ex that I threw a glass
ashtray at him. Fortunately for the both of us, I missed. :blush:

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davsand Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:14 PM
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37. Many years ago. I nailed him in the crotch with a bottle of antibiotics.
He had just told me his doc told him he had some kind of STD, and he gave me that bottle of antibiotics telling me to "clear it up before the next guy came along". I KNEW I'd been faithful and I was pissed.

He left before I laid hands on anything more substantial to throw.

I went to my own Doc after that and I was actually clear of anything. Whatever he had was strictly his own crap, and it was shortly after that I found out where he'd been messing. He'd been going to the dirty bookstores and caught something there.

I heard he'd gone to Saudi after that, and was horrified a few months later to see him standing with one of his buddies in my favorite bar. I walked past him and he grabbed my arm. I looked at hm and said "I heard you were in Saudi--why are you here?" He responded that he was home to stay and said, "You would have hated it there, the women know their place."

I looked at him and during a lull in the music said very loudly "Did they not accept your gay sex over there, dear? Is THAT why you got home early"

Asshole. I only wish I'd had something bigger to throw.



Laura
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Generic Brad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:25 PM
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38. No. But I've had things thrown at me
And I neither deserved it or appreciated it.
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NV Whino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-31-07 10:25 PM
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39. Yes, a glass of wine
not the glass, just the wine in the glass. The glass itself shattered when I "placed" it on the table having emptied it of its contents.
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