Stupid stuff your spouse gets mad about thread

[coffee_strong]

Have you ever entered a convo with jovility or a level of normalcy(meaning you aren't upset about anything) only to be met with hostility?

I am pretty much the budget master in our marriage. At any given time if you asked me how much we have in our account, I can pretty much give you spot on figures, whereas hubby could only guestimate, and even then he'd be way off. Anyway due to christmas we are lower on funds, but not too low where we can't afford the basic necessities. Anyway he went off to the store to pick up a certain item, so I called him to let him know our exact amt in the bank. I did this so he wouldn't leisure shop but I didn't come out and say that, to avoid him getting defensive. I simply said....''hey I know you're going just to get "item X" but we only have ''X'' amt of money in the bank. He flipped and said I'm just coming to the store to get ''x'' and that's all. I said ok, but I know sometimes you like to go into the electronic dpt, and I just wanted you to be aware of our financial situation before you bought something we couldn't afford. I was calm and rational and he just blew up. Sigh...I love the man to death, but sometimes I just don't get him.

If the shoe was switched I would have just said something like. Ok thanks, I wasn't planning on getting anything else anyway, and left it at that. i wouldn't have gotten all huffy.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

1. Welcome to my world

We usually only argue about money. He always said when I got a job he wouldn't ask any questions about what I do with my money, but now that I'm working he just can't help himself. I know it kills him to try to refrain. We had a big blowup about it before Thanksgiving and he promised to back off and not question me, but he still does.

[coffee_strong]

2. Glad I'm not alone

thanks. He is the main breadwinner so sometimes it feels like i shouldn't have a say, but if it weren't for me, he'd be paying monthly late fees, or he'd just forget about certain bills that need to be paid. We also probably wouldn't ahve a savings account that I suggested we get. He's not the most responsible when it comes to money. I don't even harp or nag, which is why i don't understand he got upset.

[Fleshdancer]

3. I'm usually the spouse who gets mad over stupid stuff

It would take a lot to anger my husband which is one of the things I adore about him. In fact, I don't know what I could do to anger him unless I hurt our daughter or something evil like that.

As for me, I would say I get frustrated over stupid stuff...not neccessarily angry. I don't yell or insult over things. My biggest pet peeve at home is when my husband leaves the cleaning sponge in the kitchen sink and its covered with grime. I don't care about the toilet seat, I don't care if he forgets to take out the trash, and we don't argue over money but that damn sponge has been a problem since day one. How could I possibly clean anything with a sponge that looks, smells and feels like death? More importantly, how could he?

Another pet peeve is when he instantly repeats whatever I say when I'm telling our daughter to do something. Me: "Abby, it's time to get ready for bed, you need to go brush your teeth". Followed by him: "Abby, bedtime, go brush your teeth". I don't think it was intentional at first, but now he does it just to annoy me.

Marriage. Whataya gonna do? :D

[Whisp]

5. covered with grime. lol!!!

same here, sorta. The rare occasion when he does the dishes, he lets the water out and doesn't clean up the crud so there's this gooey yucky clingy crap around the drain that just sits there until I get rid of it.

[coffee_strong]

8. mine

does the whole "repeat after me' too after I tell the kids something.

[Whisp]

4. here's one from me.

Hub wanted to get me some nice house slippers and i appreciated that. We don't do the big xmas shopping thing, but slippers is okay with me. So we are standing around the kitchen preparing a dinner and he asks me:
""So what size do you take again?""
me: 8, 8 1/2
"""Women's?""
me: (pause)..... no, male Ferengi's (think that an alien race from Star Trek) size 8, 8 1/2.

so I laughed my face off but he gets all defensive. what a poop.

so anyway, day before yesterday he is two hours later than he said - was preparing a dinner for guests that evening and had to have him do some stuff he promised before I could do mine. so he gets home and says what delayed him was shopping - he stopped to get me my slippers and some nuts or something. well, fine. thing's will work out time wise anyway, we'll have to work a bit faster, that's all.

so what size did he get?

size 7
me: geeze I hope they were made by the Amazons and not the pygmies (as shoe sizes really vary).
and I laughed.

but he got all defensive again. poop.
turns out they were made by amazons and I have some great comfy slippers that fit quite nicely. but o man, laugh at yourself more often will ya, because I certainly can. ;)

[tigereye]

6. me: not wiping up crumbs/making a big deal out of little stuff

him: too many mugs, and different cleaning styles...

[Roon]

7. Back when I had a live in lover and smoked

my ex would fly off the handle if I used matches in the house. But it was OK for him to use matches when he couldn't find a lighter. It was crap like this that made us ex-lovers.

[Heidi]

9. I can't imagine what I could do to anger

CMW. I guess he must have a very high anger threshhold. :shrug:

On the other hand, there are some very obvious and specific things that get me all fired up; not many, but a few. Poor CMW. x(

[NewWaveChick1981]

10. Geez...sounds like our husbands could be brothers.

:eyes: :( Except my husband doesn't know and doesn't want to know what we have in the bank. He is actually afraid of financial stuff and defers to me on it. I did not ask him to do this nor did I ever give him an indication that it would be a good idea to do this. It's a major sticking point in our marriage too. He has a tendency to buy unnecessary stuff too, and I caution him when he's out shopping that he can only spend a certain amount.

Is your husband a creative type? Mine's a graphic artist and is very talented, but he's just not a practical guy.

Edited to add: Stupid stuff he gets mad about would include getting mad because the sheets have popped off his side of the bed when he tosses and turns at night and *I* didn't fix it. :shrug: WTF? My standard answer is, "You did it---you fix it." Case closed.

[Crazy Dave]

11. My last fiance (not the current Mrs. DTW)

Just disagreeing with her, to her meant you were calling her stupid and since she was so used to guys groveling over her and agreeing with her all her life (she was very pretty) her ego just couldn't handle a "I don't give a shit what you think" guy like me telling her where to go.

Welcome to DU "coffee_strong" :hi: