Sorry, I didn't mean to bring up something taboo

[MagsDem]

I didn't know a thread like that would be locked. I guess I didn't read the terms close enough. I was just looking for some support from people I feel I know but have never met. I can't off myself -- I have a 15 yr old kid. Long story. Just wanted to say I'm sorry for going against the TOS. Thanks for your responses, and sorry again. Wrong place. Thanks. You are all really good people.

[Haole Girl]

1. People with 15 year old kids do commit suicide.

Please listen to the advice people gave you, okay?

We told you because we do care. And, we know what it's like to be that down and out.

Many hugs to you... :hug: :hug: :hug:

[MrScorpio]

2. It's quite alright

Sometimes we need our friends and sometimes our friends need us

[Writer]

3. I've done it myself when I've been in a particularly bad state.

Don't worry about it at all. If you do need help, please seek it. I have been treated for depression for over 20 years.

Much love,

~Writer~

[VenusRising]

4. You have support here.

We all lean on each other when things get rough. We're all here for you and wish you nothing but love and support.

Please, listen to these very wise people when they ask you to talk to someone.

Even if it's just one time of letting it all out, it can be cathartic and enough to take the edge off.

Sending you good wishes and healing vibes, my friend.

:hug:

[hisownpetard]

5. Something I used to do when I was really depressed was to do something nice

and unexpected for someone else. It can be something small, like bringing a hot coffee to someone
who you think might enjoy it on a cold day, or telling someone that they look nice. People seem to be so grateful
these days for any personal contact at all, that they're usually really pleased, and that will give you a boost!

Try it and see.

And just remember - as bad as you may be feeling right now, this is only TEMPORARY. Things will change, for sure.
And the change may very well be better than what went before!

Feel better!!:hi: :grouphug:

[MagsDem]

9. I do that all the time, and it does cheer me

It's really a wonderful suggestion. I have to travel on business a lot - probably 30 or 40 times a year (quick trips), and I always do it at least once on every trip. I'll leave a 20 dollar tip on 6 dollar breakfast, or tip the guy that helps with the bags on the rental car shuttle 20 bucks or something like that. Something unexpected. They almost never look to see how much it is before I'm gone, and I like it that way. I'm not wealthy by any means, but I know there are people that have more hardship then me when it comes to making ends meet. My sadness is about other losses. But it does cheer me to think I might have brightened someone else's day. It just doesn't last. But I do recommend it to lift the spirits.

I hear what you say about it getting better eventually. But it's been two years, and not really getting better. I keep hoping though. Thanks for the kind words (to all of you). You are really wonderful folks.

[hisownpetard]

12. I checked your profile to see if we lived in the same state so that maybe we could meet for coffee

or something, but we don't.:cry:

Another thing that always lifted my spirits: On my lunch hour, I used to go to a nursery (not the baby kind; the tree kind).
Just walking around, looking at the beauty of the flowers, the endless patterns and combinations of leaves, petals and colors, the sheer brilliance of
design and the mystery of creation would make me realize how huge the universe is, and it helped me put my problems in perspective.

If you like, please feel free to PM me whenever. I would not consider it an imposition at all.:hi:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

6. not a big deal. it happens.

[SPKrazy]

7. MagsDem

it sounds like you are having a very hard time

talking to someone might help

whether it's your family doc and a referral, or call a local counseling service

I've been there man

:hug:

you're fine, don't worry about the lock, you learned something new and got some good advice

[LeftyFingerPop]

8. Hello...

and welcome. :hug:

Here are some thoughts that may help you:

1) You are not alone. Virtually tens of millions in the US suffer from depression.

2) It is truly a medical condition, and it is highly treatable.

3) EVERYTHING is magnified when you have depression. Unreasonable guilt is a common hallmark of depression. The guilt is real, you feel it, but it is magnified and unreasonable because of the depression.

4) People do love you. Sometimes, they just don't know how to talk to a depressed person and reassure them. It is virtually impossible to "buck up" with depression, just as you can't "buck up" from a heart attack.

5) Get treatment from a qualified professional. You WILL start feeling better.

:hug:

[MagsDem]

10. That's the thing,,,, people think you can just will it away

and of course you can't, anymore than you can will away a broken leg or a heart attack, as you say. It's not like I don't try. But that's what people expect. I am taking meds (which is embarassing enough), and they do help some. I think I am particularly bummed today because my doctor said I'm about as good as I can expect to get with medication, given the circumstances of my depression. That made me feel really hopeless. And then friends today, saying, hey, buck up. I wish I could just stop feeling sad. I do try. People just don't understand unless they have been there.

Thanks for your kind words.

[Fire Walk With Me]

11. Pardon me for butting in, Philboy said it quite well...

Having been prescribed meds to help you is not embarassing. There was a very bad problem, it has been understood, named, and fixed. You have a solution. That's worth a million...

It doesn't matter if that's different from other people; there is no "normal" to shoot for. Being responsible enough to admit a problem and to then accept the solution, that benefits both yourself and those close to you, is more grown-up than most "normal" people can ever be.

If you have trouble, admit it, and solve it, you are being very responsible. I respect that. Well done.

[liberaltrucker]

14. Seconded..I speak from experience

See PM

:hug:

[LeftyFingerPop]

13. First of all...

Taking meds is not an embarrassment. It is now pretty much universally accepted that depression has a very strong organic component. So, you would take meds for this just as you would for any other illness.

Now, I am not the best at expressing myself through type...but I will try to give you my opinion on something.

When I said earlier that everything is magnified, that includes the thinking that no one understands what you are going through. In fact, many many people can understand what you are feeling. However, it is the few that do not that will cause us the most upset and worry.

You have to tell yourself that the only one who matters when it comes to the way YOU feel....is YOU!!!! People's perception of your situation, whether good or bad, does not matter. Other people do not live inside you. Other people do not feel your joy or pain, only you do.

This is a difficult concept to get a hold of, but once you realize and accept this, you will experience freedom and begin to heal from within.

Take care of yourself. Eat well. Limit or eliminate alcohol. Trust in YOURSELF. Express yourself fully, and don't let what others say worry you.

It's hard to do through typing, but I want you to know you will be alright.