So when someone you love

[laylah]

says "fuck you" to you, what do you do? Me? My heart is broken. I don't talk like that, never did. It is too hateful...I am so damned hurt! :cry:

[lost-in-nj]

1. I am so

sorry

:hug:
it hurts when they are assholes....



lost

[billyskank]

2. I don't know.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

3. want some ass kicked?

:grr: don't like!!!!!!

:hug:

[laylah]

7. No...but

thanks for the protective response. I'll kick his ass on my own, tyvm :rofl:

[Deja Q]

4. I'd make a joke, but this does not seem the appropriate time.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

At least that person never hit you. (We hope)

[Fire Walk With Me]

5. Where I come from, you can say "fuck you!" to someone you love and it's not a deal-breaker.

You can be totally exasperated and not want to see them for a week but it doesn't mean you're through. You have the =right= to be totally exasperated with someone you love, and to fully express it (as is healthy).

If they love you, they'll tell you what's wrong from their POV. Good luck.

[Shakespeare]

6. OMG. I went through that with my EX. I'm so sorry you've having to deal with that.

There were a host of other issues, but being spoken to like that was one of the big ones. Something broke for me (in the relationship) the day he called me a "fucking cunt" with no provocation whatsoever.

I'm so sorry, and I know from experience how much that hurts. :hug:

I hope it's just a one-time thing for you; it wasn't for me. Just remember that you don't deserve to be spoken to that way--no one does, and don't tolerate it.

[laylah]

8. You are a dear

and I appreciate your response. NO, this was not the first time. There is a lot of history; however, I know I do NOT deserve to be spoken to this way. I am so very sad! AND, I am too old for this bs! I'd rather be alone.

[Solon]

9. I don't know what I would do, I'm so sorry that happened to you...

I just don't understand why someone could be so hateful to someone they are supposed to care about.

:hug:

[laylah]

10. ...

exactly. I am stunned; however, I must say, it is not the first time. After THAT one, I said if it was ever said again, we were DONE, as in D-O-N-E! I'd rather be alone...really.

:hug: Thank you so very much for the response/support!

[Solon]

13. Its a matter of respect...

Respect for yourself and their respect for you. No one in their right mind should hurt you in that manner. To say such a hateful thing only to hurt you is atrocious. I won't say you should follow my advice, however, being an ass myself, I'll offer some anyways. It should be done and over with, it will hurt for a while, but any type of relationship that causes you only pain isn't worth keeping.

[triguy46]

11. I said that one time to my wife, in 1978 when we'd been married 10 months.

I'll never say that to her again.

[laylah]

12. Good on you!

It is so hurtful...so very, very hurtful!

[amitten]

14. Just remember that some people view those words casually,

while others take them much more seriously.

Me, I take them seriously. But I know that some more volatile types don't, and I take that into consideration whenever someone finds the need to be vulgar.

I'm sorry this happened, and that you're feeling hurt.

[triguy46]

15. But many don't. I think the point is...

that 'fuck' as where is my fuckin' screwdriver is different than "fuck you." Recognizing that there are a myriad of responses out there, I learned from my wife that simple courtesy trumps.

[amitten]

21. I agree. n/t

[Karenina]

20. You showed the yellow card the first time.

This foul gets the RED CARD. Go to the bench. NOW. I swear, I will NEVER understand why people close to us treat us in a way they would NEVER treat a stranger. My answer has alway been, NO. If you insist on speaking to me with such words and in that tone, you will NOT speak to me at all. I don't want anyone close to me who disrespects me. There are many ways to handle conflict. Obscenities in the face is NOT one of them. :hug:

[laylah]

22. I like how you think!

Karenina! My opinion exactly! Thank you so very much for your input! :hug:

[laylah]

16. need feedback...!

[fizzgig]

17. i don't know what happened, mommy

but i'm sorry

love you

:hug:

[laylah]

19. Your Dad

with all of his faults (to coincide with mine, of course) never spoke to me like that. I am freaking Sara...I am so very, VERY hurt!

[laylah]

23. I wanna

come home, Sara. I wanna come home! I want to dabble my footsies in the Poudre. I wanna breathe the air...I made a VERY big mistake leaving "home"...if you can, please help me to make it possible!

[ThomCat]

18. I used to be a very angry person, many years ago

and if I got really mad I would talk like that. I don't think I could do it now. I'm just too aware of how much harm that can cause. :(

I'm sorry someone did that to you. I hope he/she was just momentarily mad and didn't really mean it. I hope you get an apology.