Alright, I'm supposed to go out on a first date next weekend, give me some ideas.

[LostInAnomie]

This will be my first first-date in five years so I'm a little rusty. Give me some ideas or tips for what I should do.

[Solon]

1. First impressions are important, so do NOT hump her leg when you first meet...

Just a suggestion.

On a more serious note, just be yourself, and don't smell bad.

[LostInAnomie]

3. Got it

Leg humping is out :cry:

Smelling good, and being myself is in. :shrug:

[Solon]

5. The next suggestion is to make sure your date is set up so you to can talk...

I don't know how well you know her, but if you know what her favorite types of food are, take her to a restaurant that serves that type of food. Not so fancy you would feel out of place if you don't wear a suit, but a decent restaurant would be nice.

In other words, avoid movies or concerts unless the date is for an entire evening, where you can go eat and talk then enjoy a movie or music, whatever.

Another suggestion is to do some type of activity to break the ice, bowling and pool are good, whichever she would prefer. Just another suggestion, if you do this type of activity, don't throw the games too obviously, let her work a little to win.

[pokerfan]

6. Don't stare at her boobs, no matter how hugh they are

"Looking at cleavage is like looking at the sun, you don't stare at it. It's too risky. You get a sense of it and then you look away."

[LostInAnomie]

9. I promise nothing.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. Is this with the girl you had to call?

I haven't had a date in 42 years!

But maybe I can help anyhow...

Did you find out anything about her?

That would be a help...

Dinner is always good, and it doesn't have to be really expensive.

It needs to be nice, though...

Hmmm...I'm drawing a blank.

But I'm sure you'll get some tips from the Lounge!

Good luck, sweetie...:hug:

[LostInAnomie]

4. Yep, same girl.

I'm nervous about it if you can't tell.

I found out a bunch of stuff about her, but nothing that will help me out. Women aren't always the most forthcoming with information about what they might want to do on a first date. I guess they like to be surprised.

I'm wanting to take her someplace nice, but she was kind of indifferent as to what she would like to eat, so that's not helping.

[Solon]

7. Another suggestion, and this may sound manipulative, but...

If she's not that forthcoming, then direct questions won't work, instead talk about what you like, and listen for her reactions. Mention activities or food that is your favorites, the types of things you like to do, and she may reveal more than she intends unconsciously. Just don't ask direct questions, that doesn't always work. At the very least, you will find out what NOT to do on a first date, and able to avoid what she hates.

[LostInAnomie]

8. Damn, Solon. You must get all the ladies.

That's some smooth shit.

[Solon]

10. I wish, actually I have many problems getting into relationships...

let's just say that my timing sucks ass. The last woman I dated, she said yes, but then again, she was leaving to go to Hawaii for college a few months after we started going out.

I guess the key to dating, and relationships in general, is being able to listen. Just let her talk, and you can pick up a shitload of snippets about her likes and dislikes that she wouldn't necessarily reveal with direct questioning. Just remember that interrogations aren't what dates are about. You want to find out more about her, but you don't need to grill her to find out.