I miss my mom during the holidays.

[Critters2]

My mom was diagnosed with her brain tumor three years ago, December 6. She had surgery on the 7th, and was never really herself from then on. She died in July, 2005.

I miss her most during the holidays. She would visit me, and help with my decorating. She'd send me shaped sugar cookies, chocolate-filled Advent calendars, and scented candles. She and my dad would come for the Christmas Eve service, and then we'd sit around drinking hot cider and enjoying her cookies.

It doesn't seem like Advent without her. Won't seem like Christmas, either.




This is the last chocolate Advent calendar my mom gave me.

[havocmom]

1. Ah, wish we could make the lonely go away.

Holidays and birthdays can be so tough after such a loss.

Fire up a candle or two. Make some cookies. Pour yourself a cider and pour one just because. Talk to her and just know love doesn't stop when the body does.

:hug:

There is a bereavement forum here. It can be a nice, quiet place to share feelings and get some support anytime you need a shoulder to lean on.

[Critters2]

3. Thank you. I'd forgotten about the bereavement forum.

I'll take a look-see. I've also decided to make some cookies. I have all her old cookie cutters. Tomorrow's my day off. So, I'll go in the morning to get the ingredients and make some cookies to send to my dad, my sibs and my cousins like she did.

Thanks for your thoughts, and the hug! :hi:

[hisownpetard]

26. That's a wonderful idea. I'm sure they're missing her as much as you are, and receiving the cookies

will be a great way to remember your love for her, which is now divided between
all of you. It never goes away. that love.

[fizzgig]

2. i can't say much

so here's a :hug:

[Critters2]

4. Thanks! That helps! nt

[redwitch]

5. I miss my mom too.

Lost her December 2004.

[Critters2]

10. I'm so sorry.

:hugs:

[redwitch]

12. I forgot your hug!

The holidays are hard. :hug:

[GreenPartyVoter]

6. I miss mine too *hugs*

[Critters2]

11. Sorry, GPV

:hug:


Btw, thanks for the link in your sig.

[GreenPartyVoter]

20. Glad you liked the link. :^) Let's have a drink to our moms, eh? I'll bring the ginger ale

:toast:

[hisownpetard]

27. Can I, too? My mom's been gone 15 years and I miss her more each year.

But I seem to miss her most on my birthday.
She was awesome.

[GreenPartyVoter]

34. You bet!

:toast:

[lost-in-nj]

7. i miss

my Dad

1982

my baby brother
1992

my big brother

2002

mom

2006



fuck

[flying_wahini]

8. terrible.... breaks my heart for you

losing the people we love is just painful.

[Critters2]

9. lost, I'm so sorry.

You've had too much sorrow. Wish there were more I could do, but here's this:hug:

[redwitch]

16. I am so sorry you have had so many terrible losses.

:hug:

[hisownpetard]

28. Oh, damn. I'm so sorry to hear that. You must be a very strong person.

[WinkyDink]

13. {{{{mycritters2}}}} {{{{All DU'ers posting here}}}}

[SPKrazy]

14. I miss my mom too

the holidays were here time to shine

:cry:

[hedgehog]

15. The holidays are becoming more bittersweet for me every year.

I can remember the people who were alive when I was little kid and I remember how good those times seemed to be.

[Lorien]

17. So sorry mycritters2

She's sounds like she was a wonderful women and an exceptional mother. It's quite understandable that you miss her so much this time of year. I wish that I could send you a chocolate advent calendar and sugar cookies, but I know it wouldn't be the same. :hug:

[skygazer]

18. I'm sorry - it's tough to lose your mom

I miss my mom, too even though its been 32 years since she died. She was the person who made the holidays joyful. I try my best to view them through her eyes, to kind of keep her with me. It's still hard. :hug:

[Wapsie B]

19. I'm sorry about your mom.

That can be the bad thing about the holidays, missing those who matter most to us.

[fortyfeetunder]

21. It's the most horribly painful time of the year.

It's been years since my mom passed, she was always into the holidays. I knew the end was year the November before she died (she wasn't excited about Thanksgiving) and I spent Christmas, New Years, and celebrated her last birthday with her.

Since then holidays have never been the same. I have had to spend most holidays with the outlaws (MIL/FIL and siblings) who have been mainly nasty to me, especially during Thanksgiving and Christmas -- and it has all but taken the joy out of this time of year.

Listening to holiday music for the most part makes me want to cry.

I really hate this time of year. If I could only hibernate between Nov 15 and Jan 1 I would be very happy.

[liberaltrucker]

22. My condolences

I fear that all too soon, I'll be posting a similar thread.

My Mom is 78 and not in good health. After my wife, she's my best friend.

:cry:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

23. Hugs for you...

Wish they could be real... :hug::hug::hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

24. My thoughts, prayers and condolences Mycritters2

:hug: :hug: My heart truly does go out to you -partly because I know that I and many others in this board can relate. Your mother sounds like a wonderful person who really knew how to enjoy and make the best of the Christmas season

This will be the first Christmas without my mother so I imagine I'm going to experience what you've been going through the past two years. She always loved Christmas and would enthusiastically put up the tree and go to great lengths to decorate the house and make it throughly beautiful. She was someone who loved Christmas and the Christmas spirit. Quite often we'd have a party and she'd cook wonderful meals and be a gracious host on Christmas Eve (which is usually when we'd have the party). And if there were young kids around, she'd really take pleasure in their enjoyment of Christmas and try to enhance it as much as she could

I'm sorry Mycritters2:hug: :hug: :loveya: And I'm sorry for all those people posting here and those everywhere who have experienced the same kind of loss:hug: :hug: Holidays like this are never easy

[leftofthedial]

25. I wish I could make your Christmas merry and bright.

Just think of her and try to make your Christmas the way she would have wanted it.

My mom's getting on and in bad health. I treasure every moment I have left with her. I really feel sorry for the people who don't have close relationships with their parents in their later years.

Your Mom is with you every time you put an ornament on the tree, or decorate a cookie, or sing a carol . . .

:D

[Robeson]

29. I'm sorry mycritters2...

...:hug:

[JVS]

30. I'm sorry to hear about your mourning.

Do not fall into the trap of thinking that Christmas and Advent must be a happy time. While traditionally we celebrate the receiving of the savior, there is a solemn aspect to the incarnation. We know the christmas story, but we also know what will happen next, we know that Christ came into this world to suffer, and that it is only through his suffering that we have any hope. Remember his words: "happy are those who mourn, they shall be comforted"

[judaspriestess]

31. ...............

This post has made me so teary eyed. I have my mom with me still and she lives with us. I am so grateful for that and she will always live with me till the end.....

I can only begin to imagine how much you miss her :cry:

[Connonym]

32. :hugs:

It's the hardest time of year I think. I'm sorry for your loss and that you're aching right now.

On another, lighter note, that is the exact Advent calendar I bought my daughter this year. She picked it -- and called it an "Advil calendar" Silly little moppet!

Wishing you happiness and lovely memories mycritters.

[Inchworm]

33. My dad has passed

He was a cool dude. I miss him. I do moreso on holidays we did get togeter.

Truth be told I really miss him always. All the lil decisions are best run thru Dad.

:hug: