Do you miss your Mom when you get sick?

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I have been motherless for a long time now and every time I get sick I miss my mom even more.

I miss her bringing me miso, tomato or chicken noodle soup and hot chocolate or tea.

I also miss her taking care of me by bringing me medicine and standing over me until I downed that horrible spoonful of cough medicine or baby aspirins.

She would pick up my dirty klenexes and replace them with a fresh box. She would also bring you a bucket if you couldn't make it to the bathroom and stand over you to clean up after you.

I miss my Mommy so much today that it hurts.

[xultar]

1. So funny you posted this, I wasn't feelin well last night and I

had to stop myself from callin my mom. Hell. I'm in my 30's. How lame was that!

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3. My son is in his 30's and calls me when he's sick

'tis ok.

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2. I'm so sorry love

:hug:

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4. Thank you!

My Mom and her identical twin sister was born during the depression and her parents didn't have enough money to take care of them properly and they were sickly kids. My Mom's twin did 10 years before my mom died.

Sorry about the rant.

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7. No rant..you just need someone you can express your feelings.

My Mom had me when she was 'older' late 40's. I'm her Mom now. She's 92 and in a nursing home. It's hard to watch as her body keeps going down but, her mind is sharp. I have a lot of guilt about not being able to care for her.

As Gilda Radner said, 'if ain't one thing it's another'.

We care about you. :pals:

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8. I am so sorry for you

I had tons of guilt because at the end I was begging God to let her die because she had no way of coming out of a coma.

I don't know whether it is worse to lose a parent when you are young or older.

When you are older you are more use to them being around and I know that it would hurt bad because they are part of your everyday routine and life.

Don't feel bad about not being able to care for her. Just make sure the people that are taking care of her are doing their job.

Her mind is sharp and she can understand if you are unable to take care of her. Just make sure that the nursing home is doing their job when you are not around or see if her insurance will pay for a sitter for part of the day. Believe me I know about nursing homes.

I had to visit one because my Mom was brain dead but her body was still alive. It was very difficult to deal with in the end.

Bless your heart.

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10. Thanks for your support - it helps.

I know what you're saying about nursing homes. This one isn't bad but, I still go everyday, do her laundry. She likes the way I wash her clothes and how they smell so good ;) I bring her food and spend some time. I took care of her for 4 years after her stroke but, it's too dangerous for her to be alone. I've tried to figure out how to make my home accomodate her but, between money and the fact that my house doesn't offer alot of options the nursing home was the only way. And it's close by - only 10 minutes.

And you're not Mommy-less, your Mom is inside of you.

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12. Will her insurance pay for a sitter

At her age it should pay for a sitter if she needs one. You should check into it.

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13. I don't think they will but, I'll check.

The nursing home is suffering some financial setbacks because of bush. But, I'll check it out on Monday when the office is open.

If you need someone to talk to - anytime - PM or email. I'm here for you.

Rosemary

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14. Ask her Doctor to prescribe one

Then they will pay for one. They did for my Mom and she had and HMO insurance.

PM me also anytime you want to talk.

Bless your heart.

[Commie Pinko Dirtbag]

5. I'm momless too, but my wife makes a terrific mom when I'm sick

Including even the chicken noodle soup, hot beverages & medicines part! :loveya:

[greatauntoftriplets]

6. My mother is still alive, but our roles reversed long ago.

Happens to everyone if either parent lives long enough.

I take care of myself when I am sick. I also take care of her when I am sick.

[donco6]

9. Lucky You

I just didn't have a mom like that. I always had to fend for myself. She's been dead for 20 years now, so don't really think about it much. Guess that's the way the cookie crumbles.

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11. I am sorry

When you find a life partner they will take care of you.

[donco6]

19. He does!

Yeah for me! Went through chemo four years ago, and he was great. I've learned a lot about nurturing from him. Whatta guy!

[ikojo]

23. Yeah my mom wasn't much of a nurturer either

I visited her in Arizona in August 2003. During the flight I ended up getting a migraine headache that was so bad I got sick once we landed in Phoenix. Unfortunately once I got to Phoenix I still had a two hour ride in the Sedona/Phoenix shuttle. By the time I got to my mom's town I was not feeling well at all.

She was there to meet me at the hotel and when I asked her to take me to the ER so I could get a shot she complained that she was not dressed to go to the ER. I was just so sick and she was more concerned about her appearance (she had left the house w/no bra on and did not want to go into the hospital like that.) She suggested that we go to her house and I lay down. I was in SERIOUS pain.

So, I did as she suggested and was bed ridden for almost two days when I would have been only one had I gone to the ER.

Nope, I've pretty much have taken care of myself when I got sick. I had to learn to nurture people as an adult by observing others.

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24. Not dressed to go to the ER

I feel so bad for you sorry.

[no_hypocrisy]

15. I lost my Mom in July. Three months later, when I had an MRI for a

severed knee ligament, I was literally in tears, crying that I wanted my mother because of the pain and fear of the injury.

My mother was an extraordinary nurse in a layperson sense. She never doubted your claims of severity (e.g., scraped knee, stomache, etc.) and she never deserted you. She even arranged to sleep on a cot in my hospital room when I was 8 years ago (tonsilectomy).

I was finally able to show my appreciation by staying by her side for hours in the hospital when she took her last breath.

Even though my Mom's gone, and I know she couldn't make a lot of things "better", it felt good to have her nearby, y'know?

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16. I feel bad for you

It's only been a short time and the first few years are the hardest. As time goes by it gets easier but you still hurt inside.

[Padraig18]

17. My mam has been gone for almost 10 years.

It gets better, yes, but it never completely goes away. :hug:

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18. Sorry

Your right it will never go away and it's something that haunts you for the rest of your life. :hug:

[YellowRubberDuckie]

20. Not MY mom, but my second mom.

She babies me and waits on me hand and foot. My actual mom tells me to get over it she feels worse than anyone. And I crave my boyfriend when I'm sick. He always massages my entire body and makes sure I stay hydrated and fed.
Duckie

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21. oh, sweetie...

I'm so sorry. I can't say I miss mine, but I surely understand the longing. Here's a :hug: from someone at least old enough to be your mother.... :)

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22. Thanks

:hug: :loveya: