"Life is Short, have an affair."

[Haole Girl]

Any thoughts?


(it's a billboard in Southern California)











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http://www.nowpublic.com/culture/life-short-have-affair-billboard-controversy

[Guava Jelly]

1. Yeah

It is better to end before you start :)

[Haole Girl]

3. End what ?

:shrug:

[Guava Jelly]

9. Free a heart before you adopt another

While an affair is great for the two having it.
Chances are it isn't so fun for those being cheated on.

[Haole Girl]

10. No kidding!!

:toast:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

2. My dear KC2...

Some folks think this is a good idea...

Ya never know...

:hi:

[Haole Girl]

4. Hey, obviously!

Talk about a marketing ploy, huh?

It's certainly got people talking! :hi:

[lost-in-nj]

5. not sure how I feel

its a little different when you are the

left behind spouse........



lost

[Haole Girl]

7. This is true

It's always different from the inside looking out, isn't it? :hug:

[lost-in-nj]

15. it fucking sucks

especially when she is beneath you



lost

[Haole Girl]

16. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

So sorry. :hug:

[lizziegrace]

13. Yep

I agree with you, lost. :pals:

[Throd]

6. Tacky

[Haole Girl]

8. Hey, I see you live in Long Beach...

Are they talking about this in Southern CA much?

My Uncle used to live just off of Ocean Blvd., btw... loved his old house. :hi:

[JuniperLea]

11. I was born in Long Beach

I worked for a couple who lived at Ocean and Kennebec... across the street from the LB Museum of Art... loved that old house! I had a small part in assisting them restore the grand old craftsman.

This is the first I've heard of that sign... ugh... I agree with the guy from Long Beach. Tacky as all hell.

[Haole Girl]

12. Those were beautiful old houses

Haven't been back there in many years. Hope they are all still there. He had the most magnificent old Spanish tile work. Magnificent.

[JuniperLea]

27. Many are being restored

Multi-million dollar homes... my buddies/bosses bought theirs for $75k in 1980; it was going to be condemned. They saved its life:) Their heirs surely made a ton of money off it, I certainly hope so! The time and love that went into it was astounding.

[Throd]

14. My good buddy lives at 3rd and Kennebec

Great neighborhood. Long Beach is a mixed bag. You can go from great to "Yikes!" in about two blocks.

[JuniperLea]

30. Los Angeles County is that way all over...

Long Beach has many very posh neighborhoods, with slums on the borders. The weird part is, if you buy in the ghetto areas, you STILL pay through the nose! And you get gunshots and graffiti thrown in for free! Yippee... :sarcasm:

[triguy46]

17. 1. Life is not so short that unfaithfulness is a virtue

2. It's not all about you.

[Haole Girl]

19. Good points, as well as:

3. Why not just get a f*ing divorce first?!

[Mad_Dem_X]

61. Exactly!

I personally have no tolerance for cheating or cheaters. If one is unhappy in a marriage, seek counseling or get a divorce. Committing adultery, breaking your marriage vows, is wrong.

[JVS]

18. the devil!

[Haole Girl]

20. That guy is everywhere!

;-)

[JVS]

21. For real!

[Ellen Forradalom]

22. It's....provocative.

Let's leave it at that.

[Haole Girl]

24. Yes, it is. nt

[Fran Kubelik]

23. ugh

And the link is for a match.com kind of place for affairs? That's so wrong.

[bridgit]

how bout, "When you have no more *good* ideas...dredge the bottom."

:wow:

[Haole Girl]

26. Oh yeah

...forgot that part. :eyes:

[triguy46]

28. Good for business though, if you can convince people that....

affairs are normal, necessary, and expected and most importantly, that you need a dating service to arrange the affair.

There are two general approaches to advertising. The first is convincing someone who wants a product that you make or sell to buy yours and not a competitors. The other more difficult process is to convince people they need something that they are not interested in, such as an affair arranger. If you can sell the sizzle, the price of the steak is irrelevant.

[idgiehkt]

36. of course, there is the part where they are being honest

lolol. It almost seems virtuous to admit to being married up front. :shrug:

It's not my cup of tea, and though it may be bad it's better than lying about being married, then stringing someone along and playing with their head when you are married and have no real intention of ever getting divorced.

[Haole Girl]

37. Hey

The lesser of two evils, in a matter of speaking.

How've you been? :hi:

[idgiehkt]

38. I'm good, you?

sorry I didn't see this earlier, I got preoccupied. :hug:

[Haole Girl]

53. I'm ok...

but you already know that by now! lol

:hug:

[Tuesday Afternoon]

25. Life is short.

Shoot the muthafucka.

[Ellen Forradalom]

29. HAHAHA That's more like it!

[Haole Girl]

31. Yes, affairs do make some people's lives shorter...

...don't they? ;-)

[midlife_mo_Jo]

64. That's right.

Life is too short to be married to a cheater. Either 'fess up, and work on the marriage, ask for a divorce.

[Dukkha]

32. Isn't there an online dating service for cheaters?

I saw something like that on CNN. Pretty stupid to use something that leaves a trail of evidence on you PC.

[Haole Girl]

33. I'm sure there is

I just googled it... there are quite a few!

Wow... check out this one: http://www.lonelycheatingwives.com/

[triguy46]

34. Try this site.

http://www.philanderers.com/

[Haole Girl]

35. The words internet and private..

are not exactly synonyms, are they? :eyes:

[unpossibles]

81. no one likes to imagine they will get caught I think

same as with other types of Republicans...er.. criminals I mean. They all think they're too smart to get caught.

[DarkTirade]

39. I'm almost tempted to sign up just for the hell of it... :P

That, and to see if anybody I know is on there. :)

[Haole Girl]

41. lol!

There was a married couple, in Europe I think, who realized both were on the same dating service. The divorced... each stating the other was unfaithful.

[DarkTirade]

47. I've heard worse...

I heard about one couple that had been flirting online and decided to meet in person... only to find that the woman had been lying about her age and sent a fake picture... and she was the guy's mother. :)

[Haole Girl]

51. Ick

I hope that's an urban myth!

[DarkTirade]

56. Nope. Can't find the link now, but it was a real news article

But don't worry, once they met face to face they broke it off. :)

[Haole Girl]

59. The truth is really stranger than fiction

...isn't it?!

[DarkTirade]

60. Only the really interesting bits. :)

[DarkTirade]

68. Heh, just a few minutes and I already get a wink from a 30something in the next state over.

This could be interesting. :P

[Inchworm]

40. An affair of utmost importance?

or.. like.. the kissing nekkid necks kind?

:hi:

[Haole Girl]

42. I'm pretty sure...

..they are talking about the latter. :hi:

[billyskank]

43. I just want the relationship in the first place.

:hi:

[Haole Girl]

45. Hey you!

Hope you have a great time in the U.S., if I don't get a chance to say so before you go...

bon voyage!!! :hi:

[billyskank]

49. Thanks!

I'm sure I'll check in from time to time while I'm there. :hi:

:hug:

[DarkTirade]

69. Check between the couch cushions. You can find all sorts of neat stuff in there. :)

[flvegan]

44. You know, I actually went to the website advertised to see what it was.

Now I'm all signed up and ready to attend to the ladies' extramarital needs.

w00t!!!!!

Just kidding.

[Haole Girl]

46. I was surprised, really, that there were so many ...

..websites for that when I googled it. There must be a lot of people living double lives out there.

[flvegan]

52. I think that there are a lot of folks that sign up for that kind of thing

that are looking for attention, but not real contact. Sort of a "see what I could attract" mindset.

[NewJeffCT]

48. Seems kind of silly

to advertise for people wanting to cheat on their spouses.

[Haole Girl]

50. Yeah...

But it's a commentary on our society, too.

[NewJeffCT]

54. eh, people have been having affairs since the beginning of marriage

This is more blatant, but at least the people posting personal ads seeking affairs on that website will hopefully be more upfront about their intentions, rather than lying and saying they are single, separated or divorced.

[Haole Girl]

57. Well, of course it's better than the lies

Something still doesn't sit well with me about it. It's the advertising of... the sort of "in your face" attitude, I guess.

[midlife_mo_Jo]

63. Upfront to whom?

Their spouse/significant other?

Cheating on a spouse/significant other is a form of abuse.

[NewJeffCT]

65. to the person contacted

Wasn't there a survey about dating services and how a lot of the people there are actually married, but claim not to be? At least the person is going in knowing that the person is married.

When I was younger, I met a few women that I liked quite a bit that turned out to be married. At least I would not have wasted my time with them if I had known up front.

It's still not fair to the spouse, though.

[Orsino]

55. "Life is short. Hurt your partner, or someone else's."

I mean, I'm all for people finding happiness, but not at the expense of others'.

[Haole Girl]

58. Well said. nt

[Mad_Dem_X]

62. Yup. n/t

[regularguy]

66. Life's short enough as is...

I don't want my wife to kill me! Plus there's that whole lying asshole thing that I'm trying to avoid.

[DarkTirade]

67. You could be honest with her about it and skip the lying part.

Not sure how to get around the other part though. :)

[regularguy]

70. Not sure either. I suspect alcohol plays a role... :)

[cobalt1999]

71. Life is short, if you're not happy in your current relationship, then...

GET OUT OF IT! Then, and only then, find someone new.

[Haole Girl]

72. Agreed

Still, I'm sure there are mitigating circumstances, at times. I wouldn't want to be in the shoes of the person who thinks an affair is a good way to "meet their needs". It very rarely works out that way, you know. Life is just not that simple...not that easy (IMHO).

[I Have A Dream]

73. I really don't think that they could get away with putting up a sign...

like that here in Pennsylvania. I think that someone would destroy it. I would get angry every time I saw it, so maybe it would be me. I'm not into vandalism, but I might just be able to rationalize doing it in this case. x(

[Haole Girl]

77. It wouldn't be worth going to jail

Plus, a company like that would probably welcome the media coverage.

[Writer]

74. An affair is something that occurs when you least expect it.

We're all human and susceptible to it.

But if you're actually out SEEKING an affair, have your lawyer and your therapist's number handy, and God help you.

[Haole Girl]

78. Wise words

I've learned that judging others almost tempts fate, doesn't it?

Hope you're doing well, Writer. :hug:

[Crazy Dave]

75. Marriages should be like leases

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20070920/od_nm/germany_politics_marriage1_dc_1;_ylt=AmMzJD8zlRk_hu095Vj5C2UE1vAI

[Haole Girl]

79. I saw that article

Is that truly a marriage, or simply a contractual arrangement? hmm..

[Crazy Dave]

82. That's really all a marriage is correct?

Does a legal document have anything to do with love and commitment?

No.

But there should be and/or probably is stipulations for couples with community property and children. If they have none and want to walk away....so be it.

[Haole Girl]

83. That is so...

..so unromantic! (sorry, I had no logical response to your question! lol)

[SOteric]

76. Life ~is~ short. An affair has the potential to make it shorter.

[Haole Girl]

80. So I've heard

:hi:

[SarahB]

84. Going behind someone's back and lying is wrong.

Life is too short to not live life to the fullest with someone you love.