Okay I feel bad with all the serious stuff that people are dealing with

[SPKrazy]

I'm just having a hard time I think partly because my life has changed tremendously recently since I moved out and I am also in the process of changing my antidepressant too and it makes me feel weird on top of all of that.

With OMC's wife's situation, I feel guilty asking for a hug 'cause I got no problems compared to her and their family.

I'm just anxious, and I feel like I am imploding sometimes.

Can I have a hug lounge?

:grouphug:

I hug all of you back...

[fizzgig]

1. you can always get a hug from me

:hug:

imploding...that's a good word for me right now too

[SPKrazy]

2. ...

:hug: back to you kagehime

[Debi]

3. There are plenty enough to go around

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

4. thanks

:hug:

[Left Is Write]

5. Of course you can have a hug.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

6. thanks LIW

:hug:

[Cabcere]

7. I know that feeling.

Big :hug: for you, buddy! :grouphug: :pals:

[SPKrazy]

8. thanks

friend

:hug: back

[AlCzervik]

9. i'll always have a hug at the ready for you.

:hug: :pals:

[SPKrazy]

13. thanks chimps!

:hug:

back at ya

[lost-in-nj]

10. SPK

:hug: :hug: :loveya:


was wondering if you had a hug to share also ......

I feel like I'm losing it tonight to.......

lost

[SPKrazy]

12. you got it lost

:hug: :hug: :hug:

:loveya:

you always got that lost

BLU

[Cabcere]

16. Hey, lost

:hug: I've got a hug for you too. :pals: It's just one of those nights, I guess...I'm feeling it too. We'll get through it, though, right? :pals: Peace.

[YellowRubberDuckie]

11. ....

[SPKrazy]

15. you have a giant smilie

:rofl:

:hug:
thanks

[Gormy Cuss]

14. Okay.

Google is a wonderful thing.
http://www.loyola.edu/eventservices/Spaces/Hug%20Lounge

[SPKrazy]

17. pffftttt....

thanks

:rofl:

[femmocrat]

58. Wow! What a great place for a Lounge meet-up!

:hug: Lounge!

[darkstar]

18. Alright. Hang tough brotherman.

Tough times are OK if 1) they don't last and 2) you've got friends to lean on. No problem reaching out, ever.

Where's our buddy Philboy at? He'd give you a good long hug.

Persevere and keep on smiling.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

23. thanks

:hug:

[tandot]

19. I hope the new antidepressant is working out for you and you are feeling better soon!

Best wishes and a big hug to you :hug:

[SPKrazy]

24. oh i dunno

feel bad

:hug:

[tandot]

70. Usually they take a while to kick in. Hang in there...

:hi: :pals:

[SPKrazy]

95. yeah i'm

going from an ssri paxil to wellbutrin

so i got withdrawal stuff going on

weaning off slowly

and getting used to wellbutrin

[mzteris]

20. oh hon. . .

:hug:

I think we're all feeling rather emotional about OMC's situation.

Add that to the feeling of loss we're going through - albeit for very different reasons - and it just feels (odd/awful/weird/bad/worse . . .) you pick the word...

It's almost like you feel guilty and jealous and angry and sad and just down right po'd at the universe, the powers that be, and off course - the ever popular "ex" - whoever that may be and why ever they may be the "ex". The more so, I think, if you have kid(s).

What's that? Guilty?

Yeah, 'cause you think - WTF - here is this wonderful family and the mom is so ill and they could be ripped asunder for ever - but MINE is ripped asunder for ever!! and you secretly think 'whytf do I have to go through it THIS way?' and then you feel guilty for sorta wishing your "ex" would 'leave this eartly coil' (naturally of course) and feel guilty for feeling jealous . . .

Yeah. Jealous. That even with the awful hell OMC is going through - to HAVE A RELATIONSHIP THAT SPECIAL to potentially lose. Yeah. That.

so yeah, you feel weird. Meds and new situation and adjustments not withstanding. it just totally sucks that OMC and his family is going through this complete trauma.

And it just totally sucks that we're going through our own trauma.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:





I really hope people understand this post, though I suspect for some - who've never gone through this type of situation - won't get it and will flame away. I debated some time before posting because I really don't deal with confict very well these days, but if it helps anyone deal with their feelings then, well, it doesn't matter if some just don't understand.

[SPKrazy]

25. thanks

i think i know what you are saying

:hug: :hug:

[lildreamer316]

21. HUG!!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

26. thanks

:hug: :hug:

[laylah]

22. Anytime...

:hug: Hang in there, it will get better, I promise.

[SPKrazy]

28. thanks laylah

:hug: :hug:

[txwhitedove]

27. You have been dealin with very serious issues, too. Hugs to you..

:hug:

You could work off some anxiety over in GD. They're dissing the South again.
Damn it.

[SPKrazy]

29. oh yeah...

:eyes:

no thanks

:hug:

[txwhitedove]

34. Ok, hugs it is. I'll just muddle through GD mud alone.

:pals:

[Zookeeper]

30. Absolutely!

'Sorry you're feeling down.

Feel free to vent. (I'm doing much better myself even though another mini-crisis came and went since my last message! *Sigh* Life at the Zoo.)

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

31. thanks zookeeper

:hug: :hug:

[libodem]

32. Very glad to give you a hug, Southpaw

Did you move out from your family home? Hope your new antidepressant works out well for you. I've been thinking about that Cymbalta, that is advertised on TV, for chronic pain. I think it can be taken concurrently with Wellbutrin, which I'm on now. I have a friend who takes both. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

33. yeah

moved out from my family home

well it was my family home

:hug:

[NC_Nurse]

35. Of course.

:hug:

We gots lots...:-)

[SPKrazy]

36. thanks

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

37. My dear Southpawkicker...

Sweetie, we all have problems...

Yours are just as legitimate as OMC's...

I always have hugs for you......

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

39. oh peg

thanks so much

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Writer]

38. HUG!

:hug:

I hope it helps.

[SPKrazy]

41. thanks

:hug: back

[libodem]

40. My last boy

just moved out of my house a month ago. He's 22. I miss him and now I have to feed his darn cats. It can be tough on the Mom, too. Wishing you the best success on your new found Independence.:toast:

[SPKrazy]

43. my boy's 7 y/o

i moved out

he's with his mother

[libodem]

47. sorry

that sux :(

[SPKrazy]

48. well

it does

and it doesn't

he spent the weekend with me

kind of quiet without him

:cry:

[sarge43]

42. Even when you're feeling fine, a hug is always welcome.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

44. thanks

:hug:

[VenusRising]

45. HHHHUUUUGGGGSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anxiety is no fun. It can feel like you're dying sometimes.

I'm just a PM away!

:hi:

:hug:

:loveya:

[SPKrazy]

46. thanks friend

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[VenusRising]

53. Anytime.

You're one of my most favorite people here.

It makes me sad that your feeling anxiety because I deal with it so often.

:hug::hug::hug:

[BarenakedLady]

49. Of course!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

50. thanks

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[MANative]

51. Hugs are freely given, much deserved, and

plentiful for all DUers. Here's one from me...

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

52. thanks

:hug:

[femmocrat]

54. Always, Southpawkicker....

:hug:

Especially since we are "related" somehow! LOL ;)

[SPKrazy]

55. thanks

:hug:

[Inchworm]

56. Hugs brudder!

:hug: :pals: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

57. thanks man

:hug:

[skygazer]

59. Oh, Pawpicker, of course you can!

:hug: :grouphug: :hug:

I know what you mean - sometimes I feel guilty being down when I know "other people have it worse" but that doesn't make the way you feel any less valid. Besides, you HAVE had some big changes and that IS tough.

I hope your meds even out soon - I know and hate that feeling. :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

61. thanks skygazer

:hug: :hug:

[Mutley]

60. Sure!

:hug:

The great thing about the Lounge is that there are plenty of hugs to go around. :)

[SPKrazy]

62. thanks mutley

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

63. ((((HUG))))

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

64. sis!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

thanks sis, thanks

[I Have A Dream]

65. the good things about hugs is that there are always more than enough...

to go around. I hope that things get better for you really soon, Spk.

There's always someone who has it worse than we do, but it doesn't make our pain not matter. Please take care of yourself; I'm sorry that you're feeling bad.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

67. thanks

:hug:

[davsand]

66. Know what is the odd thing about love?

The more you give in life the more you get back...

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling anxious. Not only do I send hugs, but I also send as much love and light as you can stand!

:hug:



Laura

[SPKrazy]

68. thanks

:hug:

[graywarrior]

69. Dude!

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
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[SPKrazy]

72. oh man...

:hug: :hug: :hug:

thanks gray

:cry: :hug: thanks

[Bullwinkle925]

71. you bet your sweet bippy . . .

here ya go . . .





hope it makes you feel better!

[SPKrazy]

73. oh thanks bullwinkle

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

74. Never Feel Guilty Asking For A Hug. And I'm More Than Happy To Give Ya A Big One.

:hug:

Change can be a big thing to go through and depression obviously can totally suck. But never forget that no matter where you are, no matter what life throws at you, and no matter what house or otherwise you are living in, that the voice in your head, the deep inner voice (the one you hear as you read these words) is always there and is NEVER changed. No matter where you are, what is happening, or what you're doing, simply closing your eyes and listening to that voice soothe you and tell you that everything's going to be ok can help. That can be done anywhere, at any time, for any reason.

So I know you might be feeling really anxious right now and I know there's no easy way to get it to go away, but always remember that the real you, that voice inside of you, is always unchanged and is always there at your disposal for its use. It has within it more strength than you can ever imagine, and people don't pause to make themselves aware of its presence nearly often enough. But it's easier than you think. Just close your eyes and hear it. Listen to it. Identify with it. It can help you be strong and get through the worst of times. It doesn't need to keep you constantly strong or override the anxiety all the time, it just merely needs to be called upon from time to time to just hit pause and remind yourself that inside, the true you, the real you, is still ok and that you'll make it through. One day when I have a bit more time, energy and consciousness, I'll explain more what I mean. But for now good night and hang in there, and here's another hug for ya.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

78. OMG THANKS OMC!

I can only imagine how much you hurt right now and to take time to write all of that, damn, you are a good guy (no matter what they say ;) )

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

may your family be healed and your wife get well very soon.

I'm humbled by your words and :cry: thanks

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[redwitch]

75. Hugs, hugs, hugs

:hug: and a big kiss in the middle of your forehead!

[SPKrazy]

79. thanks

:hug:

[Wapsie B]

76. Here ya go!

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

80. thanks

:hug:

[MrScorpio]

77. Laying on the huggage

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

81. thanks dude!

:hug: :hug:

[pitohui]

82. you can have a hug

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

85. thank you

:hug:
:hug:

[undeterred]

83. I will give you a hug if you promise I won't get burned

by that candle... :hide:

[SPKrazy]

87. sure thing

it's not really hot :P

:hug:

[undeterred]

90. ok

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

84. Nice thing about hugs is...

There are always plenty to go around! :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

No need to feel guilty, hon. Don't even try to compare your troubles with other peoples'....They're different types of fruit.
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[SPKrazy]

88. Oh GoG

thanks

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[TK421]

86. Here's a hug....that thread kind of hit me hard, too

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

92. thanks man

:hug: :hug:

[Bjornsdotter]

89. Of course

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

93. thanks

:hug: :hug:

[philosophie_en_rose]

91. Hugs are unlimited.

Plenty to go around.

:grouphug::grouphug:
:grouphug::grouphug:

[SPKrazy]

94. awesome

:grouphug:

:hug:
thanks

[OzarkDem]

96. Sure

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

101. thanks

:hug:

[Fire Walk With Me]

97. Nothing wrong with gently asking to be included in the good vibes!

I hope that things will be fine. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

103. thanks Peake!

:hug: :hug:

[crim son]

98. You have a thousand hugs from me, pawpicker.

I haven't been much of a friend lately but I think of you often, and even speak of you to Maineiac and another friend of mine who knows we are buddies. I have the greatest confidence that you are going to be okay but dammit, I know how you feel. Hugs and a few smooches to you, my friend. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

102. thanks crimmie!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[WinkyDink]

99. {{Southpawkicker}} ~~~I appreciate the return hug!

[SPKrazy]

104. sure thing

:hug:

[Mz Pip]

100. THere's always room for

another hug. :hug: :loveya:


Mz Pip
:dem:

[SPKrazy]

105. thanks DUzy Winner

:hug: :hug:

[From The Ashes]

106. A hug for you...

from a new/old friend...

[fizzgig]

107. i think i know you

how life, my friend?

:hug:

[From The Ashes]

110. Doing great...

...Did you miss my grand opuses?

Part 1
Part 2

I do have a flair for the dramatic! :hi:

[fizzgig]

113. i saw the first thread

and had a feeling this is what was going on

but obviously i missed the second one

i'm glad to hear you say you're doing great :D

[From The Ashes]

114. Been feeling kinda noobyish the last couple days...

...nobody's talking to me. I feel like the new kid at school. Hence the temporary sig line :D

[fizzgig]

117. hehe

hope it works :D

[From The Ashes]

119. Depends...

...if they bother to read my sigline. :shrug: Just another example of the law of unintended consequences.

[fizzgig]

121. tis true

but i think people will figure it out quickly enough

but hey, you got me, who else do you need? :P

[SPKrazy]

109. Hey you!

how's Texas and your job treating you?

:hug:

[From The Ashes]

112. Texas is great...

job is great. Life is getting better all the time.

[SPKrazy]

115. glad to hear it

you deserve it

:hug: :hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

108. Here you go

:hug: :grouphug: :grouphug: There's no reason to feel guilty for needing a hug -we all need them from time to time. And I think I know what you are feeling too because I've been having similar feelings lately

[SPKrazy]

111. thanks

:hug: :hug:

[havocmom]

116. You got it.

:hug:

ALWAYS remember: today is NOT what forever what feels like. Write that down somewhere you will see it often!

Keep a journal. Be kind to yourself, at least as good to you as you would be to a friend going through hell.

Put up a picture of yourself as a youngster. Look at it often. Have tenderness for that youngster. Tell him you will take care of him and that you are him, big and strong. Let him remind you of things you may have forgotten.

Make a list of five things you enjoy doing (sounds easier than it is sometimes) and do one of them each week.

In a few months, expand the list. It WILL be easier to think of more things you actually like to do in that short a time.

Keep reaching out. But always remember: the other guy's arm is only so long and so strong.

Repeat after me: Today is NOT what forever will feel like.

:hug:

Know that others are holding a light up at the other end of the tunnel. It's how we all get through these bad times.

Oh, and check your breathing a few times a day. Amazing how we can get in the habit of shallow, rabid breathing when stressed. That can really fuck with one's chemistry and make the stress/panic cycle a self feeding monster.

Repeat after me: Today is NOT what forever will feel like.

Know people around here think of you and wish you well.

[SPKrazy]

118. i'm humbled by the response here

truly humbled

and thanks havocmom

good advice and practical magic even :D

:hug:

[havocmom]

120. LOL Practical magic is the best kind

And I am practically magical.

Please, do keep moving forward. Take it from someone who has been down the very rocky road - the trip is worth making, no matter how bad any particular part of it seems at the time.

holding the light up for you to see... like others held the light for me.

[SPKrazy]

122. thanks i will

and you are a light

:hug:

[opiate69]

123. Big hugs, bro..

I'm proud to call you a friend. (If only inthe internet-unverse)

:pals:

[SPKrazy]

124. thanks man

the internet universe is real too

:hug: :hug:

[Pushed To The Left]

125. Here's one!

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

132. thanks

:hug:

[Whoa_Nelly]

126. Everybody's stress is their own: Apples to oranges

And you get a :hug:

[SPKrazy]

129. thanks!

:hug:

[billyskank]

127. No, it doesn't work like that. Don't feel guilty.

Just because someone else is suffering a calamity, it doesn't mean that your problems or feelings are meaningless.

There ought to be enough love and affection for everybody.

[SPKrazy]

130. thanks billy!

:hug:

[Maine-ah]

128. spk, for you anything!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

131. ah, thanks

Main-ah!

hug that baby!

:hug:

[MissMillie]

133. it's not zero-sum around here, SPK

giving you a hug doesn't detract us from giving other people hugs. There's plenty of love to go around.

[SPKrazy]

136. thanks millie!

:hug:

[Kajsa]

134. Southpaw, you've got it!

What you're going through is no picnic, either.

Just ask anyone who's been there.

All the hugs you need, coming your way.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[SPKrazy]

137. thanks

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[bluethruandthru]

135. A great big hug coming your way!

Everyone needs a hug now and then. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

138. yeah they do!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[NMDemDist2]

139. there is no such thing as comparative pain

:hug: here's a hug cuz everyone needs one now and again.

anxiety is to be expected under the circumstances I think.

perhaps a gratitude list is the ticket about now??

:hug: (just for good measure)

[SPKrazy]

145. good idea AZ>NMexico

:hug:

attitude of gratitude can't lose

[applegrove]

140. Hugs

:grouphug:

[SPKrazy]

146. thanks applegrove

:hug:

[malta blue]

141. anytime my friend...

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[SPKrazy]

147. thanks malta blue

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[Parche]

142. 2Hugs are better then one

:hug: :hug:

:hi:

[lost-in-nj]

143. WHAT!?!?!?!?

Hitler has a SOFT side?????

who'd a thunk it......


lost

[Parche]

144. Its not hard when its soft Adolph

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
:hi:



found soft

[SPKrazy]

150. OMG

:spank:

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[SPKrazy]

149. hey there are no hitlers in this thread

:p

:hug: :hug:

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

148. thanks parche

:hug: :hug: