I have this friend who sends me porn.

[trof]

Not pretty young women posing in the buff.
Really hard-core stuff.
In emails.

We're old friends, in years and age.
He's 68, I'm 67.

We met in the military in the early 60s.
We were involved in duties that were truly life threatening.
We were in situations on a daily basis where one of us literally held the other's life in our hands, depending on whether we were skillful enough...or not... in what we were doing.
I have tremendous respect for his abilities, and he for mine.
The fact that we're both still alive speaks volumes.

He was the best man at my wedding almost 40 years ago.
That's how close we are.

But we never spent extended periods of time together.
A few days or so, but not weeks or months.
It was just the nature of what we did.

Now he lives down the street.
We're both retired and I see him almost every day.
I've found out that he's not real bright about some things.
Especially politics.
I'd call him a knee-jerk Republican.

He never comments about the emails he sends.
Nor do I.
I'm far from being a prude, but I kind of outgrew that stuff in my 20s, I guess.
It's a bit titillating, I'll admit.
But it turns me off, and the fact that he seems to be so 'in' to it really is turning me off.

I guess we'll continue to not talk about it, and he'll continue to send them. But it's really changed my opinion of him.
:shrug:

[Lex]

1. I've had people email me things and I've subsequently

had to adjust their IQ down from what I thought it was. It wasn't porn. Just chain-mail and easily identifiable scams.

Sorry it puts you in kind of an awkward situation with your friend.

[trof]

2. Evidently he can't find Snopes, either.

He sends me the bullshit "SEND THIS TO EVERYONE ON YOUR EMAIL LIST" hoaxes.
The first few times I sent him the link to snopes.
Now I get "Can you check this out? Is it true?"

So I say "I'm not your fecking SECRETARY. Go to snopes and find out for yourself you lazy bastard."

But he doesn't.
I'm really disappointed in him.
:-(

[patricia92243]

3. Could you e-mail it back to him with some sort of little caption like "yuk, I hate this kind of

stuff." Then since you neither one ever talk about it, hopefully that will just take care of it and it will all go away with no hurt feelings.

[trof]

4. Well, once I sent...

"Hey, you know TWO of us use this computer."
But now she has her own.
:eyes:

[Elidor]

5. I have a friend like that

He doesn't send me porn, but he does a lot of cruel things to the people around him. Except me. He was the high school bully, but for some reason he always looked out for me and looked up to me. He's a violent man when he's drinking, which is to say most every day. But he's always had a deep loyalty to me, better than a brother's, and would do anything for me. And I've always been one of the few who sees the good in him.

I learned long ago that I would never change him. I've just tried to be a good influence when I can. And I've given him my loyalty, too, even though we're as different as night and day and have nothing in common, because loyalty is very, very important to me.

[Dangerously Amused]

6. Just ask him point blank: "Bob, why do you keep sending me pornography?"

[JVS]

7. if he's so into it, why doesn't he comment on it?

[SPKrazy]

8. geez, just tell him you don't like it

or that other people might read your email and would he please stop.

either way...

it's your email, and i guess you could block his email too, but whatever, you shouldn't have to put up with an unacceptable situation.

:hi:

[greatauntoftriplets]

9. Yuk.

There is someone at work who claims to be a liberal and sends me the most vile anti-immigrant crap imaginable. Both against Muslims and Hispanics. I say thank, just to be cordial, and nothing else. And I really hate it, but don't want to start anything.

Like you, it has really changed my opinion of her, but I won't talk about it. Frankly, it's not worth it to start anything up.

[Ikonoklast]

10. He could be slipping, mentally

A friend of my family's behavior recently changed, and the reason wasn't readily apparent.

Her husband had her go to the doctor, even though physically she felt fine. She was diagnosed as having had a series of mini-strokes. She wasn't even aware that they had happened.

[gmoney]

17. my grandfather at an advanced age...

he had a form o Alzheimers and for some reason, he seemed to lose the memory that he was a repressed conservative and started picking up magazines and books in stores because they'd have scantily clothed women on the cover. Or maybe he realized he was at the end of the line and (I'm guessing) he'd only ever been with the two women he ended up marrying, neither of whom could be called "babes".

[salin]

11. find a gentle way to tell him to stop sending it...

so you can go back to not talking about -and eventually not have it in your mind when you see/talk with him - cause it is no longer showing up in your email box.

Maybe tell him you are comfortable that your wife might see it when you open it up and get the wrong idea... so to please stop sending it... (that way you are not sounding condeming - and not blaming your wife (just your concern that she might 'get the wrong idea'...)??

[Maddy McCall]

12. Have you told Miz T about this?

This is a funny thread, trof. LOL. I'm sorry you're in this predicament. Miz T has always seemed like such a cool lady--I hope she's laughing about this.

:D

[trof]

15. She says he suffers from 'arrested development'.

I think that means part of his brain...psyche...whatever...didn't 'grow up'.

A mutual friend, a very intelligent woman who's intellect I truly admire, says he is 'simple minded'.
Not in the old meaning of the phrase that he's retarded (mentally challenged?), but that his mind just works on a very 'simple' level.
i.e. He's not at all complicated or introspective.

Not surprisingly, he's a repug. I tried to gradually bring him along, but I've given up. He doesn't like Bush, but says he just doesn't think he could bring himself to vote for a Democrat. "They'll raise our taxes."

Oh yeah, he's against abortion. But when his daughter-in-law (due to a tragic medical situation) elected to abort a fetus that almost certainly have been stillborn (and with NO brain) if carried to term, he was thankful that she and her husband had that option.
When he told us, in a very emotional conversation, Miz t. and I exchanged glances. And we both thought "If it wasn't for us bad ol' Democrats she wouldn't have that option."
But we didn't say anything.

I had another friend, before we came here, (a doctor, no less) who loved to tell 5th grade <snicker-snicker> body function 'jokes'.
Go figure.
:shrug:

[Gold Metal Flake]

13. A sort of non-solution solution...

In your email client set up a new folder with some name on it and then create an email rule so that any emails with his email addy as sender will be automatically routed there. Then, when you check your email and see one in that folder, and it's of a size that suggests images, you can just delete it. You won't have to see it in your general inbox, and if shit piles up in that box over several days, so what? Just a way of moving it out of your direct line of sight, so to speak.

[RedCappedBandit]

14. If you're that close..

I don't think it should be a big deal to tell him that you don't appreciate such e-mails.. :shrug:

[Dragonbreathp9d]

16. ... is it good porn?

[trof]

18. Define "good". IBTL

;-)

[Dragonbreathp9d]

19. "I know it when I see it"

-what the justice was REALLY reffering to


:)