Frustrated- ok, if you're married

[noshenanigans]

Cheating is wrong, right? But if your husband is always "tired", what's a girl to do? I'm going crazy here. The gym's closed, so I can't even go run out my frustrations like I normally do.

Just needed to vent, thanks. :)

[Oeditpus Rex]

1. Talk with him

Un-emotionally.

I've done this; I was the "tired" one. But I wasn't really tired.

You guys need to talk. But do it without accusation, anger or tears.

It's very important.

If he won't talk about it, find a counselor or something so you can at least get some feedback and understanding.

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

2. I understand oh so well what you are feeling.

Mine isn't "tired", but has a shopping list of "why not's".

I absolutely agree with Oedi, though. Talk with him, maybe see a counselor (together if possible, but by yourself if he won't go).

It didn't help in my situation, but at least I got clear on what my priorities are. Who knows; maybe your situation will turn out better than mine did.

Also, please check your PM in a minute. :)

[Qanisqineq]

3. Cheating is not the way to go

I know. I did it years ago to someone. Recently my husband did it to me. Even though I was seriously considering divorce before the cheating, it was the most emotionally devastating thing I have ever been through (and I've been through a lot). His affair lasted 15 days (and he only saw her 7 of those 15 days) and those are 15 days that have ruined my self esteem and my ability to trust anyone.

If you love him at all, don't cheat on him. It almost killed the person I did it to and it almost killed me when it happened to me.

But I do know what you mean when you say he is always "tired". I think it isn't actual fatigue but something that needs to be talked about in counseling that is making him say he is "tired".

[noamnety]

4. If he doesn't want to, don't coerce him.

It's wrong when men do it; it's wrong when women do it.

Figure out how to work out your "frustrations" on your own; it's not really someone else's responsibility to do that for you. It's nice :) but not a responsibility.

[Heidi]

6. Thank you.

Stellar post. :thumbsup:

[Connonym]

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[noshenanigans]

7. Ha, awesome

I accidentally, uh, wore out my "Rabbit". It was tragic.