My Ex Came Over For A Visit

[querelle]

With his daughter. It's hard to explain, but he's still an important part of my life and his daughter adores me. I love her as well. Many of my friends can't understand how i can still maintain a relationship with an ex boyfriend. But really, we didn't break up under dramatic circumstances. We mutually agreed to end it after 9 years. Also, I've known his daughter since she was 12. She is now a beautiful young woman and a very good friend.

Isn't it great when can you turn negative situations into life affirming ones?

I am blessed.

Q

[wildhorses]

1. i think

:yourock:

[querelle]

4. Thank You.....

That means more to me than you know.

Q

[Connonym]

2. You're very lucky

Especially with the daughter. It would be awful to never get to see her again. I know several people who have become attached to their SO's children only to lose all contact with them when the relationship breaks up. It can be even more heartbreaking than the loss of the romantic relationship.

[querelle]

6. Well......

By the time I broke up with her father, she was already an adult. She could make up her own mind about who she wished to associate with. Peculiar thing though, she hasn't spoken to her mother in over four years.

Q

[KG]

3. why do people assume a breakup has to be mean?

my ex-wife stayed friends with my family, esp my parents in the 20 years since we split, even tho she and i drifted apart.

[Sanity Claws]

5. Because a lot of people will stay in the relationship until it

gets that bad. It sounds like you and your ex- split before it got real bad, where the resentments build up to overflowing.

[datasuspect]

14. my parents are divorced and still live together

now they're just living in sin.

[Kajsa]

7. It's very cool, querelle.

I try to maintain a good relationship with
my ex. It's better for our son, and it's much
better for my nerves and serenity.

I hear ya!!

:yourock: :hi:

[querelle]

8. My Ex Is Actually My Best Friend

We still get together for dinner every now and then. We discuss our sexual conquests (and disect them) and we always have a blast together. He's one of my best friends.

Q

[Ellen Forradalom]

9. If I cared for someone once

I always care for them, even if the relationship has to change.

I think it's a lovely thing you all got going there. Cherish it.

[querelle]

10. You Are Right

I think it's possible to fall out of love, but one can never forget.

Q

[DFW]

12. That is one of the most astute observations I have seen

And I speak as one who has been with the same partner for
the last 33 years now with no regrets.

[u4ic]

11. A LT ex is one of my best friends

We go out for lunch once every week or two, and maintain regular phone contact outside of that.

We even have lunch occasionally with his ex-wife.


Yes, I agree it is great thing, if it's possible. :)

[Callalily]

13. It's heartwarming

to hear that you can be friends with you ex and that you continue a strong relationship with his daughter. And yes, you are blessed.

[LostinVA]

15. I understand -- and, I've done the same with one of my exes

Known as The Ex. She came to the lunch Haruka nd I had with Swimboy, Mr. Swimboy, and Midlo. And, she and Haruka are really friendly. Some people say it's "weird," but, the mental health professional who was at that lunch think it's terrific we can all be like that with one another.

We ended a ten year+ relationship in a way very similar to yours.

[BlueIris]

16. Yes, it's nice when two adults are able to end a relationship in a civilized way.

Bravo.

And I love your sig line. That may just be my favorite Parker quote.