GET ME THE HELL OUT OF THIS HOUSE!!!

[crim son]

I can't stand it one second longer. As I type I am listening to another German opera and I can't take it ANY MORE. We had a house showing on Saturday and I haven't heard anything, naturally. Am I doomed to live with this man in this tainted place until I shrivel up and die? What life lesson can I POSSIBLY be learing being stuck with the man I'm divorcing for a year after we decide to part? I still can't invite friends over or go out more than once a week. I must sit here in silence and listen to the same music I've listened to for the last seventeen years. Nothing EVER CHANGES!!! And I want to know why the fuck not !!!!! I'm going to go crazy, AGAIN!


AAAAAARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:rant:

[crispini]

1. Hm....

Why can't you move out? Failing that, why can't you at least go out more than once a week? Sorry, I'm not caught up on your situation, just wondering what is going on. :hi:

[crim son]

2. Married to a control freak. We haven't got ten cents between us

and we're selling our house so we can afford to separate. If I go out more than once a week I am treated like dogshit so I don't. Three kids are involved and it's not worth stressing them out. On edit: my family lives on the other coast so there's no easy escape here. :hi:

[graywarrior]

3. Dial M

Kidding.

[crim son]

4. With my luck...

:eyes:

I just want to know WHY. We joked about it today and said that if "god" is trying to force us to stay together, he's picked the wrong couple to mess with.

[graywarrior]

6. God laughs in your face.

And Jesus just flips youse off. *snort*

[crim son]

8. I can feel his comtempt!

:rofl: I just showed the STBE your Jesus. hehe

[graywarrior]

10. Now show this...

[crim son]

14. Not such a good idea.

Besides, he almost never says anything. He just listens to his music and works at his desk, year after year after year.

[wildhorses]

27. i sssssssssooooo just grabbed that pic

thanks gray!!

[graywarrior]

57. That'll be $9.99.

Kidding.

You're welcome. I ripped it off from somewhere like Jesus would do.

[crispini]

47. Wow. Good luck.

:hug:

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[crim son]

12. I'm taking slow, deep breaths.

He's acknowledged that he's an ass, and he says I'm "free". I therefore can't kill him; I just want to live in my own home :cry:

Thanks, Elrond :hug:

[Danger Mouse]

17. I'm here, as always, what can I say?

:hugs:
it must be painful, i can't imagine
just hang in there.

[RetroLounge]

7. Come to Milwaukee

We'll be homeless together...

and I promise no German Opera...

RL

[TheFriendlyAnarchist]

9. Just 32,000 books?

:P

[RetroLounge]

13. Give or take a few 1000...

I've sold bunches, but have bought a lot more too.

Honestly, I have no idea how many I have...

RL

[crim son]

15. Well, I am a reader.

It's a lovely idea but I have the three kids and two of them are *ugh* teenagers. :(

[TheFriendlyAnarchist]

31. We suck, I know.

[crim son]

33. You don't suck at all. You just can't be uprooted

and carted around the country at Mom's will.

Personally, I prefer my kids in their teens to the little ones. They have a better sense of humor and they bathe daily. :hi:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

11. ...

:hug:

[crim son]

16. Yes, comfort me, SA.

:hug:

I think I've been very patient and cooperative but it's time for a change.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

18. You deserve better.

:hug:

[crim son]

19. I probably don't!

But all things being even, I'd choose being alone over being caged.

[Danger Mouse]

20. Erm, why wouldn't you deserve better?

You think you deserve that ass?

[crim son]

22. He isn't an ass, he's just intolerable.

I think I may be intolerable too!

[Danger Mouse]

25. I don't agree, but whatever. nt

[Danger Mouse]

29. Additionally, I'm not up for arguing, really.

So :shrug:

[crim son]

34. I got that sense, my friend.

Notice I didn't attempt a rebuttal.

[Danger Mouse]

40. Yup.

[Danger Mouse]

52. heh

have a nice night...

[Starbucks Anarchist]

21. Me, too.

And you do deserve more.

[crim son]

23. I deserve different.

And he deserves somebody who is in love with him.

[rug]

24. I'd divorce anyone who listens to German opera.

[crim son]

26. You've got to know that isn't our primary disagreement!

:rofl:

[wildhorses]

28. when do you finish that medical course?

aren't you taking medical transcription?

[crim son]

35. No, although I will do a little bit of that.

I have a midterm on Thursday for the Medical Coding I course I'm taking. The whole program I should be finished with by the end of July if I don't have any more emotional upheavals (& I don't plan to). :)

[wildhorses]

38. so then by the end of july

you could be job hunting...??

just trying to get a feel for where you are at in your personal life and the goals you have set for yourself

if i am getting to nosy just swat me:P

[crim son]

41. How can you be nosy when I post this sort of stuff?

Yes, by July I should be job-hunting. It won't put me in a place where I can move out with the kids, however, and they have made it very clear that I'm not to leave them here with Dad. OTOH, having a job would be a distraction, and a step in the right direction. You're right.

[wildhorses]

44. i thought one or two of the kids were possibly going to germany?

at some point for some length of time....was this over the summer?

[crim son]

46. It would potentially be next school year, while the STBE

goes on sabbatical. I've got to talk to him about that because I don't know where he is in the application process. He is also going this summer for three weeks and will take the boys. You have a good memory!

[wildhorses]

49. perhaps if you are really desperate to get out

you can get yourself situated while they are gone...

i do not know how dedicated your children are about wanting upheaval in their lives but summer is a good time to relocate and get them in new schools for next year...

just throwing ideas out here:shrug:

at this time in your life...you may have to lean of family members for help until you can get the house sold...

perhaps i can help you think this through. i know it is not easy but, if you are truly miserable then it is time to start thinking outside the box

[MissB]

30. I hope that by this time next year,

this will all be a distant unpleasant memory. :hug:

[crim son]

36. Me too.

But I thought the same thing twelve months ago!

[Omphaloskepsis]

32. I had a dream about you... Not in a dirty way. Don't worry.

I would like to apologize if I have given the impression that I don't like you. Little things piss piss me off sometimes.. It wasn't personal. Sometimes I can't control my snark.

And to be perfectly honest... I drink way to much.. I don't remember what I said. I'm sorry if I hurt you..

[crim son]

37. Omphaloskepsis

it was nothing, what you said. I just thought you found me distasteful and if it isn't true, I'm very glad. Snark away and I will not any longer take it personally, okay?

I've been known to drink too much too so we have that in common.

[Omphaloskepsis]

53. If you ever make your way back to Eugene.

I will buy you a nice dinner.

[NC_Nurse]

39. Wow. That sounds craptacular!

I'm so sorry. I hope that things change real soon. :hi:

[crim son]

43. Seconded, NC_Nurse!

A few minutes of hopelessness earlier tonight and now they've passed. :hi:

[mentalsolstice]

42. Oh Crimmy, it's crappy!

This is your life lesson in patience...and that's the suckiest one of all! I've never quite mastered it! In fact, at 46, I feel like I'm still in remedial school and stuck on this one lesson...never to advance to wisdom and all those other characteristics needed to mature gracefully. Ahhh, fuck it, some of us are just destined to die as overgrown children!

I feel your pain...waiting is so hard, particularly when you're ready to go! I've waited for the right guy to call, the right job offer. And we had to sell a house in a bad neighborhood that was getting worse all the time (gunshots heard regularly, I was carjacked with a gun @ my forehead). However, eventually that pinpoint of light appears...I know you'll get through this because you're so much loved here...we're all throwing our good karma your way!

PM me for more support! I'm here for ya!

[crim son]

45. Carjacked with a gun at your forehead?

CRAP. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

What I think I'll do is go to bed soon and forget about it all for a few hours. Thank you for saying such nice things to me, mentalsolstice. :hug: :pals:

[Connonym]

48. Oh shit

I don't think I'd be able to resist homocide if I was in your shoes. I'm sending extra helpings of house-selling vibes so you can get the hell out of that mess! Hang in there :hug:

[SPKrazy]

50. Oooops...

I just asked you about this in a pm disregard that part I guess


we can go crazy together, maybe we can get a bus and pick up crazy liberals all over the country and march on DC and demand impeachment or else.... or else we will utilize their precious few mental health resources and soak up their tax dollars :P


I'm sorry sweetie! You can come to Arkansas and hang out in the hills, at least it's warm here! ;)


:hug:


:loveya:

[GalleryGod]

51. Well...

There's always the mandolin...


MARTIE is the SEXIEST PERFORMER in Show Bidness.

[Zookeeper]

54. I'm sorry to hear that, Crim....

You described the claustrophobia so well, I can feel it myself.

OK, as an ex-Realtor, I'm going to give you some unsolicited advice that you are free to completely ignore. Any house can be sold at the right price. If you really want to have your house sold, so you can get on with your life, lower the price. Especially if you have enough equity that you won't end up selling at a loss. My experience is that there is a risk in waiting to get your price, that is, the property can become "shopworn." Potential buyers start asking, "What's wrong with it?" Also, a small reduction in price will bring a new set of qualified buyers.

Of course, I don't know anything about your home, neighborhood or city. But, this is pretty standard procedure.

:hug:

Zookeeper

[SPKrazy]

58. good advice zookeeper!

:hug:

thanks for helping out crimmie!

[Zookeeper]

63. Well, it's advice that a seller never wants to hear...

so, I'm not sure how much it helps. But, I hope everything works out well for her.

:pals:

[Ptah]

55. I'd help if I could

Would you like to ride in my beautiful balloon
Would you like to ride in my beautiful balloon
We could float among the stars together, you and I
For we can fly we can fly
Up, up and away
My beautiful, my beautiful balloon
The world's a nicer place in my beautiful balloon
It wears a nicer face in my beautiful balloon
We can sing a song and sail along the silver sky
For we can fly we can fly
Up, up and away
My beautiful, my beautiful balloon
Suspended under a twilight canopy
We'll search the clouds for a star to guide us
If by some chance you find yourself loving me
We'll find a cloud to hide us
We'll keep the moon beside us
Love is waiting there in my beautiful balloon
Way up in the air in my beautiful balloon
If you'll hold my hand we'll chase your dream across the sky
For we can fly we can fly
Up, up and away
My beautiful, my beautiful balloon
Balloon...
Up, up, and away.....

[Maestro]

56. So sorry to hear that.

I had no idea you were still living with your husband. I just assumed you were already on your own. Shows you how much I know. All I can offer is a big :hug: I hope things work out soon.

[Nicole]

59. I hope you can get out of there soon.

No one should be forced to stay where they don't want to be with or someone they don't want to be with. :hug:

[BarenakedLady]

60. I'm pretty sure the only answer is

for us to move in together. ;)

Sorry it is hell for you right now. I sort of know the feeling, except not really. Different but very similar. But you know all that already.

I hope we both find a way out.

:hug:

[reformedrepub]

61. I couldnt take

German Opera either...!!!

[SPKrazy]

62. Dig a tunnel

dig dig a tunnel

[mduffy31]

64. I feel you pain so much

My wife walked out over a year ago and she has not talked to me since. I saw my sister and law the other day and she was suprised when she found out that we are still married and she hasn't filed for divorce. Of course me being the big pussy that I am, I won't do anything about it because I am still in love with the woman and I want her back.