About my date yesterday - for people who care about it

[MissHoneychurch]

He came over around 7.20pm (planned was 7pm, he called me to tell me it gets a bit later) He brought me a bottle good white wine.

We had a nice dinner, only served a salad and Spaghetti Bolognese (homemade). We were too stuffed for the dessert. We drank 1 1/2 bottles red wine We talked till 11pm when he left. Nothing happened. :(

I will still keep contact with him. If it doesn't become a relationship (like I hope) at least it will become a friendship. We have interesting conversations, there is never a moment of embarrassing silence. And we laugh a lot.

He sure is sexy. :9

[gr8dane_daddy]

1. HRMPH!

only mildly sexy I say!

[MissHoneychurch]

2. Of course he doesn't compare to you

I could never compare you to him :)

Hot Texan against yummy German :dilemma:

[gr8dane_daddy]

4. Of course not...

Us texans are a breed apart.

[Robeson]

3. Well, it sounds like you had good wine, good food, and good....

...conversation. So all was not lost! :-)

[MissHoneychurch]

7. No, it wasn't all lost

I had a really nice evening with him. Just not what I hoped for ...

[Robeson]

9. Was it your first date?

[MissHoneychurch]

11. No, the third

I wouldn't have invited him to my place on the first date.

[Robeson]

17. Could be lots of things, MissHoneychurch....

...he could have just got burnt in a relationship and is being careful this time. Or he may be a gentleman, and doesn't want to just jump your bones. Who knows?

I think you have the right attitude, though. Look at it as a friendship, and if it develops into something bigger, then so much the better! :-)

[MissHoneychurch]

20. I found out last night that he is single since a year

I didn't ask why the relationship didn't work out.

And I definitely would say he is a gentleman.

I am not giving up the hope - yet, I just scale down my expectations.

[u4ic]

5. That was Zorro, yes?

Perhaps he's unsure of himself, or a bit shy? Or felt a bit uncomfortable initiating something at your place?

[MissHoneychurch]

8. Yes, it was him

I don't think he is unsure of himself. He sure is a gentleman though. Our conversation yesterday evening was a tiny bit more private then the ones we had on our other dates.

I don't know what he thinks of me. He likes me, OK but I don't know if it is not only a friendship for him. I will see how it continues but not concentrate only on him.

[Guava Jelly]

13. what are you still doing up?

Off to bed Missy!!!

[u4ic]

79. *ahem*

that Ms-sy...:eyes:

[gr8dane_daddy]

6. did you at least have an *okay* time????

we would have had a similar night except I would have left at 11am, not pm :evilgrin:

[MissHoneychurch]

10. It was more than only "okay"

it was a really nice evening.

I would have kicked you out at 7am because I had a docs app. at 8am :P

[gr8dane_daddy]

16. Baby, I would have given you my patented *look* and...

you'd be rescheduling that doctor's appt. ;)

[MissHoneychurch]

18. I already had that appointment rescheduled

another reschedule would have looked strange.

But if you would have been nice to me, I might have let you sleep. :D

[gr8dane_daddy]

24. That ain't sleeping honey!

Besides its tough to sleep in a bed full of empty whipped cream cans, whips, and...errrr, forgot...this is a public forum, right?

[MissHoneychurch]

25. As long as you sleep

on ...

[Guava Jelly]

12. Slow isn't bad

I wouldn't give up.
You are a very sweet and funny woman and a total fox :D
He was probably just at awe
Good morning MissH

[MissHoneychurch]

14. Good morning GoP

I wouldn't say I give up, I just don't want to put my hopes too high. If it will become "only" a friendship I will be OK with it too.


At least he liked my dinner :D

[Guava Jelly]

15. I am sure he did.

And if you get a friend out of the deal thats not bad.
Once in a while friendships can turn into something more.You just never know.
And just think of all the hearts you would of broken on Du anyways :7
:hug:

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

19. One good friend is worth a dozen lovers...

   ... and if a friend becomes a lover, WOW! ;)

[MissHoneychurch]

21. Thanks Moon

Maybe I am just confused because I am not used to date with someone who takes it THAT slow. :shrug:

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

22. It seems nowadays, no one wants to wait for anything...

   
Instant coffee...
   instant suntan...
   instant "happily ever after"...
   Call it the nostalgia of an old fart, but I still believe that the good things in life are worth waiting for and a good woman is worth approaching slowly and respectfully. :*

[MissHoneychurch]

23. I am not expecting that Moon

I appreciate his gentleman-like behavior but not knowing where this acquaintance is going drives me nutz.

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

26. after three dates, you worry...

   ... just relax and enjoy the ride, liebchen, and worry less about the destination! :blush:

[MissHoneychurch]

28. Yessir

:D

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

30. YesSIR???

   Only my starship crew calls me "sir"... otherwise, I am the Compleat Egalitarian... (*mutter... "yessir"... mutter...*)
   I don't want pretty ladies to call me "sir", I want them to call me "yummy!" :evilgrin:

[MissHoneychurch]

36. But "sir" can be so much fun

:evilgrin:

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

43. Oh?

   Tell me MORE! :evilgrin:

[MissHoneychurch]

49. I'm a lady (sometimes)

and a lady doesn't tell :D

[regnaD kciN]

32. When ah was a young'un...

...it would only be us guys who'd be upset if "nothin' happened" by the third date.

My, how things have changed! :wow:

[MissHoneychurch]

34. I wanted a kiss

is that asked too much? :evilgrin:

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

45. You are lovely...

   ... for that alone you should be kissed!

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

44. Too true!

   There are those who might say that we were pretty bestial in those days... :blush:

[raccoon]

78. I agree, seems like so many people want instant relationships.

IME, instant relationships often turn out badly.

Or else, one party thinks it's a relationship and the other doesn't.

Glad you posted. Many times I think, "Am I the ONLY one who feels this way?"

[Random_Australian]

27. That date sounds dreamy.

You're pretty lucky MissH, if I may say so.







Wait a second! Did he DRIVE home after a 3/4 bottle of wine? What? What?

[MissHoneychurch]

29. Thanks R_A

:hug:

Yes, he drove home, but he didn't had a long drive. But pssst .....

[Random_Australian]

31. But psssst what?

[MissHoneychurch]

33. Don't tell anybody

he drove intoxicated. Might start a flamewar. One never knows.

[Random_Australian]

35. Ah, ok. Makes sense. I just saw the "Jesus Camp" trailer.

Scary stuff.

A kid 5 years old saying "I was saved at five.... because I just wanted more out of life"

Uh huh.

[MissHoneychurch]

37. "Jesus Camp"

:wtf:

Why would you watch even a trailer of that???

[Random_Australian]

38. Because it was there, silly.

(I take it you know full well what Jesus Camp is then)

Man, was it scary.

Anyway, moving on.

So, why don't you give us some details of how you met the guy? :)

[MissHoneychurch]

39. Actually I have absolut no idea

but it sounds awful enough.


More details? Search the Lounge, I posted even a pic of him with me.

[Random_Australian]

40. ok. As for the movie, it was one about the indoctrination of the very young

into the radical religious right. Unbelievably scary. It's just beyond anything seen elsewhere.

Edit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RNfL6IVWCE

[MissHoneychurch]

41. Thanks for the link

I might look at it tonight. Not sure I can stand it though.

[Random_Australian]

46. Time for bed for me - goodnight!

[MissHoneychurch]

42. Double post

:banghead:

[DarkmoonIkonoklast]

47. I could be miles off target, but I think "Jesus Camp"s are...

   ... kind of like training and indocrination camps -- boot camps -- for the children of Radical Evangelicals...
   But I might very well be wrong!

[emmajane67]

48. That sounds fun.

Yay for you!!!

Perhaps he is a gentleman and wishes to take things slowly.

[MissHoneychurch]

50. Thanks emmajane

He sure is a gentleman in his behavior. But maybe he could tell me though .... OK. I know that is asked too much. I knwo I will see him again. And he was at my place 4 hours, which is quite some time.

[Callalily]

51. Sounds like the

two of you had a good time, but ummmm . . . a good night / thank you kiss would have been nice. And that would certainly not distract from his gentlemanly reputation.

Good plan to just go with the flow. If something happens - good, and if not, yes like you said you've got a nice guy friend. Guy friends are great to have! And you know, talking for 3-1/2 hours with no embarrassing silence, that does say a lot.

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

52. Good morning Smply

:loveya:

Well, I got a kiss on both cheeks as welcome and goodbye. But I got those on the other dates too. But I bet he greets his other good female friends that way as well ....

Yes, the talking is definitely a plus. Shows that he likes me too in some kind.

:loveya: :hug: :hi:

[Callalily]

57. Well . . . I guess

you should try not to read anything into anything here. Just take it one step at a time and see what, if anything evolves.

I can talk endless hours with one of my guy friends. But he has a girlfriend now, and she just quite doesn't understand our friendship, so we don't get a chance to talk very often anymore. I do miss that.

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[MissHoneychurch]

58. I know what you mean

if other women getting jealous for no reason and a frienship is getting down the river because of it. I had a male friend like that too.

It is very easy to speculate about last evening. The future will show what happens or not.

:hug: hi: :loveya:

[Callalily]

59. Try not to analyze it

too much. You had a nice evening with a nice guy . . . end of story.

Do you have any plans for the weekend? I'm going to a wedding tomorrow. Should be nice. Hopefully can reconnect with some friends that I haven't seen in a while.

[MissHoneychurch]

60. I try not to really.

I see it as it is. Like you say, it was a nice evening with a nice guys.

Saturday evening going for a drink with two friends, other than that nothing really. If the weather allows it I might go out and take pictures.

[Callalily]

61. Drinks and good

conversation with a few friends should be fun.

If you do end up taking pics, please share. I love your pics, and I love seeing your city.

Welp . . . gotta really get back to work now.

and be talking to you soon.

[AirmensMom]

53. Good morning, SF!

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[Callalily]

56. Good morning AirmensMom!

So glad to see you!

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[AirmensMom]

64. Glad to see you, too!

I can't hang around today ... again. :(

Hope to see you tomorrow!

:hi: :loveya: :hug:

[AirmensMom]

54. Patience, young grasshopper.

The best kind of lover is one who is first your friend. I know this from experience. :loveya:

Perhaps he's being cautious. Or he's just naturally a gentleman. It does sound like a nice date, after all. :thumbsup:


:hi: :loveya: :hug:

As you can see, my laziness took over ... at least momentarily. :P

[MissHoneychurch]

55. I didn't expect anything else from you

but you could answer my email :P

Patience ain't the thing I am best in. But I can be if it is worth it. And D. is worth it.

Otherwise you need to introduce me to a nice TN man :evilgrin:

:loveya: :hug: :hi:

[AirmensMom]

63. I did.

Our emails are slow sometimes. Don't know why. :shrug:

Patience ain't my thing, either ... as you well know! :rofl:

I'll look for a nice TN man. :hug:


Gotta get going.
:loveya: :hug: :hi:

[crim son]

62. Nothing happened, eh?

What's wrong with this guy??? He may be perfect in every way except one: apparently he's blind. Of course, maybe he just moves very slowly. It sounds like a good night, MissHoneychurch.

[MissHoneychurch]

65. Thanks crim son

A lot people say he moves slow, maybe there is something right with this theory.

[neweurope]

66. I had hoped better for you...

...but still it sounds ok. You never know what it'll be good for, as somebodys Grandmother used to say :) You have a PM.

---------------

Remember Fallujah

Bush to The Hague!

[MissHoneychurch]

69. I got your pm

thanks neweurope :hug:

[izzybeans]

67. Sounds like my first date with my wife. Second date we had enough of the talking.

;)

[MissHoneychurch]

68. It was the third date

all three times we had a lot to talk about. The only times we were quiet was while we were munching our food.

[izzybeans]

72. Missed that.

That intellectual connection is probably a deeper spark then you give yourself credit for.

We had also been friends for a year and half while dating other people so we had several of those "dates" where you are just friends but too shy or nervous to admit otherwise.

On our second "official" date there were no more questions of the "does she? Does he?" variety. But this was after several nights of drinking and chatting all night long while "only friends". I distinctly remember trying very hard not to misread her intentions. So much so, I totally misread her intentions. She still is a very reserved person about that sort of thing.

[MissHoneychurch]

73. Thank you izzybeans

(like your username)

Sometimes I wish the dating "game" would be easier. I really do like this man and I do believe we would make a good couple. Of course I can't say he thinks the same. I will see what the future brings. As I said in my OP, I will continue seeing him but also will look around. Either it goes one way or another.

[izzybeans]

74. Good Wishes! And take a chance will ya!

[ContraBass Black]

70. I'm glad it went well.

[MissHoneychurch]

71. Well, it went kinda well

none of us was bored :D

:hi: CCB

How ya doing sweetie?

[ContraBass Black]

75. If you were both there and both enjoyed it,

That's a good date.


I'm overworked, but soon to play.

[BarenakedLady]

76. Sounds like a pleasant night

Even if it wasn't exactly what you expected. :)

:hi: :hug:

[jakefrep]

77. Sounds like it went fairly well

The main thing is to maintain good contact with him. Friendship is never a bad thing. :pals: