I signed by best friend up for a MySpace account

[VenusRising]

No, she doesn't know that I did it yet.

Why? you ask. Because she has shut out all of her friends since her fiance died. She immediately hooked up with another guy and moved across country to Austin. I love her and I tried to be there for her. I seriously called her every single day with no answer. Lately, when she has tried to contact me, which has been twice in the last 6 months, it's because of some horrible crisis in her life. I love her and I won't judge her for the things that she does, but I will tell her the truth as I see it.

I think that she has fallen into a depression, got involved in a rebound relationship, moved across the country, and now she has no idea who she is because she won't let anyone in. I wanted to do something to change that for her. I think that if she hears from some of her old friends that she will slowly come back around to who she really is, and not a depressed and lost soul. I love her as my sister. She is my family no matter what. I just want to help her and I couldn't think of a better way at the moment. I think it's important for her to feel like she is loved and cared about by others who may seem forgotten.

To be clear, I did not verify her account. I left that up to her because I don't have her email password, but I did add myself to her friends list so she would see my face.I don't know.

Did I do the right thing? Is it too intrusive or presumptuous?

[Forkboy]

1. I can only speak for myself

but if one of my friends did that I'd be pissed. :shrug:

[VenusRising]

4. Even if it wasn't done with malice?

It was more a convenience thing because I don't think she actually has the time to do it. And she doesn't have to verify her account and it will be deleted.

I guess I should have asked instead of told before I made my decision. Too late for that now, but I can apologize.

[Forkboy]

6. Even then

I understand your motives,but it seems just telling the person how you feel,either directly or through a letter or email,would be much better than this.

[VenusRising]

9. I did both.

:shrug:

[Forkboy]

13. I was just going to edit my last post

to tell you that I'm certainly no expert on these things,and that this is just how I'd take it.Your friend may see it differently.

If you've done both and gotten no response you might have to just respect her wishes,no matter how misguided you think they are.In the end it's her life and her decisions.As a good friend just be there when and if she sees things your way.

[VenusRising]

14. Thanks for your input.

It's good to hear all sides and prepare before I get her response. I only did this an hour ago and she won't answer me til around noon.

Thanks, again.

:hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

2. I would be pissed if someone did that to me..

Myspace is a cesspool (flame away, it is). The only idea can be a shitty idea. A nice e-mail would have worked. You have opened a huge can of worms.

On EDIT: what Forkboy Said...

[VenusRising]

8. I did write her a nice email.

I just thought that being in touch with some of her old friends would help her.

I don't think the can is going to be that huge if there is one at all.

[MissHoneychurch]

3. You did the right thing

and you leave it up to her after all to verify the account.

You are still there for her and I hope she does know what that mean. Good luck to her and you!!
You are a good friend.

[VenusRising]

5. Thanks, MHC.

I don't think she will be mad. If anything, she would just blow it off and tell me she forgot.

[MissHoneychurch]

7. You know her

we don't. You know how she would react. If you'd think she would be pissed I doubt you would have done it.

[VenusRising]

11. No, I would never intentionally hurt or piss off anyone.

Thanks.

:hug:

[Omphaloskepsis]

10. Now myspace has her e-mail.

hello spam.

[VenusRising]

12. I get 1 spam every two weeks or so.

Maybe it's just me.

[Omphaloskepsis]

15. Great..

I get hundreds. Maybe your e-mail provider has great filtering. Post your e-mail addy and see how fast a bot signs you up for every porn mailing list.

[VenusRising]

16. I didn't post her email address.

I used it to sign up for an account, just like I did mine, and my husband did his. Just because I use the email address to register for a site doesn't mean that I'm going to be spammed any more than it does because it's a publicly listed account.

[VenusRising]

17. UPDATE!

I got an email back a few hours ago, and she wasn't mad at all. She seemed rather happy about it. I feel like I did the right thing, and that this might help her find herself again. I hate that she has had to go through this difficult period alone, and now she won't have to anymore.

Thanks to everyone for their input. It means a lot.

:grouphug:

[wildhorses]

18. good to hear--i wish her the best--positive vibes~~~~~~~

:grouphug:

[VenusRising]

19. Thank you, wildhorses.

I don't know how she has dealt with this loss alone. She amazes me sometimes.