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1) It's a quibble, but an important quibble - one does not "do" Christmas. One either observes Christmas or does not observe it. Exchanging gifts at Christmas is not "doing" Christmas - it is exchanging gifts. Christmas is a religious holy day for Christians; the gift giving, tinsel, trees, cookies, family gatherings, etc., are all social and cultural artifacts that are, in some ways, inspired by the holiday (but in most ways, inspired by pagan rituals; though also in some few ways, purely cultural artifacts), but are not part of the religious holy day. As I said, though, it's a minor quibble, and stands nowhere in volume with the issue I have with your GF's family.
2) Your GF's family sound they don't have a clue what Christmas is about, and are part of the many who have bought into the idea that Christmas is ALL about giving gifts and making family feel guilty for exerting their independance, or wishing to hold solely to the true meaning of Christmas, which is a celebration of the birth of Jesus, the messiah of the Christian faith.
And thus, I have many issues with your GF's family. It's too bad that they feel the need to whine and make her feel bad just because she doesn't buy into all the social/cultural crap that comes with Christmas. It's all crap that I find to be fun, but I would never deride anyone for choosing to remain pure about the holiday; or, if not trying to remain pure, not buying into all the guilt, the urge to overdo everything, and the other problem aspects of the way that we, in America, have slowly chosen to celebrate Christmas.
I support your GF, and I hope she can find a family that is a little less clueless about what matters in life.
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