How to RSVP to a holiday party.....

[Phentex]

You check your calendar and decide if you can go. You respond by stating

1. YES, I can make it, thanks.

OR

2. No, sorry, I cannot come.

YOU DO NOT:

1. Ask if the date can be changed because you have a conflict.
2. Ask if the date can be changed because you have to pack for a trip.
3. Ask if the date can be changed because you have other parties that same week.
4. Ask if the date can be changed because you cannot find a sitter.
5. Ask if the date can be changed because your sister is in town.
6. Ask if the date can be changed because otherwise you will be *really* late.
7. Ask if the date can be changed because you planned to shop that night.

:eyes:

Where is my Rbrrrrrr book of etiquette?

[MissMillie]

1. During the holidays I get the weirdest responses to invitations

Actually, it's not just during the holidays.

Lots of times, I will ask folks if they'd like to do XXX on a certain evening and I get "I don't know, I'll have to see what's going on."

Now, I understand that not everyone carries their calendar with them.

However, many times I get that response after asking "are you free" on (such-and-such a date) and getting a "yes".

So it seems to me that the response I'm getting is: "I have nothing planned, but I'm not going to say yes or no to you until I know whether or not I'm going to get a better offer."

I usually end up waiting until the last minute for a response, and then the person in question leaves me high and dry and then it's too late to find something else to do.

[Rabrrrrrr]

2. You also do not need to go on at length about why you can't come.

"I regret that I am unable to attend" is perfectly adequate.

One does not need to make heroic excuses - "I'd love to come, but my sister is in town and we already planned to go out to eat with some high school chums and my cousin, who'll be here from Arizona, and blah blah blah..."

Even if the reason is "It sounds like a really shitty evening, no way would I go to your party" just say "I regret I am unable to attend."

And the party giver has no right to ask why, either.




People piss me off.