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Herman Munster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:35 PM Original message |
Why do people lie and cheat on their significant others? |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:37 PM Response to Original message |
1. Because they have no personal Integrity. |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:48 PM Response to Reply #1 |
3. You'd be wrong. |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:50 PM Response to Reply #3 |
4. You're right, I'm confused. do you think it's OK to lie and cheat to your SO? |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:57 PM Response to Reply #4 |
6. It depends on when was the last time your SO |
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jobycom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 08:05 PM Response to Reply #6 |
7. I wouldn't call that cheating. Cheating implies the other partner is playing fair. |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 08:12 PM Response to Reply #7 |
10. As the repukes have shown us all, what's fair to some |
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amitten (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:22 AM Response to Reply #6 |
20. That's when you LEAVE. Period. |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 02:13 AM Response to Reply #20 |
97. Hear, hear. Snogging with some stranger is NOT the intelligent |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 06:44 AM Response to Reply #6 |
22. I don't believe that the OP |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 11:59 AM Response to Reply #22 |
28. If Shine is beautiful and sensitive, then perhaps she |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:06 PM Response to Reply #28 |
31. I don't know where you are getting |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:11 PM Response to Reply #31 |
32. Shine made a blanket judgemental statement condemning those who have cheated. |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:27 PM Response to Reply #32 |
37. The OP didn't |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:36 PM Response to Reply #37 |
38. Umm...I'm not in hurtful circumstances. |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:38 PM Response to Reply #38 |
39. Please just read |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:43 PM Response to Reply #39 |
40. Earth to hippy...I am not talking about the OP. I am talking about Shine. |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:47 PM Response to Reply #40 |
42. I think we both got a little |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:07 PM Response to Reply #42 |
59. Even in the giving up of one's own self respect?? |
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Zomby Woof (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:09 PM Response to Reply #39 |
83. Hey, but... |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:12 PM Response to Reply #32 |
62. I didn't know stating my opinion would raise such strong reactions. |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:25 PM Response to Reply #62 |
85. and i don't think you are painting with a broad brush |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 06:12 PM Response to Reply #85 |
88. Yup, you and I are on the same page with this one. |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 08:46 PM Response to Reply #85 |
93. "It is because they have NO personal integrity." |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 09:44 AM Response to Reply #93 |
99. or maybe a lack of adequate qualifiers? |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:25 PM Response to Reply #31 |
36. I appreciate the counseling, |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:42 PM Response to Reply #31 |
55. But crim son was not the only person offended. I totally disagreed |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 01:56 PM Response to Reply #22 |
45. Thank you for your kind words, hippywife. |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 11:00 AM Response to Reply #6 |
25. what you are describing is child abuse |
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stlsaxman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:25 PM Response to Reply #6 |
35. That's when you call the police. |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 01:52 PM Response to Reply #6 |
44. Wow, it was not my intention to offend or upset you. I am sorry if you were, crim son |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:47 PM Response to Reply #44 |
78. I think of myself as having made a grotesque |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:50 PM Response to Reply #78 |
87. Hey, we all make mistakes crim son. Forgive yourself and move on. |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:37 PM Response to Reply #1 |
16. I respectfully disagree. My father cheated on my mother after 39 years |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:45 PM Response to Reply #16 |
56. I'm sorry about what happened with your parents, Mrs G. |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:08 PM Response to Reply #56 |
60. It is my opinion that, at that point, my father acted with integrity. |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:14 PM Response to Reply #60 |
65. Yeah, who knew it would instigate so many strong feelings and reactions?? |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:28 PM Response to Reply #65 |
67. . |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 06:48 AM Response to Reply #1 |
23. It's because people who don't get much are more likely to be haughty. |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:00 PM Response to Reply #23 |
29. Et tu, Hypno. |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:01 PM Response to Reply #1 |
47. you see, an anwer like that doesn't allow someone who behaves poorly |
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Shine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:51 PM Response to Reply #47 |
57. You're right, it doesn't. |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 08:19 PM Response to Reply #47 |
90. Bingo. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 09:54 AM Response to Reply #1 |
100. Hey, Shine! |
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Coventina (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:37 PM Response to Original message |
2. There are as many "reasons" as there are cheaters. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 07:51 PM Response to Original message |
5. For gratification |
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jobycom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 08:08 PM Response to Original message |
8. I spent many years trying to understand that one |
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mike_c (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 08:09 PM Response to Original message |
9. dude! was that your girlfriend? I am so sorry.... |
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Porcupine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 08:17 PM Response to Original message |
11. The reality is people like to screw around. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 08:21 PM Response to Original message |
12. A) Basic, human fear of consequences, (...I know) B) society glorifies |
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Liberty Belle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:22 PM Response to Original message |
13. There can be many reasons, some understandable, some not. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:23 PM Response to Original message |
14. because they are scum |
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Floogeldy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:39 PM Response to Reply #14 |
17. Thank you, LeftyMom. |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:42 PM Response to Reply #14 |
18. Again, I respectfully disagree. |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 10:47 AM Response to Reply #18 |
24. i respectfully agree with you, Mrs.G |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:34 PM Response to Original message |
15. A many reasons as there are couples in the world |
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Redstone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-04-06 10:55 PM Response to Original message |
19. I'm the wrong guy to ask, because I don't. |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 06:14 AM Response to Original message |
21. i'm not into monogamy. |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 11:07 AM Response to Reply #21 |
26. yes, but in your case you're not cheating |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:11 PM Response to Reply #26 |
33. buddhamama!!! hi! |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 08:20 PM Response to Reply #21 |
91. That suggests... |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 11:14 AM Response to Original message |
27. Fear |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:46 PM Response to Reply #27 |
41. From a Darwinian standpoint |
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NashVegas (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:16 PM Response to Reply #41 |
48. Stable Is the Key Word |
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alarimer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:04 PM Response to Original message |
30. Because they're assholes |
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Guava Jelly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:18 PM Response to Original message |
34. Fear, curiosity,loneliness, revenge, love,hate,selfishness, horniness |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 12:50 PM Response to Original message |
43. I have struggled with understanding this |
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Haole Girl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 01:56 PM Response to Original message |
46. Because people are people. |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:17 PM Response to Original message |
49. It's not such a black-and-white issue |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:20 PM Response to Reply #49 |
50. sociopaths can rationalize anything |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:24 PM Response to Reply #50 |
51. Ahhh but I wouldn't equate cheating with sociopaths |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:33 PM Response to Reply #51 |
52. a person can engage in sociopathic behavior |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:41 PM Response to Reply #52 |
53. and if the leavee were to threaten suicide after being left?? |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:09 PM Response to Reply #53 |
61. in the case of your Mom,Mrs.G |
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ScreamingMeemie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:14 PM Response to Reply #61 |
64. Thank you buddhamama! |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:52 PM Response to Reply #53 |
70. a person who uses suicide as a bargaining chip |
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fudge stripe cookays (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 08:24 PM Response to Reply #70 |
92. Yup. As my shrink says... |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:41 PM Response to Reply #52 |
54. Thing is I don't define things in terms of "good" and "evil" so readily |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:13 PM Response to Reply #52 |
63. i too, am for personal responsibility |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:49 PM Response to Reply #63 |
68. the problem with morality is that there are multivariate perspectives |
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hippywife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:24 PM Response to Reply #68 |
74. There it is! |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:34 PM Response to Reply #68 |
76. we're on the same page |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:22 PM Response to Reply #76 |
84. and that is exactly where dichotomous thinking does the greatest disservice. |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:29 PM Response to Reply #84 |
86. sometimes we are reacting to situations poorly |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:07 PM Response to Reply #63 |
71. Problem is, that stealing for food to prevent starvation is reasonable... |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:08 PM Response to Reply #71 |
72. abusive spouse = justification for cheating? |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:14 PM Response to Reply #72 |
73. My best friend growing up had a hard time.... |
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bluethruandthru (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:34 PM Response to Reply #71 |
77. You're right. |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:52 PM Response to Reply #71 |
79. i agree with you |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:03 PM Response to Reply #79 |
80. I don't really agree with that... |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:08 PM Response to Reply #80 |
82. it is not for me to argue |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 12:16 AM Response to Reply #71 |
95. I think perhaps are assuming that cheating is merely |
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idgiehkt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 02:02 AM Response to Reply #95 |
96. thanks crim son |
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idgiehkt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 02:13 AM Response to Reply #71 |
98. the thing is |
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NewWaveChick1981 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:22 PM Response to Reply #51 |
66. Well put, Taverner. |
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datasuspect (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 03:51 PM Response to Reply #66 |
69. the point where it IS cut and dried is when the individual person |
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catmandu57 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 02:58 PM Response to Original message |
58. After being on the receiving end |
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SKKY (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 04:29 PM Response to Original message |
75. For the same reason a dog licks his balls... |
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BlueJazz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
81. I cheated on mine...I mean...sweet Jesus...wouldn't you? |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 06:45 PM Response to Original message |
89. because they are of low character? n/t |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Nov-05-06 09:18 PM Response to Original message |
94. they're either weak or selfish |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 11:02 AM Response to Original message |
101. Many reasons. Rebellion (against the spouse). |
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av8rdave (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 11:07 AM Response to Reply #101 |
102. I was on the receiving end in a previousl life |
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PVnRT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 01:00 PM Response to Original message |
103. Why is serial monogamy the norm? |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-06-06 01:35 PM Response to Reply #103 |
104. you can commit to monogamy with the marriage vows |
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