Final Update: I think I can call this "closure," or at least close enough:

[Robb]

I got out of dinner, instead I met the ex in front of the library.

I'll skip the absurd, insane details ("I'm really in love with the new guy, we're buying a zillion-dollar house outside town, I'll be pregnant in six months, etc.") and get to the nitty-gritty.

I've got a check from her.

It's only slightly less than what I asked for.

It's post-dated, which my attorney buddy says doesn't matter.

I kept it cool, and she was a spaz.

And I'm freeeeee.... :D

Better yet, followed the whole thing up with a touch-football game in the park with a bunch of other 30-something, huffing and puffing guys, a few beers after, and got invited to a much better class of Halloween party than I would've otherwise attended.

Even better than that, my attorney buddy dug into his car after the game and gave me a bottle of port.

Life is just fine. :)

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

1. Good for you, Robb.

[ZombieNixon]

2. Nice.

:D :thumbsup: Enjoy yourself! :)

[wildhorses]

3. you know what---

:yourock:




























cash that check PRONTO

[some guy]

4. Congrats

cash the check first thing Monday morning. :)

:hi:

[Robb]

5. Frankly, I'm going to wait until she leaves town next week

She'll be gone for a month. I think that's the perfect time. :hi:

[Haole Girl]

6. I'm glad you finally have that sense of relief!

I know you've been through hell. :hi:

[democracyindanger]

7. Yeah, but

she get her crap outta your shed? :)

[Robb]

10. Yeah, that happened Saturday

"With a little help from my friends." :D

[CaliforniaPeggy]

8. I am so relieved for you, my dear Robb........

Hope the check doesn't bounce........:scared:

[lizziegrace]

9. Cool!

Onward to a new phase of our life - the really fun one!

:toast:

[Redstone]

11. You're handling it damn well. Stick to the high road, as you've done

so far. You'll be glad you did.

Redstone

[Robb]

15. REDSTONE!

Thanks mon frere, I appreciate it. Does the "high road" mean I can't just cash the check as soon as she's out of town, or should I wait?

[Redstone]

18. Yes, just cash the check. Moral superiority doesn't mean you should

be dumb. Hie thee to the bank, and waste no time in doing so.

I appreciated your comment in my other thread, by the way. I did.

Redstone

[Robb]

19. Consider myself hied

She actually just called with a bunch of nonsense about trying to rationalize her behavior. It's amazing, isn't it -- how when one behaves poorly there always seem to be a bevy of external influences to blame, rather than oneself?

Only you can make you happy. Depending upon someone else for that is folly; enjoying someone is another matter, but as we used to say in the waiter industry: "only you can have a bad night."

Cheers, Redstone.

[hickman]

12. Gone and forgotten?

I remember that feeling of finally being free of someone that had dragged me thru the dirt. Unfortunately I never stopped to figure out why I let them. Distrust is very comfortable and hard to lose. It seeps and crawls into every succeeding relationship. I hope better for you.

[crim son]

13. Your post makes me sad.

I hear you so well. :hug:

[hickman]

16. Thank you but don't be sad for me.

Distrust is easy. Trust is hard. I haven't tried to do the work. Helplessness is sad. I have no sympathy for myself.

[crim son]

17. And when you make the effort

and yet fail, you will know why I am sad.

[dolo amber]

14. Super sweet

And no less than you deserve. :thumbsup:

[BarenakedLady]

20. You are awesome

:hug:

[Robb]

24. Yeah, I know

:D

[ThomCat]

21. Congratulations!

That is wonderful news. :woohoo:

Now let's all keep our fingers crossed that the check doesn't bounce.

[ScreamingMeemie]

22. Yaaaaay!!!! And...the post dated does matter.

If you need to, you've got her. That's fraud. :hi: :hug:

I'm so glad to hear this.

[xchrom]

23. way to go!

i'm glad this episode is behind you -- as much as it can be!

[Dangerously Amused]

25. ...says hmmm.

"I got out of dinner, instead I met the ex in front of the library."

Good job. Now you know that makes me happy.



"I'll skip the absurd, insane details ("I'm really in love with the new guy, we're buying a zillion-dollar house outside town, I'll be pregnant in six months, etc.") and get to the nitty-gritty. "

She used the opportunity of having you as a captive audience to gleefully rub your nose in her lying, cheating, manipulative assholery? Total F'ing Bitch. Zero class. Zero.



"I've got a check from her."

Yeah, but you can't cash it, can you?



"It's only slightly less than what I asked for."

How much is "slightly less"? And why is it "slightly less" at all?



"It's post-dated, which my attorney buddy says doesn't matter."

When is the date? After she's already fled the country and will be gone for a month? Sorry, I don't trust her. Not at all. When are you going to cash the check? Let me know when it clears. Please.



"I kept it cool, and she was a spaz."

Good.



"Better yet, followed the whole thing up with a touch-football game in the park with a bunch of other 30-something, huffing and puffing guys, a few beers after, and got invited to a much better class of Halloween party than I would've otherwise attended."

Yeah, that's cool. Have a blast, you more than deserve it. And pick up a fake witch this time. Oh, was that rude? I'm sorry.



"Even better than that, my attorney buddy dug into his car after the game and gave me a bottle of port."

Bet it's gone already! ;)



Take care Robb.

[Robb]

31. Ha!

She used the opportunity of having you as a captive audience to gleefully rub your nose in her lying, cheating, manipulative assholery? Total F'ing Bitch. Zero class. Zero.

Yeah, she's gonna make one hell of a wife. And god help the asshat who thinks he can move to a town this small and not be "that Argentinian guy that (the ex) slept with and left Robb for." :D

Yeah, but you can't cash it, can you?

Actually, in this state I could. The only time I couldn't is if she filed notice with her bank that she was writing a post-dated check, and frankly that kind of togetherness is a little out of character.

How much is "slightly less"? And why is it "slightly less" at all?

Because I aimed high. :D I'm satisfied.

Thanks for everything.

[lizziegrace]

26. Just for the record

if she presents a check for payment of a debt and does so knowing there is no money available, she's setting herself up for a felony charge. Be sure you follow through on that one. I can't remember if the threshold for felony is $100 or $500 ...

[tjwmason]

27. Wonderful news.

Now you can relax, put it all behind you and move on with your life.

It's obviously been a stressful time, and that isn't going to end in a mere moment; but it's going to get better from here on in.

You've approached this all in the best possible way, you've come out at the other end with all you wanted and with your honour not merely intact but enhanced.

:yourock: :hug:

[av8rdave]

28. That's awesome!

Glad to hear good news!

[kwassa]

29. Congratulations, and glad it turned out so well

and I hope the check doesn't bounce, but best of all she is out of your life, the most important thing. Also I am glad you took the high road.

Don't be surprised if she re-surfaces in a few months when her new relationship bombs out. Just remember, done is done. Congratulations!

[kwassa]

30. deleted dupe

[Robb]

32. One last kick

...for the soap opera fans. :hi:

[BarenakedLady]

33. And still...

You are awesome.

:yourock:

[YDogg]

36. Thanks for the kick!

Glad to hear how things worked out. It sounds healthy on your end. The only time in recent memory I received a dubious check, I took it to the acct holder's bank to cash it, to avoid any possibility that it would bounce.

Isn't it eye opening to see that sort of acting out, up close? Perhaps someday she'll become more grounded, but at someone else's expense.

Here's to you.

[bigwillq]

34. Life goes on.

And I see it already has for you!

There's a lot of living to do now!

Live it up! :bounce:

:hi: :hug:

[cwydro]

35. thanks for the update!

she obviously has some serious personal issues, that she had to tell you all that crap....no class...and seems to me she realizes in some deep part of herself what an idiot she's been. You did good...wish I could have acted as well with the one who did a similar thing to me.:applause: