I have to work with Mr. Creepy tonight. Send me good vibes.

[idgiehkt]

Come to think of it, send me a force field. Here's hoping I can get through the night unmolested. It's bad enough to be asked if I frequent the local strip club (do any women do this who don't work there?) or told that I 'shore am purty' repeatedly as has happened in times past....but I would really like to make it through this night without either of his hands ending up anywhere on my body, which happened the last time we worked together. He seems to get friskier as the night goes on so I'm hoping it won't be a whole long evening thing.

:scared:

[graywarrior]

1. Holy crap.

What a draaaaagggggggg.

[idgiehkt]

3. yep.

He's over six foot and it just feels like he's fucking everywhere; he's got quite a reach so there really isn't any avoiding it.

I'm hoping it wont' be so bad, maybe he'll be in a bad mood or something.

[Lautremont]

2. Seems to me he's long ago crossed into restraining order territory.

This is more than Mr. Creepy - he's Mr. Dangerous.

[MrCoffee]

4. Get yourself a good employment attorney.

Seriously. That sounds like an actionable hostile work environment claim.

[idgiehkt]

5. I only have to work with this guy once in a very great while

like, maybe once a year at the very most. In fact, it's been over a year and half since the last time.

[MrCoffee]

9. does not matter.

did you report him to a superior? did it happen again after reporting him? that's actionable. i used to work in employment law.

[ForrestGump]

6. I'm sure you can take care of yourself, and I don't want to seem

paternalistic, or anything....

...but you can tell him that Mr Gumpy will repeatedly kick Mr Creepy's diseased bootie if he gets those greasy hands anywhere near you. :grr:



:hug: I hope it's a good night.

[idgiehkt]

12. thanks

I just want to get through it, that's all, with no fingerprints left on me. It's a small business so they let alot of junk slide that people couldn't get away with elsewhere. 'Preciate it.. :-)

[ScreamingMeemie]

7. When I was 19 I worked for an Insurance agent who used to chase

me around his office. A pig of a man... I wish I knew then what I know now. The man was such a pig that he asked me to go to a Foreigner concert (I'm dating myself here) the night his wife gave birth to their second kid. :puke:

[idgiehkt]

21. wow.

that utterly and completely sucks. What was the end result, I mean, did you sue him or anything?

[ScreamingMeemie]

34. One night, after he had left, I put my quote books and the office

key on my desk and never looked back. I wish I had been wiser then. I would have done something and saved some other poor kid the stress.

[Zomby Woof]

27. Damn

Not only a pig, but his music tastes suck. :puke: ;-) :hi: Granny!

[ScreamingMeemie]

35. ...

It's a good thing...I might have gone for "Cheap Trick"... I kid...He was disgusting. :hi:

[Arugula Latte]

32. MrsGrumpy -- Why were you "Cold as Ice" to that man?

;)

Just kidding...What a pig!

[Zomby Woof]

33. I am sure he told her it was

Urgent, urgent, emergency, URGENT!

[Arugula Latte]

40. Maybe he told her, "Mrs. Grumpy, I've been Waiting For a Girl Like You

and I Want to Know What Love Is. Please don't play Head Games with me."

[hfojvt]

43. I thought he was hot blooded

check it and see. Or maybe just a dirty white boy.

[datasuspect]

8. hey honey

you shore are purty.

you look all tense and stuff. i learned the art of massage in the navy back in the war.

[idgiehkt]

11. sorry, I didn't know you were on DU

:rofl:

[wildhorses]

10. idgie...

:wtf: you kick that mofo in the spaceballs...be sure and wear you're pointy toed cowboy boots tonite!!

[graywarrior]

13. Look disgusting.

Wear mayonaisse in your hair...like Something about Susan.

[idgiehkt]

16. well, the last time I was around him he had just had eye

surgery and couldn't really see that well; he was totally high from painkillers and kept on saying 'you shore are a purty woman' and crap like that. I have put up with so much crap at this place; the office manager's dad used to come in and hassle me all the time until he asked me if I would cook for him that night and I told him yes but only because it would be an opportunity to poison him. Unfortunately I said it right in front of the office manager, and I don't think she's ever forgiven me (she's my boss, btw). Then there's the time one of the drivers tried to choke me...

:rofl:

I'm cracking myself up. It's too fucked up to be true, but it is...

[MrCoffee]

17. if you're in Texas, I'll totally represent you.

if not, you have to find an attorney. this is one fucked-up work situation.

[idgiehkt]

20. thanks

that is very kind of you. I can deal with it once in a while, I just kind of dread it. I work by myself 99% of the time but once in a blue moon I have to train with him. Honestly it would totally suck for everyone involved if something happened to this man because he's the best supervisor they have (it's a building maintenance company). I mean, things would go to hell really quick. I think they've probably had scores of complaints about him and they never did anything about it because he's so good or they think he is. It's just going to be a couple of hours, and then it will be over and I won't see him for another year or so (crosses fingers).

[MrCoffee]

22. sigh...i wish you the best of luck then.

kick him in the balls for me.

[alarimer]

37. He needs to get fired

He is by definition not a good supervisor. The only way these pigs learn is if you hit them where it hurts. You do not, under any circumstances, have to put up with this shit. Honestly, the only reason they get away with it is because their victims do not fight back. They'll say just what you have said. He'll keep molesting people until and unless someone does something. Shooting is too good for him.

[graywarrior]

19. OMG, you are too fucking funny.....and such a purdy little thing.

[buddhamama]

14. have you complained?

his behavior is illegal. I am sorry. Tell him you have at least 10,000 friends who would kick his sorry ass if he comes within an inch of you. :hug:

[idgiehkt]

18. thanks

I'll go before he does. I've only complained once about something that happened there, and that was a year after it happened, when one of the drivers kind of assaulted me. At the time I told my boss and she said 'oh honey, he didn't mean it, he just doesn't know his own strength'...this is the backwoods south so they are behind.

In any event, I really need this job, it's only part-time but it's the only steady work I've had in three years. If I raised a stink about this stuff that only happens every once in a while I'd probably lose it as a reference which I can't afford since it's a huge block of time.

[NewWaveChick1981]

15. Geez, idg, that's horrible...

:( :hug: I agree with a lot of other posters---that's sexual harrassment, as you well know. I hope to hell there's something you can do about it. Nobody should ever have to put up with crap like that. :hug:

[ThomCat]

23. That is horrible,

that you have to put up with sexual harassment like that. I wish you had someplace you could go, a better job lined up. I hope you are at least documenting what is happening. If things get out of hand, even though you don't want to complain, you might end up needing to. Some documentation of what happened and when will come in very handy.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

24. I've actually hung out at the local strip club...

However, half of it is a rock club and they get decent bands playing. On the other side, it's a "Gentleman's Club."

But yeah, I've worked with both a Mr. Creepy and a Mrs. Creepy. I'm not sure which one was worse.

[idgiehkt]

25. wow.

I have never experienced a Mrs. Creepy. I might get into trouble with that at this point, lol.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

26. Trust me. Not with her...

She looked like a mini-version of Mimi from the Drew Carey Show. She used to try to give me erotica books and everything. Eventually, she quit (the day before she was going to be fired), but of course, she ended up being a rep for a makeup line we carried. However, once I was only subjected to her monthly, it was fun to fuck with her head. I was manager of the grocery dept, but when she was in, I used to walk down the body care aisle carrying really heavy boxes every five minutes, especially if she was talking to a customer directly. She used to drop stuff and forget what she was saying when I walked by. She eventually got fired from that company though for *surprise, surprise* sexually harassing her female boss.

[idgiehkt]

28. she harassed her BOSS?

how f*cking stupid can you be? Well, glad she's not messing with you anymore, anyway.

[mdmc]

29. working under sexual harrassment sucks

hang in there.... I would talk to my boss...

[idgiehkt]

30. in this case they just don't get it.

the way her Dad used to talk to me all the time...I mean I used to run to the back when I saw him drive up; that was totally sexual harassment the way he would go on (when I used to be a delivery driver for them as was in the office every day). He did it right in front of her all the time and she never batted an eye. I mean, how can you say to your boss, 'um excuse me, but your Dad is sexually harassing me'? It's just so weird, that's why I had to be so brutal with him, which worked but it pissed her off.

Gotta go, my hour of doom is nigh. Sigh...

[mdmc]

31. my thought are with you

I just off of an overnight shift myself.
peace and low stress

[tinfoil tiaras]

36. Ugh

sue his ass for workplace harrasment. Freaking perv. :grr:

[Midlodemocrat]

38. Oh, no. I hope things are okay for you, sweetie.

You are such a doll, I think it sucks that you have to deal with that shit.

[idgiehkt]

39. I'm back

he was kind of touchy-feely as usual but he didn't grab anything important. Thanks (to everyone) for all the good vibes. Luckily we weren't working tonight, which I didn't know beforehand so it was only a few hours of training. Hopefully it will be another year before I have to work with him again.

On a side note, I found out someone stole all the catalytic converters off the delivery trucks last week. It was all I could do to keep from cracking up about it in front of him and when I got home I laughed until I cried.

:rofl:

[gardenista]

41. "kind of touchy-feely" can be a prelude to something much worse.

You've gotten some good advice here.

Hope you take it.

This could get really out of control really fast if he keeps getting the idea you're willing to put up with this bullshit. Which it sounds like he has that idea.

There are laws in place to protect you from him, while preserving your position at your job. Please don't let him treat you like this.

Peace

:hug:

[idgiehkt]

42. thanks

it's over and done, I won't work with him for another year or so if ever. Someone who works with him more frequently would have to be the one to do it...I'm barely hanging on to my ass financially and I don't want to fuck with my job over someone putting their hand on my waist or my knee or my shoulder. It just gives me the creeps...as long as he stays away from the high-dollar areas I just get through it.

[mdmc]

44. how did it go last night?