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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:09 PM
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handshakes
is anyone else here bothered by weak handshakes?

i'm in a business that entails a lot of handshakes and i'm appalled by the weak handshakes i encounter, including from our ex-air force mayor

i have a hard time trusting anyone who can't shake my hand

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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:13 PM
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1. It drives me bonkers...I form an immediate, distasteful impression.
I shake hands with people on a daily basis as part of my job. I hate when people over you just their fingertips in a weak, halfhearted way.
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fizzgig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:16 PM
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2. ok, so i'm not the only one
i want to scream "shake my hand, dammit!!"
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:29 PM
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10. Me too...
:grr: Have no fear if we should ever meet. :hi:
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RevolutionaryActs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:17 PM
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4. I feel bad when people do that, because I end up crushing their hand
Ooops. :o
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:29 PM
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11. I fear I do that too... Like I'm trying to force some sort of equal and
proper reaction out of them. :D
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:16 PM
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3. I always grasp firmly and look the person in the eye...
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:22 PM
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5. Yes, but before that . . .
I don't feel real comfortable about touching strangers' hands. Like, they have scratched their faces and noses, touched door handles, scratched their asses, pet their dogs, and stuff like that.

In the course of business, I do shake hands but I wash my hands first chance I get.

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HarukaTheTrophyWife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:24 PM
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6. Unless, they have some sort of physical problem...
a weak handshake just says "LOSER" to me.
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:24 PM
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7. I have to shake hands quite a bit too, and weak handshakes
bother me. Now, I don't want my hand crushed or anything, but come on, folks, at least have a firm grip.
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:25 PM
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8. Personally, I'd rather bow than shake hands.
But in a situation where a handshake is expected, I do so firmly; I'm not a big fan of handshakes, but it's not pleasant to have someone's hand feel like something limp and dead when you're shaking it, either.
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wildhorses Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:25 PM
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9. there is something about a handshake and good eye contact
but maybe it is an American thing :shrug:
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Spider Jerusalem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:34 PM
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13. It's definitely an American thing;
in Japan, for instance, direct and prolonged eye contact is seen as rude and disrespectful. And shaking hands isn't done, either.
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zonkers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 11:32 PM
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12. Conversely, I hate when someone gives me the "I read a self help book
on how to get the psychological edge in business so I will now squeeze the shit out of your hand while simutaneously turning our handshake so my hand is on top and yours is on bottom alpha male" handshake.

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Broken_Hero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-21-06 12:06 AM
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14. no, I don't....
in some cultures if you have a strong handshake its considered, trying to prove dominance over the other...
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Floogeldy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-21-06 12:09 AM
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15. Like arm wrestling.
:0
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Broken_Hero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-21-06 12:10 AM
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16. yeah...:) nt
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-21-06 12:13 AM
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17. I always grip the person's whole hand, if they let me........
Some people only give you their fingertips.......

I like a firm grip above all else........
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