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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:29 PM
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Thanks. You did it!
Thanks for the good vibes over the past several days of my trial. The jury ruled that both drivers were at fault and the insurance company finally offered us a settlement. It's over.

We had the choice to go on and seek a jury award for damages, which would most likely been far in excess of the amount for which the defendants were insured. However, I did not want to take anyone's personal money. The only reason we went to trial is because the insurance company had refused to settle.

When the settlement was offered after the verdict this afternoon, my lawyer and I stepped out to discuss it. When we went back inside and my lawyer announced that I was taking the settlement because I understood that a further award would be paid from the defendants' personal assets and I did not want to do that to them, the parents of the girl who hit me started crying. The mother came over and thanked me. It was very humbling to be thanked by someone you'd taken to court. I told her I was sorry I had to put her through all this. She said she understood. At the very close o the proceedings we were holding hands.

I am so grateful that I will never have to testify about this again and I can let the details fade.

And I am so grateful for your support through all of this.

Thanks Lounge Pals!
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1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:34 PM
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1. Good for you
The right thing to do triumphs over greed. If only the country will follow.

Congratulations. I'm glad this is over for you.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:36 PM
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3. Thanks so much.
:toast:

Baby needs a bath--I'll be back.
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Haole Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:36 PM
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2. Wow
Great post. Great story. If only more people had your compassion...the world would be a better place! :hug:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 06:48 PM
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7. That's so sweet of you to say.
I feel bad for the girl's parents. They were terrified. I never intended to take their money--but we couldn't tell anyone that or we'd have no leverage.

Really, it's their insurance company that put them through hell. (And their daughter--I can still hear her screaming and crying that her favorite shirt was ruined in the emergency room while they were trying to find my baby's heartbeat--but now is the time to put the details behind me.)

Thanks so much again.
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In_The_Wind Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:41 PM
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4. You can finally put all of the details out of your mind and heal.

I'm glad it's over! :loveya:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 06:49 PM
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8. Thank you.
It's nice not to feel I have to go over it and over it. I can just let it all float off.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:45 PM
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5. That's awesome. I hope the settlement was enough.
:)
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 06:53 PM
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10. It will make a couple important things much easier.
It's not tons of money--just what they were insured for. But now I feel that everyone who contributed has owned their responsibility, and the money, while it won't change our lives, will take the edge off certain life decisions. I'd rather have it than not have it.

:)

Thanks.

:hi:
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Bossy Monkey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 03:54 PM
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6. Yaaaaaaay! So happy for you Rene!
:bounce: :party: :hug: :allthatotherstuff:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 06:54 PM
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11. Woo-Hoo!
Thank You!

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GOPisEvil Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 06:50 PM
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9. I'm glad you can start the process of putting this behind you.
I also hope that you will soon realize the karmic benefit of not being greedy and vindictive.

:hug:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 07:00 PM
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12. Me too.
Thanks so much. Even aside from the fact that I didn't want the driver to have to quit school and her family sell their home, we could have spent another week in court, I could have fallen further behind at work, and continued to re-live all the details of what happened, we could have been awarded a million dollars, and we could have spent the rest of our lives trying to collect it. It just seemed destructive from every angle.

There's really no monetary equivalent to a baby, or to being able to stand up at your own wedding. So what's the difference between $50,000, $100,000, $1,000,000 or $5,000,000? None of it equates..so why hurt people, and go through hell to do so?

:loveya:

Good to see you.
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Prisoner_Number_Six Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 07:25 PM
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15. It's obvious you're not a Republican
You have WAY too much compassion for the ones who hurt you and yours.

Congratulations for being a good person. There are far too few of you left.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 08:37 AM
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18. Thanks so much.
I still have some anger toward the girl. What makes me mad is that she knew I was trapped in the car, and she knew I was pregnant, and she never asked about me, or approached our car--she was only concerned about herself.

The other thing is that, although it was an accident--no one wanted this to happen--I think that people don't take driving seriously enough. People think that rolling stops are ok--people think that yellow means get through the intersection as fast as you can, even if you had time to stop before entering the intersection. It's not ok. Every time a person makes a decision like that, they are putting people's lives at stake. I wish people would really think about that every time they get in the car.

Thanks Again.
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greatauntoftriplets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 07:03 PM
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13. That's wonderful news, Rene....
and you were very generous in victory, considering how horrible that accident was. Damn insurance companies.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 07:10 PM
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14. Insurance companies are evil.
But I'll take their money.

:evilgrin:
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cally Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 07:34 PM
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16. I admire you so much
First you've dealt with incredible heartache with grace, then you've shown total love to your child, and now the ability to forgive. Thanks for being here.

I think you would have gained nothing by continuiing the legal fight. I've watched others fight legal battles and it hurts them. You made the right decision IMHO.
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 08:38 AM
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19. You're gonna make me cry...
...but in a good way. Thanks so much for the kind words.
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Sep-19-06 07:48 PM
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17. Oh Rene....you brought tears to my eyes.
I remember the days after your accident so vividly...My heart broke for you...And then the joy of Garrison...What happiness!! I am overjoyed! :hug: :hug: :loveya: :hug: :hug:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 08:39 AM
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20. So Sweet!
Thanks so much for being there.

:loveya:
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buddhamama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 08:44 AM
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21. Rene...
you know already... :loveya: :hug:
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 10:47 AM
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22. I sure do.
:loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya: :loveya:


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LSK Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 10:48 AM
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23. Glad it worked out for you
:)
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 11:24 AM
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24. Thanks so much. (nt)
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rbnyc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-20-06 11:24 AM
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25. Thanks so much. (nt)
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