My girlfriend dumped me.

[PittPoliSci]

yet i'm not sad.

i dated her for two years, and even now, i still feel as if i've connected to someone else.

i still have great concern for her.

i'm listening to Love's song "Alone Again Or"

normally it would make me cry. but tonight, it is just a comforting friends.

thanks for reading. i needed to vent.

[mad-mommy]

1. sorry to hear this

:hug:

[PittPoliSci]

2. it's cool

thanks! :hug:

[mdmc]

3. Hang in there

peace

[PittPoliSci]

8. hey thanks!

[flvegan]

4. Seems more a liberation than a dumping.

However, one is as the other depending on the outcome.

Trust me...

[PittPoliSci]

6. that sounds pretty accurate.

thanks! :)

[Floogeldy]

5. Were you just using her for sex?

[PittPoliSci]

7. not at all.

if i was using her for anything, it would've just been emotional comfort.

[Floogeldy]

9. Perhaps. But were you having sex with her?

[PittPoliSci]

10. not in the last few months.

her father just passed, and so i never pressed the issue.

[Floogeldy]

11. Okay.

So, you had sex with her for almost two years, but you were not using her for sex. Instead, you may have used her for emotional comfort.

You stopped pressing for sex when her father died. I assume that is because she perceived her father's soul hovering over her and watching while you two had sex. However, nonetheless.

Are you saying that you received no emotional comfort from having sex with her?

[PittPoliSci]

12. the sex was comforting.

i think you nailed it right on the head though.

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[JVS]

22. Using her for sex could be cool, see if you can still swing that!

[Broken_Hero]

13. Sorry to hear that

but maybe its for the best...

[PittPoliSci]

15. i think you're right.

thanks though anyway

[LuckyTheDog]

14. OK, this will sound snarky and maybe crass

In my experience: There are generally a lot more good, unattached women around than good, unattached men. Thus, once you get your head together, you probably will find lots of "opportunities" out there.

[PittPoliSci]

17. i'd like to think so too...

thanks for thinking of me as a good guy :)

[Ohio Joe]

23. Yikes!

Where are you? I need to move there because everywhere I've ever lived it's exactly opposite. I have a wicked hard time finding single women.

[tigereye]

16. g says to tell you that I dumped him in the past

and we are still together after 20 plus years.

That's when I was young and foolish before we were married....

:hug:

[PittPoliSci]

18. you always make me feel better

thanks so very much, i really cherish our friendship :)

[bridgit]

19. forward ~

:-)

[SeattleGirl]

21. If you aren't sad, I would venture to say that somewhere in you,

you knew this was not the right person for you. Not meaning there was anything wrong with her, just that she was not right for you.

Hope you continue feeling okay, and hope she's okay too.

[bleedingheart]

24. Sorry to hear that..

take it easy....and it is a great thing to vent...

Check the PA forum about the peace rally!

[bigwillq]

25. That stinks.

:hug:

Things happen for a reason though. Maybe it's for the best.

:hug:

[Callalily]

26. Why do people stay

in relationships when they know clearly it's not working. It's not fair to either party. Breakups are difficult, no matter what, but being honest about the relationship is always the best route to take. And that means letting go, giving the other person time to heal, time to get on with their lives.

[NewWaveChick1981]

27. I'm sorry to hear that.

:hug: When it's not working, you just know. :hug: