Question about women

[HEyHEY]

How come whenever I ask a woman a question. The answer is always, "Whatever you want." Or "What do you think."
Is it some kind of woman thing where you're diagnosing my intentions based upon what answer I give?

[JVS]

1. Asking women questions! What the hell's wrong with you?

As if you actually wanted to know their opinion! ;-)

[China_cat]

2. No, it's just that we know that you're going to ignore

anything we say.

[HEyHEY]

4. Seriously?

Cause, like honestly I don't intend to. Usually when I ask a question like that it's cause I'm completely stuck for what to do...etc...
All I want is an ANSWER.

[China_cat]

19. Seriously...for the most part. But there's

always the thing that's been drummed into us from childhood. "Try to take into account your date's financial situation. When he asks what you'd like to do, try to find out what he can comfortably afford so that he won't be embarassed by having to say no".

It's hard to get past that and say "I'd like to go to Sardi's, can you afford that? No, ok Burger King works for me". And men seem to want to try to impress by NOT saying "my budget is x, what would you like to do that won't go over that?"

Next time, try having 2 or 3 things in mind and then ask which of those 3 she'd rather do. I'll bet you get the kind of answer you want.

[HEyHEY]

22. What? Now I gotta think of THREE fucking things?!

Man O man. It never fucking ends.

[China_cat]

37. It's so hard to come with movie, dinner or amusement park?

[bumblebee1]

56. That's what my husband and I do whenever we go out for dinner.

Regardless of who's paying. If its a restaurant I want to try, I'll pay.

[ForrestGump]

13. Did you say something?

:P

[JVS]

3. Why do you think it happens?

[HEyHEY]

5. See.... you know where I'm coming from

I hate making decisions. ANd yet, I'm forced to ALL the time.

[Sugar Smack]

6. I'm a woman, ask me anything!!!

*pounds chest*:bounce:

[jpgray]

9. I'm not a fan of the chest-pounders

I'm one for the *takes off shoe and pounds it on table screaming about how she will bury me* type. :P

[Sugar Smack]

24. "Don't FUCK with me, fellas! This ain't my first time at the rodeo!"

[Deja Q]

16. Hmmm

:D

[Sugar Smack]

26. G'head! Ask me anything!

:P :P :P :P :P

[Deja Q]

27. What's your favorite movie

that you don't have on DVD?

:D

[Sugar Smack]

30. "Reversal of Fortune" I have that on tape.

:bounce: :woohoo:

[Deja Q]

33. And your favorite color?

:)

[Sugar Smack]

34. Hot purple melting into rose mixed with orange.

:D

[Deja Q]

36. You're really, REALLY great with words!

;)

Now what's your favorite food? :9

[Sugar Smack]

39. You're really great with making me blush.

:*

Okay, top ten foods!

1.Devilled eggs
2.Cold meatloaf sandwiches
3.Crab Rangoon
4.Olivieh in a pita
5.Beef chimichanga at South of the Border
6.My father's corned beef spread
7.Spanakopita at Mariakakis
8.Scrambled eggs & cream cheese on a bagel
9.Spaghetti with butter
10.Havarti alongside strawberries

[Deja Q]

40. Yummmmmm. You know your food too!

:9

How about your favorite band/music group/singer?

[Sugar Smack]

41. Hmm, I love Classical-

Boccharini, Mozart (Marriage of Figaro) is prob. the most joyous piece I've ever heard, the second movement of Beethoven's seventh symphony the most haunting. Favorite bands- Pixies, Travis, Chili Peppers, love old Sex Pistols, Morcheeba, and love Courtney!



B-) Damn, this is FUN!

[Deja Q]

43. Nice choices!!

How about your favorite TV shows and movies? (up to 5 each?)

Inquiring minds want to know! :D

[Sugar Smack]

48. TV shows-

"The Simpsons", "Seinfeld", "Bugs Bunny & Roadrunner", Book TV, and "Melrose".

Movies, top 5 are "Reversal of Fortune"
"Last Night"
"Holy Smoke"
"Fargo" and
"Fight Club"

OMG- There's an interview w/ Mary Kay Letourno on MSNBC as we speak! :wow:

[Deja Q]

50. Cool!

How about your favorite outdoors activity? (e.g. walking, people watching, eating out, at the beach, et cetera. Admittedly, I don't get out much myself... :D )

[HEyHEY]

44. Jesus wept, get a room you two

[Deja Q]

45. What should we do in the room?

:rofl:

[Sugar Smack]

47. I thought it was a perfectly proper threadjacking!

:hi: B-) :toast:

[Deja Q]

49. Likewise!

[Jamastiene]

53. Courtney, Courtney, Courtney.

You have excellent musical taste, btw. I also love Sex Pistols as well. :hi:

[Sugar Smack]

55. Did you see Sid & Nancy? *faints*

I have 2 copies of that on tape. WOW!

[Jamastiene]

57. You may be able to make some profit if you can help me find

it if is is out on DVD. My VHS copy is wearing out. I watch it about once a month in the dark. I don't know what it is about that movie, but I always get drunk and watch it in the dark and feel so serene throughout it. Chloe Webb makes a pretty good Nancy although it does feel like Courtney would have been better in some way. I like Chloe Webb a lot too. She's cool in interviews. I remember when I recorded the "talking through the movie" one off of one of the channels years ago. She was super cool. Courtney was the one in the movie who said the famous "Love Kills" line. She was so cute in there. I do wish she hadn't had her nose "fixed." I liked it better before she had it changed.

Maybe we could get together sometime and watch it. I'd enjoy having someone willing to watch it with me who actually likes it. My aunt is sick of it. She will watch, but doesn't really like to watch a movie more than once or twice. Okay, I'll admit it. I have conned her into watching it with me more than 20 times at this point in time. I can't help it though. It's a romance story with a sad ending to me. That still doesn't take away from the romance before the end though. :shrug:

[Sugar Smack]

59. "I watch it about once a month in the dark"

Come here & watch it WITH me. We'll have steak & beer, OK?

[Jamastiene]

60. That'd be great.

I'll have steak and Dr Pepper and vodka, if that's ok? :pals:

[NewWaveChick1981]

7. Speaking only for myself, the only time I ever answer like that is when

I know someone (i.e. my husband) has made up his mind already and is just asking me to be polite or so he can say later, "I DID ask you, after all." In most situations, that kind of answer is a deferral to your wants/needs/etc. It comes from someone who wants to do something different but doesn't think she can. Most of the time, it's so she won't piss you off and/or drive you away. I've known women who answer like that all the time and then are unhappy with the result. They only have themselves to blame.

If someone asks me a question otherwise, I answer it without evasive answers like that>

[Quantess]

17. Great post! So true!

Even the sweetest guys sometimes ask what you think, then go ahead and do what they wanted anyway.

[NewWaveChick1981]

21. Thanks, quantessd!

:hi: I've known my husband for a very long time, and I know how his mind works. And you're right---even the sweetest guys do that.

[jpgray]

8. Yeah, as the guy the role of "decider" is usually forced upon you

All girls I've dated (and even many who are just friends) have more often than not depended on me to figure out what we're doing, where we're going, etc. It's irritating. The few who like to boss me around I love to death. :D

[Sugar Smack]

10. Siddown.

Shaddup. :loveya:

[jpgray]

23. That I can usually do

:D

[HEyHEY]

11. Yeah, like I think I only know one girl who bosses me around

Maybe two.
It's funny how when it all comes down both men and women HATE making decisions.

[jpgray]

15. I think it's a matter of aiming to please, and not wanting any blame

That's why after one's say has been ceded, a person will still say "fuck that idea" (not in so many words, unfortunately) if he/she isn't hip to what the decider decides.

[Radical Activist]

25. Exactly.

There are several other good answers on this thread, but for *some* women its a matter of expecting men to "take charge" and make decisions. As someone who doesn't enjoy bossing others around in general its annoying when a woman I'm dating expects me to engage in bossy behavior that is essentially chauvinistic.

[Jamastiene]

12. You'll never hear me say either of those things.

I'll tell YOU what we are going to do and there will be no questions on your part. :evilgrin:

[HEyHEY]

14. See, that wouldn't bug me

Not that me making the decisions always bugs me... but sometimes it's nice not having to think .

[Jamastiene]

29. I knew it. You really don't know the answers, do you?

Don't worry, honey. :pals: I'll make the decisions for you and you can just do as I say. :evilgrin:

[Sugar Smack]

42. You're on fire today, Jama!

:yourock: :pals:

[Jamastiene]

51. Jama giggles nervously and

takes a modest bow. This is what happens when I don't get good sleep. I turn into a dominatrix with a sense of humor. :evilgrin: :pals:

[Sugar Smack]

52. Also, your :evilgrin: is more convincing than most

:evilgrins: today! :D

[idgiehkt]

54. LOL

chuckle, chuckle.

I don't have a problem figuring out women, but men...wtf. Aren't men supposed to be simpler?

[Jamastiene]

58. Just think in terms of the basics with men.

With most of them, there is really nothing fancy about their wants and needs. Some of them, though, can be a little tricky. I must admit that.

[pink-o]

18. Well, I'm very old now....

...heading (like a snowball rolling down the hill to hell) towards my 52nd b'day, so if you asked me my honest opinion, you'd probably hear a lot more than you bargained for.

But even in these post-feminist days, young women have been somewhat brainwashed into keeping their ideas to themselves and deferring to men. It's like putting a chick on the spot when you ask her what she wants to do--she may really not know or care because society has taught her to put her needs second to yours. It's real easy to do, because women are wired with all these maternal instincts that allow their brains to sacrifice their own desires for those of the people who need her.

It's behaviour that takes a few decades to get over. But once we do---oh, Nelly, watch out!!!!

[HEyHEY]

20. Well, I wish it was now

Cause I only have so many freakin' ideas.

[Radical Activist]

32. It does seem to me

that most women are taught to be passive, just as you are saying. It gets on my nerves. This is making me realize another reason why I like dating women who are politically active because they are more likely to feel personally empowered and assertive. I respect that. Although, I'm sometimes surprised that even feminist, politically empowered women are often like what you describe in this post.

[mad-mommy]

28. whenever we venture out to eat...

where do you want to go? I don't care, where do you want to go? I don't care. This goes on for a bit, followed by one of us making a suggestion, and the other not liking it.

[jpgray]

31. I -hate- that stupid dance so much

It just feels like neither wants to piss off the other and/or take responsibility for making the decision, yet each has an idea of what he/she wants anyway. Blech.

[hfojvt]

38. this happened several times when I was a kid

Mom asks dad "what do you want for dinner?" He says "just make anything" and I would think the same thing. Then she would make, say stroganoff, and I would think to myself "okay, make anything but stroganoff". It sorta would not matter what she made - it would suddenly be something I did not want. Of course, I never did like stroganoff and probably would always be okay with hamburger helper, since it is 34% sugar, or was.

[MissMillie]

35. I will only say that whenever I don't have an opinion

which is not very often.

[TimeChaser]

46. For myself, I only give those answers when it really doesn't matter to me

If I have my heart set on going somewhere or eating at a certain place, I'll tell him. But if it really doesn't matter to me, I'll let him choose :shrug:

[Left Is Write]

61. I don't know. What do you think?

;)