Need guys perspective

[SCDem]

I've been flirting with the manager of this book/coffee shop I go to frequently for well over a year now. The other day I think I may have missed a moment because when I was purchasing a book and I gave him my phone number to access my membership, I could have sworn he said "You know I should call you sometime." And because I am slow to get things and I had my son in tow and a line was forming behind me I did not respond "You should." If it were a movie that's what I would have done and then it would have been in his court and that's that. But I didn't realize what he had said until like 5 minutes I had left the store and even then maybe I just imagined that he said that and maybe I didn't. But would it be too forward of me to say this same thing that I'm saying to y'all right now and then say "in any case if you didn't remember my number it is XXX-XXXX".

It sounds so bold and forward and what if I didn't hear him right? I have enough guts to maybe leave him a note but that seems so childish. Anyway I need a guy's perspective on this.

[commander bunnypants]

1. go for it

guys love stuff like that

CB

[Blue-Jay]

2. Just go back and ask him out.

As a guy, I'd dig that.

[Zavulon]

3. Guys like bold, but if you're shy and this guy is important to you,

get yourself a throwaway cell and give him that number, under the guide of a changed number that you wanted to make sure he had. Smile at him when you tell him about your recently changed number. If the guy is interested and has the stones to ask a girl out at all, this should do the trick.

[SCDem]

7. Thanks for this idea

I don't know if I'm shy and this guy is just a guy I guess but whenever I think of taking this step my cheeks get all red just thinking of me making such a bold move.

[Zavulon]

12. That's why I think the idea is good. If it doesn't work, it doesn't

cost much. You being all red in the cheeks will either make things awkward OR give him the impression that you're completely ga-ga over him. Even if you are, you don't want to go trumpeting that around yet - make him carry his half of the relationship. :)

Good luck, and let us know how it turns out.

[Misunderestimator]

4. Not a guy... but I think you should just forget that he might have asked..

for your number and just say something like "Hey, would you like to go to lunch with us sometime?"

[Blue-Jay]

5. "Us"? Does she have a mouse in her pocket?

[Misunderestimator]

6. Are you calling her child a mouse?

:P

[Blue-Jay]

8. No, but the first date should be just two.

Bring the kid along later. You need to see how it works out without distractions first.

[Misunderestimator]

13. Well, yeah... I was just putting it into the perspective of "if" she had..

her son with her. :)

But you're right... should I go edit my post now? :P

[SCDem]

9. He is small

but not that small!

Well this weekend I am sans son so maybe I'll have the guts to make such a bold move. But then there are a bunch of young college something kids that work there and I just don't want them in ear shot of me making a potential fool of myself.

[Blue-Jay]

10. If he says no, ask one of the college kids out.

"and here's to you, Mrs Robinson...."

[SCDem]

14. Thanks for making me laugh

I just really enjoy going to this bookstore because my son can play and I can read - and if I screw up I think I will be more sad that I would have to vacate my favorite most utilitarian bookstore than I would be that I made a fool of myself.

[MrCoffee]

11. This happened to me!

I was working in a bookstore, and this girl came to my register. I sold her the book, she left, and came right back and asked me out. I agreed, because it was incredibly flattering and I thought it was pretty cool of her to do it.

She turned out to be insane, but hey, if you're not completely loony, I say go for it.

[Kickoutthejams23]

15. I love that

:rofl:

As for the topic at large. Go ahead and ask him for lunch. Guys really do like that.

[taterguy]

16. It will be very tricky

I worked at a copy shop and was attracted to lots of customers but never dreamed of flirting with them because I didn't want to lose my job. I did end up going out with one but only because we started running into each other outside the work place and starting conversations. That would be your best bet.

Or you could ask him for advice about something like hiking places or bike trails and suggest he show them to you.

Good luck

[khashka]

17. A guy's view

Rule one: all men are cowards.

I mean, hold a gun to my head and I'll be brave and cool and probably have a great one-liner. Ask me to ask a girl if she might wanna go get a cup of coffee and I'm scared to death.


So let's review... there's this guy. You kinda like him. You think you'd like him to like you too. Sounds great... but you don't wanna be bold and forward. Why not? What's so wrong with being "bold and forward"? Give it a shot, you might like the results :)



Khash.

[NewJeffCT]

18. I second your post

I remember years back, I practically had an attractive woman giving me a lap dance... yet, I still couldn't pull the trigger and even ask her to dance.

When I was in college, a girl I liked a lot pulled her shirt up in front of me (and she had no bra on), and I didn't make a move on her because I thought she was drunk and didn't want to take advantage of her. Later turned out that she liked me & had a few drinks to get up the nerve to ask me out.

[dpbrown]

19. So...just go up and pull your shirt up in front of him!

That seems to work.

:rofl:

[NewJeffCT]

20. I wasn't voted...

shyest in my class in both Junior High & High School for nothing.

The young lady probably would have had to tackle me & rip my clothes off for me to start to get the hint.

[Radical Activist]

21. "Weren't you going to call me?"

Its an invitation without sounding desperate.

[ThomCat]

22. Every woman I've ever dated asked me out.

(Half of the men too. So I guess I'm approachable.)

I loved being asked out. He may love it too. Go ahead and risk being a bit bold. :)

[Joey Liberal]

23. Just go for it

He's probably wishing he'd been more forward with you.

[BreweryYardRat]

24. No. Go ask.

[stlsaxman]

25. Do it! Have fun with it...

Sounds like you've given it a bit of thought. All he can say is no- and it sounds highly doubtful that he would say no...

"You know I should call you sometime." ... You go!

My fiancee asked me via e-mail (she got my address from my brother!) to go see a movie. The movie didn't happen, but that night led to our first kiss and- POW! Now we're getting married on the anniversary of that kiss- 3.10.7... Life is miraculous that way.

Enjoy!

[cobalt1999]

26. A girl asked me out once.

She's my wife now. Men love it, it's extremely flattering and as a guy you feel like you better be a damn good date after that.