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And I've certainly done it.
But I've also posted, on bulletin boards, cut-and-paste or otherwise modified artwork featuring the object of my ire (this was in the days before Photoshop) and indulged in various creative acts of subversion. As time went on, I tended to take more positive action in response to the unwarranted onslaughts of the piggies: for example, going over the heads of middle-management types and making the head honchos love me and give me carte blanche in doing what I needed to do; literally blitzkrieging a hateful and uncooperative dissertation committee who was out to crucify me in my university and in the larger academic community, gathering the necessary materials and taking the person by such surprise when I stormed in theior office that they complied with my wishes and did what they should have done in the first place; and fighting hard, in front of a (awful...but I was stuck with her) colleague who was trying to steal my project ideas during a meeting with our big kahuna, makign it clear that not only were they ideas I originated but that she was trying shamelessly to steal them. In other words, as time went on and my patience wore more thin and my confidence increased, I began to move from covert acts of subversion and revenge (always enjoyed very much by my peers, because the people who hassled me usually rode roughshod over everyone and, indeed, in almost all cases I was the favorite son who got the least of their negative behavior and got away with the most liberties) to direct confrontation, albeit in self-defense.
No, turnign the other cheek is not always the answer. But holding on to things can be even worse -- pick your battles, and don't let yourself hold on to bad energy if you can help it...give it back to the f***ers, if you need to, and then move on.
I am not inclined to turn the other cheek, in many ways, and I do admit -- some I have known have seen this as a character fault, but to hell with their opinions -- holding what might be called 'grudges.' But I don't let these pseudo-grudges be toxic to me because I can mentally put vendettas on the backburner for decades, if I need to, and just await the opportunity if it ever arises (it looks like I've let go and forgotten, if not forgiven, but I haven't...I just don't dwell long on the negativity because that stuff truly will poison you). If the opportunity never comes up, I've basically let go of the issue by then, anyway. But if I get the ideal chance, I'll go for a little payback just on principle. And it's more effective when the evildoers see it as coming from out of the clear blue sky, long after they'd forgotten the trangressions that inspired retribution. :-)
But revenge, payback, and all of that is dangerous for us...it can, quite literally, be toxic to an extreme. And it can ruin your life if you don't deal with it right. Similarly, 'moving on' can be, as you say, no more than sweeping things under a carpet, and that, too, can be detrimental. Either way, we too often set ourselves up to be haunted later by deeds and thoughts of yesterday.
As for what I think of humanity, my opinion was never high to think of. Quite the contrary. By which I mean that I'm recently re-evaluating my ideas on that and am deciding that perhaps most people are inherently good, most of the time, but that we are all capable of great 'evil' (for want of a better, less loaded word) and that -- certainly -- humankind, as a species, is not beneficial to this planet or to our fellow astronauts, ourselves included.
And I hate bullies. Always have. Was never a victim, but stood up for those who were. Nope -- you got me wrong on that one: I'd teach the victim of a bully to take care of himself or herself or, if the context was right, go in myself and teach the bully a lesson either with brute force or with more subtle and nonviolent ways of defanging the f***er.
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