porn as a last resort (ex-girlfriend question)

[idgiehkt]

Am I being played? I have been trying to get my ex to respond to my e-mails for about three weeks now, she's sent me one piece of spam and a couple e-mails saying "I'll write later on today" and she never does

Last nite I found this really hot video of some spicy "L-word" scenes on youtube (not even porn, really) and sent it to her and wham, I just got this e-mail saying "that video is HOT", yada, yada, yada, whatever, followed by "I'll write you back later on today" (again). It kind of floored me how quick her response was to it, because I was about ready to start looking for her in the obits. What does this mean? I found the video searching for Heather Nova songs because we are both fans; but I guess I wanted to see if I could get a reaction and I got one. She's technically still with her girlfriend but apparently things are rocky and she's getting ready to move into an apartment (or is she). She contacted ME first, about three weeks ago, and got me all stirred up, and now I can't seem to get a response from her without including half-nekkid girls in my e-mail. What is up with this? (I don't think this is a sex thread, is it? She lives ten hours away, so there is no sex happening...)

Any feedback would be appreciated. I'm just sitting here confused.

[mtowngman]

1. Maybe there's something in the yada, yada part

I mean does it sound like she's a friend sharing thoughts about a hot video or does it get more personal. She may just want to be friends, especially in light of the 10 hours away thing.

[idgiehkt]

2. She started it.

That's what makes me so mad. We hadn't had any contact for a while...then she calls me up with this 'I adore you, I've never gotten over you' crap, and then we spent 3 hours talking on the phone, and now it's just weird. I hate this. She did this on the one year anniversary of 9/11, too. Called me up with "I've never gotten over you and I'm sorry I screwed up our relationship, 9/11 anniv. made me think about you, etc". But then she started acting like her old self (she's hot and she's a flirt and she doesn't have to work hard to get attention, so she kind of acts spoiled) so I hung up on her, that time. This is driving me nuts.

[wildhorses]

3. forget her...plentyoffish.com

and all that jazz...

[taterguy]

accept her as a porn buddy

Sounds to me like she only responds to you when you provide somethng she wants and doesn't reciprocate. Some people are like that. She might have some redeeming qualities; if those are enough to justify continuing the friendship then do it, just don't expect too much.

[mtowngman]

4. Your question was "Am I being played?"

I guess if she's a flirt and acts spoiled and considering how she's acting with you now, IMHO the answer to your question is yes, I think you are being played, I know that's not what you're hoping to hear. One thing about communicating via e-mail, you really don't know what's going on at the other end.

[idgiehkt]

5. it's sinking in.

I just went and kicked rocks up and down my driveway.

I'm listening to Boy George singing "don't want no more/of the crying game" right now and that's how I am feeling.

I just don't understand why she had to start this crap with me again if she didn't mean it....ARRGGHH!!

[mtowngman]

6. It sucks. n/t

[Deep13]

7. Why are you trying to contact her?

Is there some practical matter you need to solve? Maybe getting your CDs back or whatever? Otherwise, I'm not sure what your question is.

[idgiehkt]

8. because i guess I'm not over her.

And she called me and said she'd not gotten over me. But I guess something happened in the space of these three weeks to change that. She could have just left me alone. Sigh. I probably shouldn't have started this thread, even.

[Deep13]

9. He have to decide what is best rather than letting your ...

...emotions decide for you. Examine the reasons you broke up. If you were incompatable then, you still are. If not, then I don't know what. If you get back together, whoever is the dumpee might be in an inferior position in the relationship.

[idgiehkt]

10. I walked out.

First I left the state, and then we kind of reconciled and had a long distance relationship. But that got old because I was working 3rd shift and was really tired all the time and was driving back to SC to see her and kept almost having wrecks and being late for work and stuff all the time.

I wish I could just have an operation, like a lobotomy or something, and have her taken out of my brain.